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Surrender
To Love
by
Sanaya Roman
To
surrender to love, you will need to pay
attention to any of your own emotions, moods,
or thoughts that might lead you to act in less
than loving ways. You may need to surrender
pride, a sense of self-importance, or the need
to have your way, to feel superior to, or to
have power over others. You will want to let
go of those emotions that make you feel less
than, inferior, or doubtful of your worth. You
will want to train yourself to think about
others in positive ways, even if you feel they
have hurt you. You will want to bring about
harmonious conditions through your speech,
actions, and thoughts.
Discover
any reactions to others that may contain even
the slightest desire to hurt them. Watch your
moods and feelings so you can still be loving
to others even when you are experiencing
negative emotions yourself. Surrender to love,
and respond to those around you with kindness.
Recall several times when you have done this,
and how good you felt about yourself
afterward.
When
you feel others have hurt you, you may be
tempted to hurt them in return. At first you
may want others to feel the pain you feel when
they have attacked, criticized, not valued,
rejected, misunderstood, or disappointed you.
When you feel hurt by others you may want to
react with anger, withdraw your love, or
retaliate in some way.
If
it seems that someone is trying to hurt you,
start by acknowledging and feeling your pain.
Do not force yourself to feel and act in
loving ways until you have transformed your
pain. Lift the emotions you are feeling from
your solar plexus center into your heart
center so you can feel the serenity of love.
Think of times you have responded with love
even when hurting others felt justified based
on their treatment of you. Acknowledge
yourself every time you choose to respond with
love even when others act in unloving ways. In
addition, forgive yourself for those times
when you could not or did not want to act
lovingly.
Once
you connect with your soul you can feel your
soul's compassion. You will understand that
some people do not know how to be kind or
considerate. They are not really reacting to
you; they are reacting to their own fears and
to their past. People sometimes say or do
hurtful things because they do not feel good
about themselves. Your soul never takes
offense; it understands that whatever others
do that seems unloving is a reflection of who
they are, not who you are.
Think
of the person you have picked to soul link
with. In the last few weeks, have you, in even
the slightest way, had the desire to hurt the
other person? Why did you feel this way? Were
you in a bad mood or in the grip of strong
emotions? Or were you picking up the other
person's intense emotions? Did you think the
other person was trying to insult or hurt you?
Pay attention to the things that trigger
unloving reactions in you.
Stop
before you react in a hurtful way. Take time
to love and honor your feelings. Do not try to
talk yourself out of unloving feelings. Love
your feelings, listen to them, feel them, and
then lift them into your heart to be
transformed into love. Take time away from the
relationship, or create physical distance,
until you can respond with love. It is better
to be apart for a while, while you transform
your feelings, than to be together and act in
unloving ways. Wait to respond until you can
do so in a way that honors both of you.
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