How To Use The Three Bridges to Create Joy, Love, and Peace

How To Use The Three Bridges to Create Joy, Love, and PeaceWith just a little practice, you'll be able to recognize the emotions underlying other people's demeanor, words, and actions. And rather than getting sucked into a knee-jerk reaction to their abrupt tone, negativity, or finger-pointing tirade, you can get to the heart of the matter and extend a communication "bridge."

How You Can Negotiate Love

How You Can Negotiate LoveIf you're in a relationship and are ready to deal with your conflicts, don't be afraid. You and your partner have the power to share your feelings and needs -- and reach agreement peacefully. Is it possible for you and your partner to resolve smoothly the differences that arise in your relationship?

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship MattersWhen it comes to power in romantic relationships, men are often cast as dominant and women as deferential. But working against this are caricatures of domineering women with their “hen-pecked husbands” and “whipped boyfriends.” The Conversation

Why You Need To Befriend Yourself

Why You Need To Befriend YourselfIt is a paradox that if we cannot open our hearts to ourselves, then we have no foundation for dealing with other people lovingly and compassionately. We've been trained not to ask loving and compassionate questions of ourselves. 

Why Men And Women Lie About Sex

Why Men And Women Lie About SexWhen it comes to reporting the number of sex partners or how often they have sexual intercourse, men and women both lie. While men tend to overreport it, women have a tendency to underreport it.

What To Do When Emotional Triggers Set Us Off

Triggers as Teachers: Staying on Your Recovery PathTriggers are hooks that summon emotional experiences of other times when you were frightened, harmed, and helpless. When you succumb to a trigger, you feel a sense of guilt, shame, and failure as you add another layer of fear, punishment, and helplessness to your original experience...

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You KnewWe are often quick to make judgements on what we perceive to be happening when children behave in a way that draws attention – but when a young person with autism is struggling to cope with the world, the last thing they need is our criticism. The Conversation

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your Enemy

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your EnemyThe shift from living with attachment to the judgmental mind to living with kindness is perhaps the most important part of our work with the critic. It requires us to embrace all of who we are — the good, the bad, and the ugly. This can require a radical shift in our inner world...

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD Behavior

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD BehaviorWhenever we react to a person’s behavior--particularly a child’s--we can do it in either of two primary ways. One addresses the individual’s personhood and ties it to his behavior, and the other addresses his personhood and disconnects it from his behavior. This is a critical distinction.

Here’s The Science Behind These 5 Classic Love Songs

Here’s The Science Behind These 5 Classic Love SongsIn honor of Valentine’s Day, here are five love songs that pose serious scientific questions. Experts from the University of Melbourne offer insights about the evolution of love, how it changes our bodies, and what human couples can learn from prairie voles and spiders.

Why You Should Date Your Best Friend

Why You Should Date Your Best FriendBeing someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect.

Why Do Men and Women Feel Things Differently?

Men and Women Feel Things DifferentlyMany studies have shown that women's brains are wired differently from men's so they can both feel and recall both positive and negative emotions more strongly than men. But, just because women seem to be more comfortable in the emotional realm, does not mean that men don't, can't, or shouldn't thrive in it...

Raise the Bar on Love

Raise the Bar on Love and Let Love Be JoyfulEvery February, in honor of Valentine’s day, I explore loving relationships. Many of us have faced challenges in relationships, and we struggle with how to create truly rewarding connections. We search for our soulmate, wrestle with friendships, and dread going home to see our relatives.

How to Expand Your Empathic Capacity

Linking Up: Expanding Your Empathic CapacityThere is a natural tendency to synchronize, to link up with others. When two violins are located in the same room and a string is plucked on the first one, the string tuned to the same frequency on the second violin will vibrate, thus sounding the note...

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