Taking the Vulnerable Path to Achieve Authentic Long-term Success

Taking the Vulnerable Path to Achieve Authentic Long-term SuccessWhen we allow our fears to drive our choices, the actions we do not take and the opportunities we allow to pass us by are symbolic of us rejecting the life we genuinely desire. Conversely, when we find the courage to face our fears directly...

5 Ways to Handle Difficult Emotional Situations

5 Ways to Handle Difficult Emotional SituationsLearning healthy ways—a collection of skills that researchers call resilience—to move through adversity can help us cope better and recover more quickly, or at least start heading in that direction.

Opening Your Heart Wider Than Your Fears

Opening Your Heart Wider Than Your FearsFor years I understood the concepts of loving more and unconditional acceptance. I knew the woman I wanted to be: more loving, more accepting, more compassionate. But in day-to-day living I struggled with keeping my heart open, especially when I felt afraid...

The Fortress Complex: How The West Became Obsessed With Home Security

The Fortress Complex: How The West Became Obsessed With Home SecurityThat famous phrase, “an man’s home is his castle”, neatly captures longstanding ideas about what the private home really is: a place which we can control and defend, a private territory where we decide who enters and who doesn’t.

Why We're Obsessed With And Afraid Of Monsters

Why We're Obsessed With And Afraid Of MonstersFear continues to saturate our lives: fear of nuclear destruction, fear of climate change, fear of the subversive, and fear of foreigners.

The Real Reason Clowns Scare Us

The Real Reason Clowns Scare UsThis Halloween may be the scariest in a long time. Facing the usual huge crowds of zombies, witches and vampires, deep down, many of us most fear running into one of the “killer clowns” that have been spotted in creepy places across the world over the past few months.

Why We Go Crazy For The Gross Stuff On Halloween

Why We Go Crazy For The Gross Stuff On HalloweenHalloween is a chance to seek out the spooky, as well as the gross and horrifying. We enjoy the emotional rush—free of any actual danger—from both, says Daniel Kelly.

Early Fear Of Abandonment May Harm Adult Health

Early Fear Of Abandonment May Harm Adult HealthA new study shows low socioeconomic status and fear of abandonment early in life can lead to poor health in adulthood—regardless of adult socioeconomic status.

Fear is a Thought Monster Ruling the Peanut Gallery in Your Head

Fear is a Thought Monster Ruling the Peanut Gallery in Your HeadHow often in your life have you avoided doing something because of the terrifying story you concocted in your head? Maybe you avoid flying or swimming in the ocean (amazing how the film Jaws forced many of us back on to the beach). We’ve learned to tell ourselves the story of fear so well...

Empathy: A Powerful Tool That Can Be Overwhelming & Confusing

Empathy: A Powerful Tool That Can Be Overwhelming & ConfusingWithout knowledge of what’s happening, sensitive individuals may grow up coping in unsatisfying ways. But this doesn’t have to be the case. For someone who is highly empathic, refining and modulating this deep way of knowing involves several keys...

Slaying The Dragons That Are Within & Without

Slaying The Dragons That Are Within & WithoutSmall but insidious dragons lurk to intercept us on our spiritual journey through the land of ecstasies and voids. One of these is the infamous sheltering dragon.

How Much Energy Do You Put Into Avoiding Being Assaulted?

How Much Energy Do You Put Into Avoiding Being Assaulted?A recent article offering men advice about how to proposition a woman wearing headphones – encouraging them to block her path to prevent her from ignoring them – rightfully provoked a major backlash.

Sleep Paralysis Is a Wide-Awake Brain and a Snoozing Body

Sleep Paralysis Is a Wide-Awake Brain and a Snoozing BodyYour eyes begin to open after a good night of sleep, but something feels weird. You try to rub the tiredness out of your face but can’t lift your arms. In a panic you try to take a deep breath but can’t draw air.

How To Change Your "Not Enough" Thinking

How To Change Your "Not Enough" ThinkingDo you feel like you're never enough? That there's never enough time? Money? Friends? Great opportunities? Recognition?  Do you believe if you had or did something else -- got married, earned more, looked more beautiful, danced better, or had more time -- you'd finally relax and feel okay? Do you believe more is better? Are you rarely satisfied?

What If I Wasn't Afraid?

What If I Wasn't Afraid?How many times have we stopped ourselves from doing something we really really wanted to do, but were afraid to? If you think back, imagine where the road would have taken you had you had the courage to do what your heart wanted you to do, or not do... or to say, or not say.

What To Do With Those "Something to Worry About" Thoughts

The "Something to Worry About" Thoughts
Sometimes the thoughts bothering us are not based on anything concrete, like health or career problems. But they’re in our mind anyway, and it’s unsettling us enough to make us feel agitated or irritated, and maybe even angered by it...

Have A Tough Time Sleeping?

Have A Tough Time Sleeping?You work late and finally crawl into bed absolutely wiped out. But you can’t fall asleep because your mind is still racing. Oooo! You finally do fall asleep! But then you wake up in the middle of the night. You can’t go back to sleep, so you get up and...

What Are The Right Words In A Text That Can Calm A Crisis?

What Are The Right Words In A Text That Can Calm A Crisis?Crisis hotlines have been around for years, but until recently there’s been very little data on which counseling strategies seemed most effective at helping people cope. The recent emergence of text-based crisis help lines is changing that.

Once Upon A Now: Retiring Our Victim Stories

Once Upon A Now: Letting Go of the Victim StoriesIt’s time for humanity to write new parables. New voices. A new language. It’s time for new books. New songs. New pictures. Tradition and nostalgia served their place to bond us and then, to separate us. Fear kept us from grace. It kept us from one another. It kept us from the divine. It kept us lonely and isolated and frightened. Always frightened.

Big Worries About Money Can Put Years On Your Face

Big Worries About Money Can Put Years On Your FaceIn a recent study, people with the highest levels of financial stress looked like they had aged more over a decade than people with lower levels of money woes.

The Kind Of Person That Joins A Cult Or A Terror Group

The Kind Of Person That Joins A Cult Or A Terror GroupThere are some striking similarities between cults and terror groups. An all-encompassing ideology can, when exhibited by a group or individual, have destructive effects on society.

Helping Kids Cope With Stress

Helping Kids Cope With StressChildren are not as adept as adults at understanding complex emotions like stress, and aren’t likely to be able to tell you when they have too much on their plate. A child who is stressed out isn’t likely to appear so. Rather, their anxiety is often portrayed through a series of signs, which can be physical, emotional, or behavioral.

7 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

7 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of LoveWe all want to be loved. But if we've experienced a love loss in the past, it can be hard to get over that fear. You can spend your whole life trying to avoid being in a similar situation, so you don't have to feel vulnerable that way again. Or, you can...

Why Are Women Far More Anxious Than Men?

anxiety disordersAnxiety disorders – defined by excessive fear, restlessness, and muscle tension – are debilitating, disabling, and can increase the risk for depression and suicide.

Are You Allowing Your Mind to Fence You In?

Looking at Life Through the Distorted Lens of the PastLife is intelligent, and it’s powerful, too. Yet, we rarely consider it as anything other than unpredictable and unknowable. What an amazing journey we’d have if we trusted life. Instead, in our fear of the unknown, we have turned life into a series of attempts to make the future as predictable as possible.

Living a Stress-Free Life Every Day

Living a Stress-Free Life Every DaySometimes in life we come to a point where we want to leave everything behind and run away from society. It feels as though we cannot take one more abusive comment from our boss, another long drive in traffic or another broken night of sleep. We feel as though our cup is so full that the next time...

Emotions Leave Older Adults Open To Being Swindled

Emotions Leave Older Adults Open To Being Swindled"When emotionally aroused, either excited or frustrated, older adults may be more susceptible to being victimized by scammers than are younger individuals," says Ian H. Gotlib. "In the present study, they were more likely to want to pay for an item advertised misleadingly, regardless of how credible they believed the advertisement was."

Challenge Anxiety and Knock It Out of the Ring

Challenge Anxiety and Knock It Out of the RingThis modern world has a general approach to anxiety and fear: ignore it, avoid it, or take a drug to not feel it. These methods actually keep fear, anxiety, and panic going. These methods send ourselves the message that the fear is too great to handle, and avoidance is...

When You Can't Make Up Your Mind

When You Can't Make Up Your MindWhether you're endlessly agonizing over an issue, it's a tough place to hang out. Maybe this, maybe that. You drive yourself nuts, occupying yourself with your dilemma. You feel incapable of making up your mind and feel confused, stuck, indecisive, or ambivalent.

Moving Beyond Fear: How Does Fear Dominate Your Life?

Moving Beyond Fear: How Does Fear Dominate Your Life?We must understand our fears if we really want to move on because that understanding is the prerequisite to self-knowledge, which alone is the only requirement for a harmonious relationship – with ourselves. Constant fear prevents us from living our true purpose. We must learn that fear is the basis of all man’s problems...

Follow Your Passion and Stop Limiting Yourself

Follow Your Passion and Stop Limiting YourselfWe all know when we are following our passion or our heart’s desire because it feels right. Everyone has experienced this feeling of ‘rightness’ at some time in his/her life. It’s called integrity. And it’s easy to recognize. It’s a sense of real comfort. A feeling that life is good and that life is moving freely in and through you.

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts Completely

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts CompletelyWhen circumstances in our lives are too overwhelming, chaotic, frightening, or out of our control, the best response, based on courageous wisdom, is to release the circumstances. This is not always easy, but it can be done. This exercise will help you give form to your feelings and provide you tools for surrender.

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia and PTSD

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia, Panic Attacks, and PTSDSomeone with panic disorder does not know how to turn off the false alarm process once it gets going and must endure a terrifying experience of unknown duration, even if there is nothing apparent to fear. We all take in squintillions of units of information daily. Our brains have to filter data so that we can conduct some what rational lives without being overwhelmed.

Love, Gratitude, or Trust: Which Is More Important?

Trust Comes FirstTrust. Not trust. Trust. Not trust. The human free will tries to insert its dominion. Trust in a higher power is the most difficult thing to sustain, and the most important thing to sustain. I can’t see angels, but I trust they are there helping me every step of my journey.

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming Them

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming ThemMy first spiritual teacher told me a phrase that echoed in my head for months; “You don’t know what love is because you’re stuck in your fears. Face your fears and you will begin to know what love feels like.” I sat with these words, realizing how many fears controlled my life and my happiness. I had never realized how afraid I was deep inside...

Surrendering to the Fires of Change in Your Life

Surrendering to the Fires of Change in Our LifeThe concept of surrender is often confused with submission. No matter how you define it, or under what conditions, surrender is a willful, not a passive act. The element of choice in surrender is an important consideration when we are discussing its expression in our lives.

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

Personality undoubtedly influences people’s experience of stress. Those who have perfectionistic tendencies (obsessional) and those with a tendency to put the needs of others ahead of their own or seek the approval of others (dependent) are particularly vulnerable to stress. Having these personality traits is not a bad thing...

Feeling Anxious Makes It Harder To Stop Feeling Anxious

Feeling Anxious Makes It Harder To Stop Feeling Anxious

Anxious people tend to perceive their world in a more threatening way. That is, the more anxious a person is, the more likely they are to notice threatening things around them. This is called the threat bias.

Healing Is Feeling: Becoming Whole and Complete

Healing Is Feeling: Becoming Whole and CompleteAll creation either evolves or devolves. You are once again in a cycle of the waking up of consciousness. Therefore it is time to move forward, in love and trust. Come out of your minds and heads into the realm of your heartfelt states of being. In other words...

It Is Not A Problem Until You Think It Is

It Is Not A Problem Until You Think It Is

One person loses their job and experiences stress, fear and anxiety. Another person loses their job and is excited about the new possibilities opening up for them. What’s the difference? The external life circumstance is the same. However the internal response is different.

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of You

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of YouThe phenomenon of fear is surely one of the most impressive proofs of the mind’s power to convince us of the reality of its contents. If a person could reduce all possible episodes of fear down to those threats that are imminent, life would be very much less a scary place.

Pandora's Box and a Road Called Hope

Pandora's Box and a Road Called HopeSome of the most hope-filled people I have known have been those for whom favorable outcomes might be described as a long shot at best. This tendency of hope’s to show up in the bottom of our suffering is said by some to be the meaning of the Greek myth of Pandora’s...

Real Security Is An Inside Job: When Fear Knocks at Your Door

Real Security Is An Inside JobWe generally think of security as protecting our body and possessions from people who might violate them. Yet when we live in fear or a constant need to protect ourselves, we violate our spirit—a far greater injury than any that might occur to our possessions. Real security operates at a much deeper level than...

Using Prayer & Visualization To Destroy Your Fears

Using Prayer & Visualization To Destroy Your Fears

Dear God, we ask for guidance, love, and your healing power for all the people who are close to us. We ask for special healing to be sent to all -- to get through the next week with their trials, their tribulations, and their heartaches. We ask this...

How Can We Get Past Our Fear of Change?

Change Isn't the Enemy, Fear Is Certainly, not everyone is frightened by change. But for those of us who like predictability and routine, times of great change can bring on intense fear. That’s why it’s crucially important to recognize what we’re feeling and have coping strategies in place.

Death: An Ongoing Community Event?

Death: An Ongoing Community Event?

In the West, we place our cemeteries away from our everyday lives, as if there were an impermeable barrier separating life and death. We pretend that death will go away if we just ignore it. We know that this isn't true, but...

What Are Yabbits? Are They Running Your Life?

What Is a Yabbit? Is It Running Your Life?

You already know the Yabbits; they are the voices inside your head, the doubts and the put-downs in your mind. Yabbits are the voices that argue against you. Our Yabbits were originally designed to keep us safe by keeping us in line. Yah that looks like fun, but...

Towards the Breakthrough of a New Era

Towards the Breakthrough of a New EraThese coming years will be unique within humanity’s living memory in that our history will witness the transition from the final era of a now fading world paradigm to a new, upgraded one. Many people have long suspected the coming of such an interval — a phase shift...

The Tunnel of Life: Going Through Change

The Tunnel of Life: Going Through ChangeIn our travels, most of us have gone through tunnels. They take us from one place to another by going through something that the road couldn’t otherwise go around, like a mountain. Often these windy roads seem like they are leading us straight...

Step Out of the Rush and Relax

Step Out of the Rush and RelaxThe more clearly we can see that it’s impossible to reach a place of rest by rushing to get there, the sooner we’ll arrive at the true solutions that allow us to relax, slow down, and realize the relaxed pace of an inwardly liberated life.

What's Really Important On My Bucket List

What's Really Important For Our Bucket ListOnce in a while, a person will have a defining moment -- an experience -- a bit of wisdom or inspiration that pops into their heads and hearts and changes their lives. I had one of those moments recently on the Rogue River in Oregon. It helped to change in a very positive way my relationship with Barry, my beloved of 46 years.

You've Got to Believe Me

You've Got to Believe Me

Are you worrying about how something important to you will turn out? I know the answer. You’ve got to believe me. I see so many people stuck, confused, or fearful about what will come next. Eventually they somehow handle their issues, and the universe gives them a hand with the details...

The Myth of The Great Ending Is Not Really About The Future

The Myth Of The Great Ending Is Not Really About The Future"Do you really think the world is going to end?” she asked. I was stunned. She couldn’t have known that, in a recent e-mail to a friend, I confessed how strange it was that suddenly all sorts of individuals I was encountering in my everyday life were bringing up the subject of apocalypse. I’d joked that...

Freedom From Fear

Freedom is such a powerful word, yet do we really know what it means? For years freedom was tied to the concept of slavery... having the right to have no one 'own' you. In Civil Rights, freedom meant being able to be considered equal to all others regardless of race, color, or gender. Then as the women's movement got into swing...

Becoming Free of the Greatest Fear of All

Greatest Fear of AllThe greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom. What people say does not matter. Your whole and sole judge is God. And God simply means the whole universe.

Courage

There are so many ways that we can apply courage in our lives. Courage to speak one's opinion, to stand up for what is right, to face tough issues head on, to pick oneself up after an injustice, and to not necessarily do as everyone else does. Courage to be true to oneself.

Awakening on Your Path and Leaving Fear Behind

Awakening on Your Path and Leaving the Fear BehindAs individuals, nations, and a planet, we have forgotten where we have come from, who we are, and where we are going. An honest look at the troubles we have created for ourselves reveals that we have painfully lost sight of the visions that once painted our future...

Fear and Relationships Are Not A Good Match

Fear and Relationships Are Not A Good Match

Fear patterns begin early in life, affect every relationship we have, and waste a lot of energy. Our inner dragons of fear can make us run from love and intimacy, hide from the very things we say we most want, repeat the same mistakes over and over, and see the world in black and white terms.

Are You A Chronic Worrier? How to Remove the Worrier Mask

Are You A Chronic Worrier? How to Remove the Worrier Mask

by John Randolph Price. The Ageless Wisdom texts tell us that scarcely a person in the world is exempt from worry, and that worry is the cause of all planetary problems. There are Worriers of the common, everyday variety, and there are Worriers of the chronic type, where the black cloud hanging over their heads...

Fear Is Our Enemy; Chaos Is Our Friend

Fear Is Our Enemy; Chaos Is Our Friend

All the ancient calendars and prophecies of diverse ancient traditions are pointing to these days as the time of a great awakening and a time of a great shift. Humanity is being challenged to make a choice: the choice between the path of love, community, and peace, over the path of...

Taking the Risk to Speak Your Truth and Be Authentic

Taking the Risk to Speak Your Truth and Be AuthenticTake a minute to reflect on your ability or inability to tell your truth, particularly in the workplace. Notice how frequently you say things that are safe or politically correct and don't say the things that are true for you but are not necessarily as safe. It is important to recognize the cost of withholding our truth, both for ourselves and for...

The Scared One: The Part of Me That Has Feelings of Inadequacy

The Scared One: The Part of Me That Has Feelings of InadequacyI call the part of me that has feelings of inadequacy "the Scared One". We all have a Scared One inside of us. It's a secret we all share but don't talk about, so we walk around acting as though we know what we're doing. This secret is connected to how we show support, and to how we form relationships.

Managing and Avoiding the Overload Syndrome: Learning to Say "No"

Managing & Avoiding the Overload Syndrome: Learning to Say "No" to Obligations

This temporary anxiety and depression state results from becoming overburdened with too many work, household, volunteer, or social obligations, and subsides promptly after reducing the excessive responsibilities. It can best be likened to overloading an electrical outlet and blowing a fuse. This situation is becoming...

Being Impeccable with Our Word and The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Being Impeccable with Our Word and The Stories We Tell Ourselves
A few years ago, I was privileged to hear a speech by Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. He stressed repeatedly that the most important thing for us to watch in regard to our conversation is not so much what we say to others, but what we say to ourselves...

How To Experierence Fearlessness

How To Experierence FearlessnessIn order to experience fearlessness, it is necessary to experience fear. In order to experience fearlessness, it is necessary to experience fear. True fearlessness is not the reduction of fear; but going beyond fear...

Are You Afraid of...?

Are You Afraid of...?Some of our fears are so slight, or come up so rarely, that we ignore them for the most part. Yet, all our fears are with us constantly whether or not we acknowledge their presence. They reside in our subconscious and create havoc in our life. Whether your fear is of death or of cockroaches, that fear runs your life.

I Gave Up Guilt

I Gave Up Guilt! I Am Innocent!

Guilt! It may not be a four-letter word, but its effects on the body, mind and emotions are deep. It used to be accepted as a way to keep us on the path, but upon reflection I realized that its effect is the complete opposite...

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