Why The Vast Majority Of People Fib To The Doctor

Why The Vast Majority Of People Fib To The DoctorBetween 60 and 80 percent of people surveyed have not been forthcoming with their doctors about information that could be relevant to their health, according to a new study.

Genes Do Shape Our Behavior But It’s Complicated

Genes Do Shape Our Behavior But It’s ComplicatedMany of our psychological traits are innate in origin. There is overwhelming evidence from twin, family and general population studies that all manner of personality traits, as well as things such as intelligence, sexuality and risk of psychiatric disorders, are highly heritable

Could Consciousness All Come Down To The Way Things Vibrate?

Could Consciousness All Come Down To The Way Things Vibrate?
Why is my awareness here, while yours is over there? Why is the universe split in two for each of us, into a subject and an infinity of objects? How is each of us our own center of experience, receiving information about the rest of the world out there? Why are some things conscious and others apparently not? Is a rat conscious? A gnat? A bacterium?

Our Passive Violence Fuels The Fire Of Physical Violence

Our Passive Violence Fuels The Fire Of Physical Violence
The best way to understand Gandhi's philosophy of nonviolence is to first understand the extent of the violence we practice, consciously or unconsciously, every day of our lives -- name-calling, teasing, insulting, disrespectful behavior. These are passive forms of violence.

Archetype: The Tyrant

Archetype: The TyrantWhen it comes to people, there are only about a dozen life stories in the whole world, and each archetype has its own obvious characteristics.

What Works For Me: Persistence

What Works For Me: Persistence
There are numerous things that make our life "work" for us. Some of these are things we learned along the way. And of course, there are things that make our life "not work so well". One thing that has worked for me is persistence.

How Humans Regulate Emotions And Why Some People Can't

How Humans Regulate Emotions And Why Some People Can't
Take the following scenario. You are nearing the end of a busy day at work, when a comment from your boss diminishes what’s left of your dwindling patience. You turn, red-faced, towards the source of your indignation. It is then that you stop, reflect, and choose not to voice your displeasure. After all, the shift is nearly over.

The Surprising Secret To Successful Psychotherapy

The Surprising Secret To Successful Psychotherapy

As a clinical psychologist and educator, I am often asked to recommend a psychotherapist for people in need. These requests come with a sense of urgency to find the best possible therapist. Many people are at a loss over what to look for.

What Is It About Yawning? And Why We Do It

What Is It About Yawning? And Why We Do ItA yawn consists of an extended gaping of the mouth followed by a more rapid closure. In mammals and birds, a long intake of breath and shorter exhale follows the gaping of the mouth, but in other species such as fish, amphibians and snakes there is no intake of breath.

Taking Sides? Nature Does Not Pick Sides! It Treats Everyone Equally

Taking Sides? Nature Does Not Pick Sides! It Treats Everyone Equally
Nature does not pick sides: it simply gives every plant a fair chance to life. The sun shines on everyone regardless of their size, race, language, or opinions. Can we not do the same? Forget our old quarrels, our old grievances, our old prejudices, and start looking at everyone on earth as another person just like us...

Here's The Truth About False Accusations Of Sexual Violence

Here's The Truth About False Accusations Of Sexual Violence

Why didn’t these women speak up sooner? This was asked time and time again during the recent public furore around sexual harassment, violence and abuse. Underlying the question is a persistent uncertainty about the credibility of victims – a concern with identifying what is true and what is false.

Are Today's White Kids Less Racist Than Their Grandparents?

Are Today's White Kids Less Racist Than Their Grandparents?

In America’s children, we often see hope for a better future, especially when it comes to reducing racism. Each new generation of white people, the thinking goes, will naturally and inevitably be more open-minded and tolerant than previous ones.

Are We Literally What We Think?

Are We Literally What We Think?
All day every day we experience things: physical sensations, emotions, and thought patterns. Most of our experience we fail to observe. While having an experience we don’t notice it. While this is well and good when it comes to sensation in our feet or many other aspects of living, failure to observe certain parts of our physical, emotional, and cognitive experience...

Look Within and Ask: "How Does This Apply To Me?"

Look Within and Ask: "How Does This Apply To Me?"
Have you ever found yourself wanting to 'fix' people? You know... when you can clearly see everything that's wrong with them and want to reorganize them and their life? It seems so easy for us to look at someone else and see everything that they need to do to improve themselves. It seems so easy to 'fix' someone else...

Why Alcoholics Can’t Be Forced to Stop Drinking

Why Alcoholics Can’t Be Forced to Stop Drinking
Alcoholics Anonymous was established as a form of benign anarchy. Members have to want to help themselves—and one another. While a great number of people see value in the mutual aid of Alcoholics Anonymous, many of them would be surprised to discover that the concept of mutual aid was popularized in the 20th century by the Russian anarchist Prince Peter Kropotkin (1842–1921) with his 1902 book Mutual Aid.

A Brief History Of Teen Boys Will Be Boys

A Brief History Of Teen Boys Will Be Boys

In the United States, the teen years are frequently assumed to be a time of experimentation, risk-taking and rebellion. But this notion of adolescence as a phase of irresponsible behavior is a relatively new invention.

These Tools Can Help You Control Technology Overuse

These Tools Can Help You Control Technology Over-Use
Technology has undoubtedly become essential for productivity and communication in our professional and personal lives. However, the most prominent reason users of all ages reach for their device is not to work, but to “zombie check”.

What's The Difference Between Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment And Rape?

What's The Difference Between Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment And Rape?A California psychologist has alleged that Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh sexually assaulted her when both were in high school in Maryland.  As the nation debates the accusation, the terms “sexual abuse,” “sexual assault,” “sexual harassment” – and even “rape” – are cropping up daily in the news. This isn’t new – the #MeToo movement over the last year has put those terms in more common circulation.

3 Things We Can All Learn From People Who Don't Use Smartphones Or Social Media

3 Things We Can All Learn From People Who Don't Use Smartphones Or Social MediaMany of us spend hours every day tethered to our devices, pawing at the screen to see if it will deliver a few more likes or emails, monitoring the world and honing our online presence. Social networking platforms such as Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter are supposed to make us feel more connected.

Mastering The Art of Loving Is A Lifelong Challenge

Mastering The Art of Loving: A Lifelong Challenge
Can love be learned? In principle, yes, but there are important requirements. Love necessitates a positive, embracing view of ourselves and of life. Fromm claimed that only a person who has reached developmental maturity is truly capable of loving. Such maturity implies self-acceptance and overcoming narcissism.

How Self-Help In The Age Of Responsibility Denies Unequal Realities

How Self-help In The Age Of Responsibility Denies Unequal Realities
Contemporary self-help teachings assure us that we are the makers of our own destiny, that we have within us the power to change our lives for the better, even to make ourselves anew. Self-help leaders, from Tony Robbins to spiritual gurus like Robin Sharma and Deepak Chopra, ask us to take responsibility for our lives.

Why You Should Think Twice Before Playing Slot Machines

Why You Should Think Twice Before Playing Slot Machines

The gaming industry is big business in the U.S., contributing an estimated US$240 billion to the economy each year, while generating $38 billion in tax revenues and supporting 17 million jobs.

What people may not realize is that slot machines, video poker machines and other electronic gaming devices make up the bulk of all that economic activity. At casinos in Iowa and South Dakota, for example, such devices have contributed up to 89 percent of annual gaming revenue.

The Braveheart Effect And How Companies Manipulate Our Desire For Freedom

The Braveheart Effect And How Companies Manipulate Our Desire For Freedom
"They may take our lives, but they will never take our freedom!" This often parodied quote from Mel Gibson’s William Wallace in the film Braveheart is something of a contradiction, and yet its sentiment is easy to understand. Nothing gets our hackles up more than being told that we have no choice over something.

How To Deal With The Terrifying Power Of Stereotypes

How To Deal With The Terrifying Power Of Stereotypes
From “girls suck at maths” and “men are so insensitive” to “he is getting a bit senile with age” or “black people struggle at university”, there’s no shortage of common cultural stereotypes about social groups. Chances are you have heard most of these examples at some point. In fact, stereotypes are a bit like air: invisible but always present.

How Corporations Nudge Us Into Spending More

How Corporations Nudge Us Into Spending More

Small changes in how choices are presented or designed can have a big impact on our behaviour. Governments are taking advantage of this to “nudge” us into making better choices without removing our right to choose. Instead of taxing sugar in drinks, for instance, simply changing how food is arranged in shops can make people eat healthier.

Breaking Free Of Your Addictions

Breaking Free Of Your Addictions
Picking our fingernails, eating a quart of ice cream at a single sitting, or mandatory daily vigorous exercise. Frequent prescription drug or alcohol use. Addictions are a reliance on any substance or activity that masks our emotions and provides an immediate but temporary dose of pleasure and distraction.

What Do Your Earliest Childhood Memories Say About You?

What Do Your Earliest Childhood Memories Say About You?

We experience thousands of events across childhood, and yet as adults we recall only a handful. Some might be “firsts” (our first ice cream, our first day at school), or significant life events (the birth of a sibling, moving house). Others are surprisingly trivial. So, what do your earliest childhood memories say about you? Do they reflect your early skill for remembering, your interests, or your individual experiences?

How Bling Makes Us Human

How Bling Makes Us Human

Sparkly jewellery, expensive shoes, designer watches – who doesn’t love a bit of “bling”?  In 2017 Australians spent A$28.5 billion on ornamenting themselves with clothing, cosmetics, and accessories. But this obsession with decorating our bodies isn’t just a trivial activity. Archaeological evidence shows us it’s actually a large part of what makes us human.

How Shade Bias Perpetuates Prejudice Against People With Dark Skin

How Shade Bias Perpetuates Prejudice Against People With Dark SkinWhen a person of colour with light skin rises to prominence, or becomes the first to occupy a particular position, it’s often heralded as a sign that structural barriers to the progress of people of colour have been removed. This was the case when Meghan Markle married Prince Harry in May, joining the British royal family as the Duchess of Sussex.

Why Most People Follow Routines

Why Most People Follow Routines

We all have different experiences of the value of routine. For the vast majority of us, routine helps us cope with the continual flow of decisions that face us in everyday life. But when taken to excess, routine can be a prison – especially for some people. But why is that and how do you strike a good balance?

What Snails Tell Us About The Effects Of Stress On Memory

What Snails Tell Us About The Effects Of Stress On Memory

In numerous different animals, cognitive ability, including learning and memory, is often negatively affected by stress. But not all individuals of a particular species are equally good at cognitive tasks to begin with, and they respond to the effects of stress in different ways. Take pond snails – specifically Lymnaea stagnalis – for example.

The Soul's Agenda: Learning to Trust Ourselves and Life Itself

Our Soul's Agenda
We lack self-trust because of the countless times we sold ourselves out, abandoned ourselves, ignored our intuition, refused to take appropriate action, forfeited our power. So, lacking self-trust, we are left to the hopeless device of trying to make everyone and everything conform to our need to feel safe. We waste a lot of energy wondering who we can trust, what we can trust them with, and recovering from being betrayed. But you are the person you really need to trust. You can trust everyone if you can trust yourself.

Dealing with Anger, Hatred, Guilt, Regret, etc.

Dealing with Anger, Hatred, Guilt, Regret etc.
Let's face it, we all get angry from time to time. Anger is a common human emotion. Yet, eventually you have to let go of your anger and go on with your life and learn from these experiences so that you may be able to avoid them or at least deal with them better in the future.

How Gambling Distorts Reality And Hooks Your Brain

How Gambling Distorts Reality And Hooks Your BrainTo call gambling a “game of chance” evokes fun, random luck and a sense of collective engagement. These playful connotations may be part of why almost 80 percent of American adults gamble at some point in their lifetime. When I ask my psychology students why they think people gamble, the most frequent suggestions are for pleasure, money or the thrill.

"I Don't Play Hurt": Growing Beyond The Seeming Rewards For Smallness

"I Don't Play Hurt": Growing Beyond The Seeming Rewards For Smallness
I have been impressed by ordinary people who don't talk much about spiritual matters; they just live it. After hearing and talking about unconditional love for many years, I find it quite refreshing to see it in action with no hype or flourishes. These hidden gurus masquerade as hotel cleaning ladies, shoe shiners, or rental car shuttle bus drivers.

How To Use The Process of Awakening to Avoid Suffering and Illness

How To Use The Process of Awakening to Avoid Suffering and Illness
Difficult experiences cause us to reflect about what is happening and no doubt lead to us making the changes necessary to help us grow—provided we are ready to listen to the underlying message. Otherwise we keep repeating the same old patterns until we finally understand what our experiences are trying to tell us and change our behavior.

Is Your Personality Making You Sick?

Is Your Personality Making You Sick?
Hippocrates, the father of Western medicine, proposed that there were four distinct personality types. His theory was that a person's personality type determines their vulnerability to mental dysfunction and their susceptibility to illness.

Why Do We Yawn And Why Is It Contagious?

Why Do We Yawn And Why Is It Contagious?
Yawning is generally triggered by several things, including tiredness, fever, stress, drugs, social and other psychological cues. What is the purpose of yawning?

Can A Brain Injury Change Who You Are?

Can A Brain Injury Change Who You Are?
Who we are, and what makes us “us” has been the topic of much debate throughout history. If who we are is attributed to a non-physical substance independent of the brain, then physical damage to this organ should not change a person. But there is an overwhelming amount of neuropsychological evidence to suggest that this is, in fact, not only possible, but relatively common.

Seven Strategies for Getting the Upper Hand Over Depression

Seven Strategies for Getting the Upper Hand Over Depression
Dr Vasant Lad defines depression as a popular diagnosis characterized by "a loss of pleasure and interest in life... accompanied by a sense of pressure, hollowness or emptiness, and low self-esteem." We all can feel down sometimes, but when it becomes our dominant attitude...

How To Triumph Over A Toxic Childhood Trauma

How To Triumph Over A Toxic Childhood TraumaNew research shows that when mothers who have experienced childhood trauma feel supported by the people around them – such as therapists, physicians, friends and neighbours – their risk of pregnancy complications is substantially reduced.

Are Bullies Alpha Males Or Sick Puppies?

Are Bullies Alpha Males Or Sick Puppies?

Growing up in a rinky-dink Canadian city, I was tortured a lot. Part of the problem was that I was stunted by an environment filled with second-hand tobacco smoke and devoid of nutritious food.

Going With The Flow Of Unpredictability

Going With The Flow Of Unpredictability
I talk with a lot of people in the course of a week…and I can tell you that people are dealing with a lot right now. There is a huge amount of change, uncertainty, anxiety, fear, transformation, loss, grief, joy, revelation, ecstasy, and hope all happening at once.

Why You Should Unplug From 24 Hours

Why You Should Unplug From 24 Hours

National Day of Unplugging is soon upon us. For the good of your mental and physical health, unplug your smartphone – not just for one day a year, but routinely.

Wu-Wei: The Art of Letting Go of Controlling Life

Wu-Wei: The Art of Letting Go of Controlling Life
In the cosmic sphere of energy, wu-wei is the feminine (yin/passive/receptive/earth) principle of the universe. Translated into English from Lao-tzu’s perspective, wu-wei means “non-doing,” “non-action,” or “effortless action.” These translations are literally correct and lead us to the intuitive and ultimate psychological experience of wu-wei.

How We Decide Who And What We Care About

How We Decide Who And What We Care About

When psychologists talk about a “moral circle” they are referring to how far we extend our moral consideration towards others. That is, whether we care about the well-being of others, and act accordingly.

Are You Rebelling Against Yourself?

Are You Rebelling Against Your Own Self?
As children we rebelled against our parents, against authority. Yet now that we are adults and are in charge of our own lives, whom are we rebelling against? The answer is the same: authority. Yet we are often the rebeller and the rebellee at the same time. Strange concept? Possibly, but one that we give...

Finding Balance: Life Is About Balance

Finding Balance: Life Is About Balance
In all areas, I believe balance is key to living a peaceful and successful life. As the saying goes, “All work and no play” makes for a dull life. But what about all creativity and no responsi­bility? Even if that were a possibility, I’d like to argue that this would not make anyone happy.

Blowing Off Steam To Keep Your Life Manageable?

Blowing Off Steam To Keep Your Life Manageable?
Being constrained by a civilization’s laws and regulations, combined with a low tolerance for emotional expression, pro­duces discontents for some if not all of that civilization’s inhab­itants. Underneath our fashionable veneers we are still animals...

What Should I Do If My Child Is A Cyberbully?

What Should I Do If My Child Is A Cyberbully?Cyberbullying has become a significant issue for young people learning to navigate a life that is increasingly online. Like bullying that occurs face-to-face, cyberbullying can have serious effects on the physical and mental health of victims.

Being Vulnerable: Stepping Out From Behind Our Walls

Being Vulnerable: Stepping Out From Behind Our Walls
Living behind a glass wall can be lonely. You can see the others out there, yet you somehow remain separated from them. Your wall may be called "I'm not good enough" or "No one understands me or loves me". These glass walls have a way of magnifying the negative. Yet whatever you see through the wall is only the...

Dismantle the Memory of the Old You and Become the New You

Dismantle the Memory of the Old You and Become the New You
Just because you have a thought doesn’t necessarily mean it is true. Most thoughts are just old circuits in your brain that have become hardwired by your repetitive volition. Thus, you have to ask yourself, “Is this thought true, or is it just what I think and believe while I am feeling this way?"

Why More Men Are Wearing Makeup Than Ever Before

Why More Men Are Wearing Makeup Than Ever Before
Male grooming is now a multi-billion worldwide industry, thanks to a growing number of men spending more on their appearance. Face wash, moisturiser, pore strips and hair removal products are now commonly featured in many a man’s bathroom cabinet – and now also, makeup.

These 5 Tips May Help You Finally Quit Smoking

These 5 Tips May Help You Finally Quit SmokingQuitting smoking is a popular New Year’s resolution—but many have trouble sticking with it. “Many people underestimate how difficult it is to not only quit smoking, but to maintain the change.”

Are Your Health Resolutions Really A Free Choice?

Are Your Health Resolutions Really A Free Choice?Modern citizenship in the West increasingly involves a duty to care for ourselves – to eat healthily, exercise enough and even screen ourselves for disease – to minimize our health-care costs to the state.

Don’t Let The Past Define The Present

Don’t Let The Past Define The Present
Don’t let the past define the present. This is such an obvious idea that when I first encoun­tered it my reaction was, “Of course! That’s not new information.” And then I promptly fell back into my nor­mal way of seeing life that was through the lens of the past. I did this so unconsciously that I honestly didn’t see how powerful my attachment to the past had become over the years.

Why Do You Check Your Phone 150 Times a Day?

Why Do You Check Your Phone 150 Times a Day?Do you really have sovereignty over own your mind anymore? Tristan Harris, a design thinker and former ethicist at Google, points to how smart phones changed our contract with advertisers, and our relationship with reality.

Why We Love Holiday Rituals And Traditions

Why We Love Holiday Rituals And Traditions

The mere thought of holiday traditions brings smiles to most people’s faces and elicits feelings of sweet anticipation and nostalgia. We can almost smell those candles, taste those special meals, hear those familiar songs in our minds.

Why Addiction May Be A Matter Of Motivation, Not Habit

Why Addiction May Be A Matter Of Motivation, Not HabitMotivation, rather than habit, drives addictive behavior in the face of adverse consequences and constantly changing circumstances, new research suggests. “We’re challenging the definition of addiction as a habit…”

How To Calm Your Emotions

anxiety 11 16Being by yourself—even for just 15 minutes—may decrease your strong positive and negative emotions, and instead reduce stress and induce calm, a new study suggests.

People With Depression Report Wanting To Work Out

People With Depression Report Wanting To Work OutMental health providers may want to take a closer look at including exercise in their patients’ treatment plans, a new study suggests. “Physical activity has been shown to be effective in alleviating mild to moderate depression and anxiety.”

Why The Clocks Changing Are Great For Your Brain

Why The Clocks Changing Are Great For Your BrainOctober is a dismal time of year. The clocks go back, which accelerates the onset of darker evenings and the “shorter days” inevitably lead to calls for the tradition of putting clocks forward or backward to stop.

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