The Greater Design of Evolution: The Collective Rise of Consciousness

The Greater Design of Evolution: The Collective Rise of ConsciousnessThe history of our species is brutal, tragic in the cruelty we have afflicted upon one another, upon other species, and upon Earth herself. Our situation has come to a critical stage. Are there some heretofore hidden processes in us that we could activate, some homeopathic remedies for our violence that could stimulate more empathy, connectedness, and love?

How You Can Change Your Inner Critic Habit

 Can You Change Your Inner Critic Habit?For the majority of people if they turned on a radio and the station was negative and critical, fearful, whining, or complaining they would turn it off. Most people would take control of the situation and choose something that would be more enjoyable and more productive. You may wish to take some time to tune in and really become aware of the background station that you are tuned into...

Moving Beyond Fear: How Does Fear Dominate Your Life?

Moving Beyond Fear: How Does Fear Dominate Your Life?We must understand our fears if we really want to move on because that understanding is the prerequisite to self-knowledge, which alone is the only requirement for a harmonious relationship – with ourselves. Constant fear prevents us from living our true purpose. We must learn that fear is the basis of all man’s problems...

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts Completely

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts CompletelyWhen circumstances in our lives are too overwhelming, chaotic, frightening, or out of our control, the best response, based on courageous wisdom, is to release the circumstances. This is not always easy, but it can be done. This exercise will help you give form to your feelings and provide you tools for surrender.

Perfectionism And Burn-out Are Close Friends

Perfectionism And Burn-out Are Close FriendsIt was Voltaire who said: “perfect is the enemy of the good” – and he should know. A strident critic of existential perfection, Voltaire spent much of his working life attacking the notion of a world imbued by flawless divinity.

Why Do So Many Conservatives Seem So Miserable?

Why Do So Many Conservatives Seem So Miserable?We live in a time of positive psychology, where the path to happiness is apparently paved with the right thoughts. At its most bizarre, this manifests itself in the popularity of snake oil salesmen like Deepak Chopra, who – for a healthy fee – will grant you eternal youth, and The Secret, which using hitherto unknown laws of physics will bring you health, wealth and happiness.

Why Unplug In This Age Of Distraction?

texting and drivingA common experience: you are walking down the street and someone is walking in the opposite direction toward you. You see him but he does not see you. He is texting or looking at his cellphone. He is distracted, trying to do two things at the same time, walking and communicating.

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia and PTSD

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia, Panic Attacks, and PTSDSomeone with panic disorder does not know how to turn off the false alarm process once it gets going and must endure a terrifying experience of unknown duration, even if there is nothing apparent to fear. We all take in squintillions of units of information daily. Our brains have to filter data so that we can conduct some what rational lives without being overwhelmed.

Why Leaders Typically Can Not Change

Why Leaders Typically Can Not ChangeIt’s said that success has many fathers, while failure is an orphan. In the modern world of business, that’s not quite true. Increasingly, when things go wrong, CEOs depart, with failure’s paternity quickly ascribed to the boss in the big office.

Can We Unlearn Social Biases While We Sleep?

Can We Unlearn Social Biases While We Sleep?Your brain does a lot when you are asleep. It’s when you consolidate memories and integrate the things you’ve learned during the day into your existing knowledge structure. We now have lots of evidence that while you are sleeping, specific memories can be reactivated and thus strengthened.

How Sharing Your Success Is Perceived As Bragging More Often Than You Think

How Sharing Your Success Is Perceived As Bragging  More Often Than You ThinkImagine you just received a great bit of news at work – a promotion, pay rise, new car, an acceptance letter from the top journal in your field. If you are like me, you would probably like to open your door or pick up your phone and share your happiness with co-workers and friends. But research that colleagues and I have recently carried out suggested you should think twice.

Reinventing How We Play the Game Called Life

Reinventing How We Play the Game Called LifeOnly in my life’s rear-view mirror do I see that I began to write “The Un-Game” long ago. As a cross-culturally naïve eleven-year-old, my world was rocked upon my arrival in New York City with my immigrant family. The assault on my German mind-set felt like an earthquake snatching away all my precious, unquestioned certainty. 

How We Project Our Goals Onto Other People

How We Project Our Goals Onto Other PeopleThe more committed we are to achieving a goal—catching a train, buying a movie ticket, getting groceries—the more likely we are to assume others have exactly the same objective. The new study by New York University psychology researcher Janet Ahn points to the types of assumptions we make about others’ behavior, which may have an impact on social interaction.

Do We Learn Better When We’re Punished?

Do We Learn Better When We’re Punished?A simple experiment with a small group of college students suggests that punishments influence behavior more than rewards. In fact, punishments—in this case, losing money tokens—had a measured impact two to three times great than winning money. The results appear in the journal Cognition.

We All Feel Disgust But Why Do Some Of Us Turn It On Ourselves?

We All Feel Disgust But Why Do Some Of Us Turn It On Ourselves?Disgust is a universal emotion – we all get disgusted by things, just as we all experience other “basic” emotions, such as happiness and sadness. Disgust has many functions. It protects us from products that might cause us harm (food that has gone off), it can give us a moral compass (when we see someone being treated unfairly) and it keeps us away from things that remind us of our animal nature (dead bodies).

Ancient Wisdom For The Modern World: Living Life In The Face of Stressful Situations

Ancient Wisdom For The Modern World: Living Life In The Face of Stressful SituationsStoicism promised that a good life is available to us even in the face of overwhelming circumstances, which might partly explain its attractiveness to even the mighty emperor of the most powerful empire of its time. Central to this life, according to the Stoics, is a certain set of cognitive approaches to what goes on in the world around us.

Betrayal and the Gift of Forgiveness

Betrayal and the Gift of ForgivenessHave you ever been lied to or betrayed by someone you loved and trusted? Has anyone not believed you when you were telling the truth? Has anyone you loved walked away from the relationship and refused to try to work out the differences? Everyone has been hurt by someone else. How do we get rid of the hurt and move on with our lives. How can we forgive?

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming Them

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming ThemMy first spiritual teacher told me a phrase that echoed in my head for months; “You don’t know what love is because you’re stuck in your fears. Face your fears and you will begin to know what love feels like.” I sat with these words, realizing how many fears controlled my life and my happiness. I had never realized how afraid I was deep inside...

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

Personality undoubtedly influences people’s experience of stress. Those who have perfectionistic tendencies (obsessional) and those with a tendency to put the needs of others ahead of their own or seek the approval of others (dependent) are particularly vulnerable to stress. Having these personality traits is not a bad thing...

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of You

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of YouThe phenomenon of fear is surely one of the most impressive proofs of the mind’s power to convince us of the reality of its contents. If a person could reduce all possible episodes of fear down to those threats that are imminent, life would be very much less a scary place.

Pandora's Box and a Road Called Hope

Pandora's Box and a Road Called HopeSome of the most hope-filled people I have known have been those for whom favorable outcomes might be described as a long shot at best. This tendency of hope’s to show up in the bottom of our suffering is said by some to be the meaning of the Greek myth of Pandora’s...

Anger: Friend or Foe?

Anger: Friend or Foe?

How can we motivate ourselves to overcome anger? We might begin by considering the nature of anger to see whether it is a necessary, helpful, or pleasant state of mind. In other words, does anger improve the quality of our lives in any way?

Letting Go of Control & Following Your Spiritual Impulses

Letting Go of Control & Following Your Spiritual ImpulsesAs a species, humans love control. We want to control our environment, physical and emotional safety, financial security, and self-image. Yet this same passion for control gets us into trouble as individuals and as a species. If we do not exercise wisdom, control can easily become addiction, tyranny, and repression. We find ourselves rebelling against...

Stories Worth Telling

Stories Worth Telling by Alan Cohen

The end of this year might be a good time to decide which stories you want to leave behind and which you would like to take into the new year and amplify.  Some stories are worth telling and others are not worth telling. Some stories empower us and others disempower us...

Putting More Joy into Your Everyday Life

Putting More Joy into Your Everyday Life“Live in the moment!” bumper stickers cry. “Live in the now!” self-help books declare. Movies like The Bucket List preach the importance of living life in all its fullness before your time on earth is up. And yet, “being in the now” is easier said than done, right?

The Paint Can of Life: Empty or Full?

The Paint Can of Life: Empty or Full?

I recently painted a deck on my house. I enjoy painting, a meditation in being present that doesn’t require much thought but lots of attention. Your hands may get dirty but your mind will stay clean. With just a few planks left to color I noticed I was almost out of paint...

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