Creativity Needs Connection with Others

Creativity Needs Connection with Others, article by Anne Paris

Through thousands of hours of psychotherapy with artists, I have found that most are quite familiar with the experience of being artistically blocked, or of procrastinating and avoiding their creative work. "If only I weren't so distractible" or "I must not really want to succeed" are common complaints I've heard. These blocks can lead to non-productivity as well as to more serious problems such as depression and addictions.

Until now, most experts have offered behavioral strategies to help artists initiate and sustain their creative process: "set aside a time and place everyday for the creative endeavor" or "tell yourself you can do it" or "you must exercise a great deal of self-discipline." Structure can certainly help artists to focus and to discipline their time. But many artists do not find the strength to overcome deeply embedded blocks with this advice. "If it were that easy, I'd do it," they say.

Creativity at its Best: Being Connected with Others

New research in neuroscience and contemporary psychological approaches show that these strategies are only part of the answer. Revolutionary understandings in clinical psychology now suggest that healthy interpersonal relationships are the fuel for optimal emotional, cognitive, intellectual, behavioral, and creative functioning. Contrary to how we've been taught to value independence and autonomy, this new scientific evidence is showing that we are at our best when we are connected with others.

Applying these findings to the secret, internal world of the artist, the capacity to be creative is actually generated by the experience of connectedness with others. When we are feeling frightened or are lacking self-confidence and vitality, we need to look at the state of our relationships, rather than to blame ourselves for being weak and inadequate, or to think that we must somehow find strength and courage from deep within ourselves. We cannot create in a vacuum of isolation: we are helped along in the creative process by certain kinds of emotional support from others that help us to be at our best and to realize our full potentials. 

Reaching for Healthy Connections

When we shift our focus from searching within ourselves to reaching for healthy connections, we will be propelled through the creative process to complete a work of art.  To immerse into creativity, we need to feel strong, inspired, and comforted. Rather than existing as static "traits" in our selves, strength, inspiration, and comfort are generated in our relationships with mirrors, heroes, and twins:

Find Strength in Mirrors. An artist finds the strength to create through feeling special, recognized, and appreciated by others. Share your ideas and your work with others who are likely to appreciate your talents and your efforts. Allow yourself to "take in" this kind of psychological nourishment.  If you don't have this kind of support, imagine it.

Find Inspiration in Heroes. An artist finds motivation and inspiration to create through admiring, respecting, and hoping to please a parent, teacher, mentor, or idol. Reach for connection with your "real life" hero or immerse in your idol's work, ideas, or art. 

Find Comfort in Twins. An artist finds comfort through the creative process by feeling understood and understandable by others who are in the same boat. Reach for connections with "like-kind" (for example, join a writer's group, or take a painting class, or go to conferences, artist retreats, or galleries).  Share your hopes and dreads, triumphs and defeats, with these empathic others-they've been there--they understand.

Creating & Sustaining Mutual Relationships

Creativity Needs Connection with Others, article by Anne Paris

Throughout a creative project, you are likely to grapple with core feelings of safety, trust, and hope. When you become aware of how your relationships with others (or lack of relationships) impact your ongoing sense of self, you can then try to elicit more of what you need to carry you through the myriad of emotions involved in the creative process.

It is not weak to need others.  In fact, being able to create and sustain mutual relationships is the key to our continued growth as artists and as individuals. In the end, it is not really how much willpower or discipline we have that determines our capacity to enter into a creative state. Standing at water's edge, looking at the vast unknown and uncertainty involved in the creative process, it is our relationships with others that will empower or inhibit our dive.


This article is based on the book:

Standing at Water's Edge by Anne ParisStanding at Water's Edge: Moving Past Fears, Blocks, and Pitfalls to Discover the Power of Creative Immersion
by Anne Paris.

Reprinted with permission of New World Library, Novato, CA. ©2008. www.newworldlibrary.com or 800-972-6657 ext. 52.

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About the Author

Anne Paris, author of the article: Creativity Needs Connection With OthersDr. Anne Paris is a clinical psychologist who has helped artists along in their creative processes for over 20 years. Her approach, which is based on cutting-edge psychological understandings and research, appreciates the inner world of the artist in a new way and points to the importance of connections with others throughout the creative process. Through this revolutionary approach, she has helped famous, professional, and hobby artists start and sustain their creative process so they could complete a work of art.  She is the author of Standing at Water's Edge: Moving Past Fears, Blocks, and Pitfalls to Discover the Power of Creative Immersion. You can visit her online at www.anneparis.com.


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