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Dealing with Depression
by Mark Schwartz
Nearly all of us feel a little blue or a little down every now and then.
Maybe we've had a bad day at work. Maybe we've had a disagreement with a friend
or a loved one. Maybe we just woke up on the wrong side of bed. It happens.
Occasional temporary feelings of sadness are a natural part of life. However
if you frequently feel this way, or if the feelings are excessive, you may be suffering
from depression.
According to the NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), approximately
9.5 % of the population or nearly 19 million adults in the U.S suffer from some
form of depression.
Depression can be devastating. It can destroy your family life, ruin your
friendships and personal relationships and dramatically reduce your ability to
think, reason and function. Left untreated, depression can rob you of any
glimmer of hope or happiness. It may prevent any chance of you leading a rich,
full life. Yet it doesn't have to be this way. Depression is treatable!
Many people suffer needlessly from depression. They go through life battling,
oftentimes severe, depression on their own without ever seeking help. Some
people suffer for months or even years at a time without seeking help. They are
afraid that asking for help or even admitting to their friends or loved ones
that they are depressed would somehow make them less of a person. Unfortunately,
their biggest obstacle in getting help may be their own attitude towards their
affliction.
Some people, particularly men, try to mask or escape from their depression
through the abuse of drugs or alcohol. Ironically though, their substance abuse
only makes things worse. In fact, with continued use their substance abuse will
quickly become a contributing factor in their depression.
Clinical depression is not a character flaw or a sign of weakness or failure.
It's not something that you can just shake off or snap out of either. It's a
medical condition and should be treated just like any other medical condition.
Unfortunately, some people aren't even aware of the fact that depression is a
treatable illness.
The great majority of people who suffer from depression, even severe
depression, can be helped. In fact, the vast majority of people who seek
treatment for depression often feel better in only a few weeks. Typically,
treatment of depression leads to a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life.
If you think that you (or a loved one) may be suffering from depression,
don't let the thought of medication discourage you from seeking treatment. Many
times depression can be treated without the use of medication. However if your
doctor feels that you would benefit from medication, he or she may prescribe an
antidepressant. Taking medication for the treatment of depression is really no
different than taking medication for high blood pressure, diabetes or
indigestion.
There is no shame or stigma associated with seeking professional help for
depression. The only shame is in allowing yourself (or a loved one) to suffer
needlessly without getting help.
Depression knows no social, racial or economic boundaries. In fact, many
famous people from all walks of life have publicly acknowledged their struggles
with depression. Not because they are looking for sympathy, but rather because
they hope to inspire and encourage others who suffer from depression with their
stories of triumph. On the Internet, there are numerous web sites that list the
names of famous people (i.e., sports figures, politicians, musicians, actors,
etc.) that have openly acknowledged their experiences with depression. (To find
one of these sites, simply do a web search using the keywords "Depression",
"Famous" and "People".)
CAUSES OF DEPRESSION
In some people, depression is triggered by a combination of factors (i.e.,
stress, money problems, marital problems, job situation, etc.). In others a
single factor, such as the loss of a loved one or a divorce, can trigger
depression. Depression tends to run in families. If one or both of your parents
suffered from depression (diagnosed or undiagnosed) you are at a higher risk of
being afflicted with it as well.
Certain personalities seem to be more vulnerable to depression than others.
For example, people with a low self-esteem and people who are very dependent on
others seem to be more vulnerable to depression.
SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION
There are a variety of symptoms associated with depression. Not everyone who
suffers from depression experiences every symptom. Some people may experience
only a few symptoms, while others may experience many. The severity of the
symptoms varies with individuals and may also vary over time. In general though,
if you experience four or more of any of the symptoms for two weeks or more, you
should seek professional help.
IMPORTANT:
If you or someone you know are experiencing severe feelings of depression, or
are even remotely considering suicide, you should seek professional help
immediately!
• Persistent sad, anxious or empty mood
• Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
• Feelings of guilt, worthlessness or helplessness
• Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once
enjoyed, including sex
• Decreased energy, fatigue, being slowed down
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions.
• Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
• Loss of appetite and/or weight loss
• Overeating and/or excessive weight gain
• Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
• Irritability, restlessness or excessive crying
• Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment such as
headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain.
GETTING HELP
The specific resources available to you to help fight depression may vary
somewhat depending on where you live. If unsure where to go for help, check your
local Yellow Pages under "mental health", "health", "social services", "suicide
prevention", "crisis intervention service", "hotlines", "hospitals, or
"physicians" for phone numbers and address. In times of crisis, the emergency
room physician at your local hospital may be able to provide help for an
emotional problem and will be able to tell you where and how to get additional
help.
In general though, you can usually get help or referrals from any one or more
of the following sources:
• Physicians (i.e., Family Doctors)
• Mental health specialists, such as psychiatrists, psychologists, social
workers or mental health counselors
• Employee Assistance Programs (EAP's)
• HMOs (Health Maintenance Organizations
• Community mental health centers
• Hospital psychiatry departments and outpatient clinics
• University or medical school affiliated programs
• State hospital outpatient agencies
• Local Clergy
• Private clinics and facilities
• Local medical and / or psychiatric societies
IMPORTANT:
When looking for help in overcoming depression, keep in mind that where you
get the help from is not nearly as important as just getting it!
HELPING YOURSELF HEAL
In addition to seeking professional help, there are certain things that you
can do on your own that may help. Some of these things are listed below:
• Set realistic goals for yourself in light of the depression. Don't set
yourself up for failure by setting unrealistic or unattainable goals.
• Break large tasks into smaller ones, set some priorities and do what you
can as you can. Divide and conquer.
• Try to get out and spend time with other people; it's usually better than
being alone.
• Try to confide in someone; it's usually better than keeping it all bottled
up inside or being secretive.
• Participate in activities that you enjoy or that may make you feel better.
• Mild exercise, going to the movies or ballgame, participation in social,
religious or other activities may help.
• Expect your mood to improve gradually, not immediately. Feeling better
takes time.
• If possible, postpone important decisions until the depression is lifted
and you're more likely to be objective in making those decisions.
• Resist the urge to abuse drugs or alcohol in an attempt to escape from
depression. Substance abuse will only compound your problems and delay your
recovery.
• Don't expect to simply "snap out of it". Overcoming depression may take
some time. Rather take it one day at a time.
• Let your family and friends help you.
This
article was excerpted from A Better Life Ahead, ©2003, by Mark Schwartz.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher, NYTEXT Publishing Co. LLC.
www.NYTEXT.com
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About the Author
Mark Schwartz is a successful author and software engineer residing in a
beautiful rural area of upstate New York. Mark has authored numerous software
applications and technical documents for fortune 500 companies from New York to
California. Mark was motivated to write "A Better Life Ahead" largely as a
result of his brother's suicide. Mark hopes his book will motivate and encourage
others to take control and improve their lives before they reach the same point
of hopelessness and desperation that his brother did just prior to his demise.
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