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Blame Attacks include Criticism, Accusations, Humiliation

 

Blame Attacks include Criticism, Condemnation, Accusations, Humiliation

by Carl Alasko, Ph.D. Blame is a series of actions and reactions. They all work together to generate the Blame Syndrome. The three parts are: The Blame Attack (the initial criticism — no matter how minor); The Emotional Impact (negative feelings caused by being blamed); The Reactive Response (blame is fired back). Identifying the behavior is the first step.

Falling Short: A Human's Quest for Perfection

Falling Short, Failing, and Disappointment: A Human's Quest for Perfectionby Mary Hayes Grieco.

There is a nearly universal form of perfectionism hard-wired into human nature. It is the belief that we are “falling short” of what we should be. It is the habit of feeling somewhat disappointed in ourselves. Here's how we can move past this...

How to Change & Let Go

How to Change & Let Go of Struggleby Nicola Phoenix.

At first you may notice small, subtle alterations in your life and everything appearing to flow with ease. You may find that other people start to notice a difference in you. You may even find that situations that you have always hoped for turn up. Most importantly, you will notice how you feel as a new state of being evolves.

Investigating Feelings: Good, Bad, or Indifferent

Investigating Feelings: Good, Bad, and Indifferentby B. Alan Wallace.

We often consider feelings as existing with only positive or negative values. Besides positive and negative feelings, there are neutral feelings. We want pleasure, we don’t want pain, and we relax when we feel indifferent. When a pleasurable feeling arises or is anticipated, the response of most...

Our Role at This Moment on Earth

Our Role at This Moment on Earthby John Robbins.

So much is at stake in our times. Whether we like it or not, and whether we accept it or not, the choices we make, individually and collectively, in the coming years will make an incredible amount of difference, perhaps...

Gratitude for the Day

Article: Gratitude for the Day by Donald Altman.by Donald Altman.

Gratitude is not a magic trick, yet it can make a half-empty glass appear half full. It can transform difficult moments because it has a way of making the littlest things more significant and meaningful.

Embracing A New You Every Day

Embracing A New Youby Sanaya Roman.

As they grow older, many people constrict their boundaries; they often seek what is comfortable, familiar, and safe. Life becomes a matter of focusing on the petty rather than...

Personality Need Upgrading?

Personality Need Upgrading? by Eric Maiselby Eric Maisel.

If you are brave enough to appraise your personality and arrive at some conclusions about what changes you want to make, you will still be faced with the enormous challenge of actually changing your personality...

Never Enough Time?

Al Weatherhead, author of the article: Never Enough Time?

by Al Weatherhead.

Treat time as a resource – don’t waste it feeling sorry for yourself. We’ll never have enough time. Paradoxically, understanding that concept allows us the potential to enjoy the time we have.

It Feels Good To Be Me

It Feels Good To Be Me graphic for article written by Marie T. Russellby Marie T. Russell.

I've never been a big fan of country music. I have found it depressing, sad, whining, self-pitying... Well, you get the picture. However, now that I live in northern Florida, when I'm in my car and I'm "surfing" radio stations, country music is mostly what I find. Now, I must admit, I've discovered that not...

How Do You Find the Path of Joy?

How Do You Find the Path of Joy?by Sanaya Roman.

There are many life-paths you can choose, just as there are many ways you can serve on a planetary level. There is a path of will, a path of struggle, and a path of joy and compassion.

Stop Hurting Yourself! Choose to Forgive

Stop Hurting Yourself! Choose to Forgive

by Rev. Daniel Chesbro.

Everyone has experienced an event that they’re sure was terrible. Then, when you think about it ten years later, you realize that if that hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t be here right now enjoying life. So how could that have been...

What You Make of It

2012: What You Make of Itby Alan Cohen.

2012 is here. Finally. After many years of anticipation, sensationalism, foreboding, titillation, and wild prophecies, we’ve reached the end of the Mayan calendar. The era of momentous...

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