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Get Out of The Victim Trap: Asking For Help Without Driving People Away

Get Out of The Victim Trap: Asking For Help Without Driving People Awayby Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D. Problematic ways of seeking support -- acting like a victim, rejecting help, getting angry at people “for not understanding,” pouting, and escalating your complaints so that they sound like reports of catastrophes -- are likely to backfire and drive people away. However, you can learn to ask for help in a reasonable way.

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Personality Need Upgrading?

Personality Need Upgrading? by Eric Maiselby Eric Maisel.

If you are brave enough to appraise your personality and arrive at some conclusions about what changes you want to make, you will still be faced with the enormous challenge of actually changing your personality...

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Inner Voice to the Rescue

Inner Voice to the Rescue by Shari Rathmanby Shari Rathman. Once upon a time there was this young person who had such great hopes for an exciting life filled with adventures and love. Then one day she heard a voice inside her. It was as if someone was whispering to her a message that no one else could hear.

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Spiritual Funk: Surrender to the Process

The article: Spiritual Funk--Surrender to the Process by Adele Ryan McDowell

by Adele Ryan McDowell, Ph.D.

Ever felt like you were falling through space? Everything that held you and tethered you has disappeared and evaporated. What is a free-falling, spiritually-inclined person to do? Pull off the galactic highway and take a little snooze or hitch a ride on a screaming meteor? There might be another way...

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Matters Of The Mind

Linda Bermanby Linda Berman. We use our mind in many ways. We use it when we don't even think about it; it simply takes over and provides us with the support we need for survival. We forget that it's there working and we overlook it as the best tool we have for self-improvement.

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Approval Not Needed

J. Donald Waltersby J. Donald Walters.

To be sincere with oneself means not to let his happiness depend on the approval of others. In the context of the quest for bliss, opinions simply do not matter. The only important thing is how to deepen that bliss, and how to spurn any action that obscures it. The judgments of most people are unreliable. Usually they are wrong, because influenced by delusion!

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How to Love Yourself

Louise Hay

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved...

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Accepting, Honoring, & Channeling Your Emotions

Accepting, Honoring, & Channeling Your Emotionsby Karla McLaren. We have learned to repress our emotions, or to blatantly "dump" them on others. Often, our strong emotions make us lash out and blame others for our feelings. There is an alternative, that not only heals you but empowers you.

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Getting Along With Others

by Karol Kuhn Truman.

Karol Kuhn TrumanMany people have real challenges in their relationships with other people. Are you one of them? One of the largest contributing factors to your ability to freely enjoy other people depends upon how much you enjoy yourself... how much you accept yourself.

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Abuse Survivors: Releasing the Pain

Doreen Virtue, Ph.D., author of the article: Abuse Survivors:  Releasing the Pain

by Doreen Virtue, Ph.D. A lot of the afternoon talk shows are featuring "therapists" who say that it's not possible to completely repress memories of abuse. Well, I know from my dealings with thousands of abuse survivors that repression is an extremely common coping mechanism. However, many women do not remember the abuse they experienced until a dramatic life event occurs.

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Changing Levels of Consciousness

Dealing with addictive responses such as anger, jealousy, irritation, aggravation.We learned these as children and we now respond automatically. We can learn to respond in a different manner, and thus raise our level of consciousness and our happiness leve

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Know Thyself

Know Thyself angelThe ancient Greeks knew the unexamined life was not worth living. They knew that the knowledge of self was the key to all other knowledge. This is very profound for each of us today.

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Reclaim Your Lost Self

by Dena Bower.

Dena BowerAlthough 'self-help' information can be readily gleaned, there must be a head-heart, or intellect-feeling connection before one's situation can change. All knowledge learned must be internalized (believed), and processed (discussed, analyzed, emotions explored). Insights must be gained and goals set and attained, in order to resolve unfinished business, heal wounds, and grow.

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Success Through Hypnosis

cat-hidingby Kathleen Tumson, C.Ht.

The goal of hypnosis is to access the subconscious mind which functions at a deeper level than our usual level of awareness. Our subconscious mind is not limited. It can remember everything and can transmit solutions to our problems.

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The Blessings You Have Been Given

John Welshons, author of the article: The Blessings You Have Been Given

by John Welshons. There are certain critical turning points when grief and despair begin to transform into acceptance, contentment, and Love. I have seen three common ingredients that seem to signal the moment when the weight of depression and disappointment starts to lift...

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