The Big Game: What Is Most Important To You?

The Big Game: What Is Most Important To You?
I saw a man wearing a t-shirt that declared, "Baseball is life. All else is details." Like this fellow, each of us chooses something that brings us life, and all else becomes details. I encourage you to stay with what brings you life, and let the details be just that.

Finding Special Moments and Taking Time-Outs

Finding Special Moments and Taking Time-Outs
When I was a child, I remember my mother using time-outs as punishment. However, even then, I enjoyed going to my room to think about how I was behaving and what I needed to do "to be a good boy". I enjoyed my time-out then, and I still do...

Ten Steps to Become Confident in Yourself and Your Dreams

Ten Steps to Become Confident in Yourself and Your Dreams
One of the main things that stops people from bringing their dreams to fruition is a lack of confidence. When you are confident, you know you will handle whatever comes up in the best way you can and move on. Regardless of what happens, you will still be whole and complete unto yourself.

Are You Willing to Change? It's Easy, Really!

Are You Willing to Change? It's Easy, Really!
If you want change in your life, then you are the one who must do the changing. When you change, then all the other people in your world will change in relation to you. Are you willing to change? All you have to do is change some thoughts and release some beliefs. Sound simple? It is. However, it's not always easy...

Where A Tattoo Is Located Makes A Difference Energetically

Where A Tattoo Is Located Makes A Difference Energetically
Tattoos are something you are going to wear and stare at for a long time. Once you decide to get a tattoo, it’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with the body’s energy zones and how they interlock together as one consciousness.

Core Themes Are Like Closets In Our Mind and The Body's Messengers

Core Themes: The Body's Messengers
Each event in our life builds off other events emotionally so that they create our core themes. Every perception, drama, trauma, relationship (both the good and bad ones), fear, belief, success, and failure are rooted in our core themes. They're all just waiting for ...

Turn, Turn Turn... The Fourth Turning and Where We Are Headed

Turn, Turn Turn... The Fourth Turning and Where We Are Headed
I understand why people  feel unsettled, confused, and even frightened by what they observe going on in our world today. Everywhere we look we see chaos and change, disruption and destruction. We see suffering and privation; we see inequality and constriction of opportunity. We see a positive future for ourselves only dimly, at best.

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?
The moment we can ask ourselves “Does this thought have anything to do with reality?” “Is this thought true?” we are starting to wake up. This understanding breaks the bondage, which is our total identification with thoughts, and empowers us to wake up from the dream state.

The Four Starting Points to a Healed Life

Four Starting Points to a Healed Life
There comes a point when you must decide if you want a life that is fear-driven or one founded on love and hope. Establishing this premise is tantamount to bringing your healing to the next level. Remember, each gain will be incremental. You'll catch the negative voices faster; you'll dismiss them more quickly...

Why We Need To Figure Out A Theory Of Consciousness

Why We Need To Figure Out A Theory Of Consciousness
Understanding the biology behind consciousness (or self-awareness) is considered by some to be the final frontier of science. And over the last decade, a fledgling community of “consciousness scientists” have gathered some interesting information...

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?
Is self-control something you can acquire, like a new language or a taste for opera? Or is it one of those things you either have or don’t, like fashion sense or a knack for telling a good joke?

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism
Endowing people with social power inflates the socially-toxic component of narcissism called exploitation and entitlement, according to new research.

Life's Greatest Teachers: The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly

Life's Greatest Teachers: The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly
We may be born surrounded by people and circumstances who will set us gently on our journey -- or we may have more difficult conditions. Those who, on Earth, seem to be our harshest taskmasters, may be very close to us in our soul group.

Honesty and Courage: Everyday Virtues That Help You Keep Your Heart Open


Honesty and Courage: Everyday Virtues That Help You Keep Your Heart Open
You might think of courage and honesty as lofty ideals, almost impossible to attain. What happens if, instead, you regard them as everyday virtues that will help you keep your heart open? To keep your heart open, you must be honest about everything, even your simplest experiences.

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?
Using the word consciousness in any discussion can be confusing because it's a word used to mean so many things. As Jung defines it, consciousness is the perception of a relationship between a subject (my ego) and something else that's either outside of me or part of my inner world. Becoming conscious, in the Jungian sense, requires a committed effort to know ourselves, but this effort rewards us with a sense of energy, assurance, and peace.

Control versus Trust: Learning to Live in the Neutral Zone

Control versus Trust: Learning to Live in the Neutral Zone
With all the technology and modern conveniences we enjoy, living should be easier and more prosperous for everyone. Still, for many there is a gradual erosion of the quality of their lives. The energies that have supported the economic and religious systems of the world in the past are evolving and changing.

No One Is An Island: We Are Companions, Not Competitors

No One Is An Island: We Are Companions, Not Competitors
Margaret Wheatley talks about how, in the midst of chaos, our greatest challenge is to believe in our own goodness; how we are all afraid of change; how, when fear augers in, leaders must demonstrate patience, forgiveness and compassion; how we must approach chaos with humility rather than blame and negation...

Four Myths About Achieving Life Balance

Four Myths About Achieving Life Balance
Some of the first things that often need to be overcome when seeking to engage a higher degree of balance in one's life are the all-too commonly-held myths and misconceptions about Life Balance and how to achieve it. Here are four of the most prevalent ones in our society...

As Within, So Without: How To Be The Change

As Within, So Without: How To Be The Change
Today, millions of previously gracious, loving individuals have been enrolled in madness. They, or perhaps we, now hate the President and rage against a rigged system. Self-righteousness doesn’t alter the frequency of our personal energetic broadcasts, be they loving or hateful. We witness the reflection as escalating “terrorism” of various kinds. As within, so without.

Our Centuries-Long Quest For A Quiet Place

Our Centuries Long Quest For A Quiet Place
The history of this quest for quietness, which I’ve explored by digging through archives, reveals something of a paradox: The more time and money people spend trying to keep unwanted sound out, the more sensitive to it they become.

Creating A New Version of Yourself As Part of Nature, Not Its Governor

Creating A New Version of Yourself As Part of Nature, Not Its Governor
One of the foremost scholars of cultural myths Joseph Campbell (a man with a clear connection to the divine feminine) pointed out that one function of myths is to put one’s way of life in harmony with nature. The myths of our current culture seem to separate us from nature.

What Can We Do to Help the Whales and the Planet?

What Can We Do to Help the Whales and the Planet?
Many people are concerned about the whales… Good-hearted people feel helpless, and ask, “is there anything that we can do?” When I asked the whales for their guidance, they gave us three practical things that we can begin to do immediately that will have positive implications not just for them, but for all of us.

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-Healing

Being Your Own Therapist
The results can often be dramatic when people start to love themselves, give up pretending, and really learn how to relax. Two processes can happen spontaneously even when you are not having professional treatment: catharsis and abreaction. It can be a little alarming, but you will feel better as a result of it.

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks
Stocks have been on a bumpy ride lately as concerns over a trade war prompt investors to rethink their appetite for risk. But what prompts people to take risks in the first place? A desire for wealth? Fear of failure? Personality? Gender? Age? Education? Race?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?
A question that often arises is "How do we know what is right for us?" How do we find our 'proper' place in life, whether we are talking about employment, living location, vacation spot, etc? It seems that whatever the question, the solution is always the same...

It's All Up To You: Choose the Ideal as Your Guide

It's All Up To You: Choose the Ideal as Your Guide
For most people, deciding what to do in life is a pretty tough decision. Maybe that's why so many of us avoid thinking about it. Besides, when we simply react to life as it presents itself, we can make life itself responsible for what happens to us, rather than taking any responsibility ourselves.

Can We Transform Our Perspective of Negative Conditions?

Can We Transform Our Perspective of Negative Conditions?
A negative condition is anything you perceive as lacking in joyful experience for yourself. Another person may perceive that experience to be joyful and a definitely positive condition. Conditions are relative, for in essence, there is no reality, but simply your perception of it. All is relative.

Finding Your Way Home: The Heart Path as a Hero’s Journey

Finding Your Way Home: The Heart Path as a Hero’s Journey
Following the Heart Path is not complicated. A child can do it. But the resistance from inside your mind and from the world around you creates a lot of static in the signal and can be very difficult to navigate through. These challenges arise at every stage.

Where Is The Holiest Spot on Earth?

Where Is The Holiest Spot on Earth?
It was one of those days when the world was supposed to come to an end. The planets had achieved the crucial alignment, the ancient prophecies were being fulfilled, and psychics confirmed this would be the turning point. Hordes of people were rushing to safety at spiritual power places around the globe...

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept?
A French waiter hit the headlines in March 2018 when he contested his dismissal from a Canadian restaurant for his “aggressive tone and nature”.

The Art of Work: The Practicality and the Spirituality of Work

The Art of Work: The Practicality and the Spirituality of Work
All work can be meaningful, if you approach it with the right attitude (with love and respect for others). Many people think it is 'beneath' them to perform menial tasks. But all work is valuable, and in order to find meaning in your work, you must first find the lesson.

Why You Stink At Fact Checking

Why You Stink At Fact Checking
Research from cognitive psychology shows that people are naturally poor fact-checkers and it is very difficult for us to compare things we read or hear to what we already know about a topic. In what’s been called an era of “fake news,” this reality has important implications for how people consume journalism, social media and other public information.

Outsmarting Your Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities

Outsmarting Youur Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities
Women have long had the self-destructive habit of discounting themselves and their natural abilities. This is a common gremlin, assuming that what comes easily to us is not valuable or unique. It's all part of our training to push others into the limelight and be a support person rather than...

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness
Believe it or not, your tattoo, and what it represents, is cap­tured in your consciousness. It is immortally etched into your cel­lular memory and will either enhance or lower your vibration, based on the intention and emotions imbued at its creation.

How To Strengthen Your Inner Nurturer Voice

How To Strengthen Your Inner Nurturer Voice
Most of us can access a supportive voice when we speak to small chil­dren or animals. That’s your Inner Nurturer voice! It may feel difficult to access if you haven’t practiced it very often, but it’s there. If you have trouble accessing your own Inner Nurturer voice, you can...

Creating A Life Of Positive Meaning

Your Life, Your Legacy, Your Choice: Living In Ways You Would Be Pleased To Remember
Granny was satisfied with life. Despite adversity, she did not dwell on or run from the disappointments of life; she courageously faced hardship by grieving, accepting, forgiving, and moving on. She made mistakes. But instead of living with regret, she made the effort to make a better choice the next time she faced a similar situation.

Do You Know What You Want and What You Need?

Do You Know What You Want and What You Need?
A knowledge of basic psychology can be extremely useful in giving us insights into our psyches so that we can learn our true needs. Anne Miller, a friend of mine, was a mother of five children when she started studying psychology on her own. From this she learned that she wanted to become a lawyer, and...

Moving from Your Old Story to the Truth of Your New Story

Moving from Your OId Story to the Truth of Your New Story
When we look at the various stories we tell ourselves about our lives, certain patterns become apparent, and it may be possible to discern in these patterns two (or possibly more) dominant themes. One might represent the “old story” of one’s life, and the other the “new story.” The first is often associated with various wounds one is born into or has grown into as a member of this culture. The second story represents where one is going, and is consistent with the healing of these wounds.

Musings on Beliefs, Opinions, Facts, Knowledge, and Truth

Musings on Beliefs, Opinions, Facts, Knowledge, and Truth
It seems to me that many of the battles within humanity today arise because most of us have no idea how to differentiate what we believe from what is true. We don’t know how to separate our opinions from bare facts. We have not been consistently encouraged to critically think...

How To Let Go Of Your Past and Set Yourself Free

How To Let Go Of Your Past and Set Yourself Free
Many people say they cannot enjoy today because of something that happened in the past. By holding on to the past, no matter what it was or how awful it was, we are only hurting ourselves by refusing to live in this moment to the fullest...

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia Recognized

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia RecognizedDyslexia affects up to 10% of the population and is widely accepted as a learning difficulty that can cause problems with (among other things) reading, writing and spelling. But it hasn’t always been this way.

Understanding Cycles, The Universe and The Nature Of The Soul

Understanding Cycles, The Universe and The Nature Of The Soul
Our earliest ancestors had an innate understanding of the Universe and the nature of the Soul. As keen observers of the natural world, they marked the waxing and waning cycles of the sun and moon, the yearly rotation of the seasons, and the birth, death, and rebirth of their crops each year. They saw the sun rise at dawn and disappear on the horizon each night, only to be reborn the next day, repeating the sacred Circle of Life...

Why Do People Intentionally Injure Themselves?

Why Do People Intentionally Injure Themselves?
For the family and friends of people who self-injure, as well as the doctors and services that try to support them, a key question is often: why do they do it?

Learning to Work With Wonder and Discover Answers

Learning to Work With Wonder
As long as we allow our True needs to be answered by the familiar, we are going to live out our lives making unseen circles. We need to go up, not around. What we really need is to make contact with that Higher part of our own True Nature which alone has the power to...

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think
Mechanical behaviors are old ways of doing things that once worked, or appeared to have worked, in situations that were stressful or in situations that were actual or perceived as potentially endangering your survival.

Are Religious People Happier Than Non-Religious People?

Are Religious People Happier Than Non-Religious People?
What makes people happy? This question can be difficult to answer. Happiness has been discussed throughout history. Happiness and life satisfaction levels vary across different religious groups.

Mind Over Mountain

Mind Over Mountain
My first time hiking I was in physical distress just walking uphill. Resting briefly, I recovered and continued. I began imagining a string at the top of my head connected to the top of the mountain. The peak was pulling me to it. I also imagined myself standing on the summit.

The Woman Who Chose to Plant Corn

The Woman Who Chose to Plant Corn
A Diné (Navajo) friend of mine, Lyla June Johnston, sent me a one-line email: “I am not going to Harvard… I am going to plant corn.” Her statement signals a profound divergence from the path she’d set out on when she was an undergraduate at Stanford University. She is choosing instead to learn the lifeways of her culture...

Letting Go Of Our Fear When In The Midst Of Change

Letting Go Of Our Fear When In The Midst Of Change
A friend of mine who is very aware of these changes and has been stuck for some time asked me how we move forward. “If you could write some sort of guideline, it would be helpful,” she suggested. I took some time to really contemplate this, vividly recalling what my own experience had been. I will attempt to describe it to you.

Oh No, Not This Place Again!

Oh No, Not This Place Again!How many times have you found yourself in a repetitive cycle you just can’t seem to break? Are you back to that same old situation again, the one that makes you feel powerless and miserable? It’s easy to judge yourself harshly as you think, What happened? I did all that...

Are You Looking for Bliss In All the Wrong Places?

Are You Looking for Bliss In All the Wrong Places?
When they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up, they really meant, "What do you want to do?" Whatever we might have chosen, it was not the same as choosing what or how to be. We all want to lead happy, fulfilled, and meaningful lives. These goals are...

Some New Rules to Digitally Disentangle After A Break Up

Some New Rules to Digitally Disentangle After A Break Up
Digital technologies can be great when looking for love, and displaying togetherness to the world. But for those with a newly broken heart, we have produced a practical checklist for how to deal with the digital aftermath of a romantic break up.

The 'Mandela Effect' And How Your Mind Is Playing Tricks On You

The 'Mandela Effect' And How Your Mind Is Playing Tricks On You
Have you ever been convinced that something is a particular way only to discover you’ve remembered it all wrong? If so, it sounds like you’ve experienced the phenomenon known as the Mandela Effect.

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea
Every Valentine’s Day we are reminded about the importance of showing our commitment to our lovers – whether we are married to them or not. For some people this might mean getting a tattoo of their lover’s name or initials.

Are You Soul Conscious...or in Trance?

Are You Soul Conscious...or in Trance?
Any moment in which we are unaware and out of balance and harmony, then we are in trance. When we are feeling superior and feel justified in our judgments, we are in trance. When we feel inferior or unworthy, we are in trance. Streams of past, future, or worrisome thoughts that surface...

Learning Our Lessons Through Crisis and Life Stories

Learning Our Lessons Through Crisis and Life Stories
S
ad but true, we all grow out of the soil of pain....The crises that arise in our lives are here to serve us, not to hurt us. As counterintuitive as this sounds, crisis is nothing more than your own soul trying to get your attention, to show you your path. The soul uses pain, crisis, and trauma to wake us up.

The Best Advice For You? The Advice You Give Others

Best Advice For You: The Advice You Give Others
As human beings, we seem to have developed a tendency to look outside of ourselves for the solutions to our problems. When we encounter a challenge or difficulty in our life, we run to someone else for the solution... While it may not be good to develop a dependency on others, these people can help...

It’s Not Just Imagination, It’s Perception

It’s Not Just Imagination, It’s Perception
If you can remember when you learned to drive a car you will recall how difficult it was to focus on everything at once. There was the steering, the looking in the rear view mirror, the gas pedal, the brake, the turn signals, etc. Gradually, it all became familiar and then automatic, until you were able to just enjoy driving. That’s called unconscious competency.

Celebrating Wholeness and A New Unfragmented Man

A New Unfragmented Man: Celebrating Wholeness
My message is simple. My message is a new man, homo novus. The old concept of man was of either/or, materialist or spiritualist, moral or immoral, sinner or saint. It was based on division. Once you divide man in two, you create misery and hell for him. It created a schizophrenic humanity....

7 SECRETS to a Great Life

7 SECRETS to a Great Life
A great life doesn't happen by accident. A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy, thoughts, and hard work towards what you want your life to be. Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure, and start setting up your life to support success and ease.

Trying To Give Up A Bad Habit?

Trying To Give Up A Bad Habit?
Let me set you a task. For the next minute, I want you to not think about Donald Trump. You must block all thoughts of Trump from your mind.

Expanding Your Awareness and Discovering Who You Are

Expanding Your Awareness and Discovering Who You Are
A natural expression of who you are is to learn, to grow, to expand your self awareness and your perspective. Eventually, you will come to realize your Divinity, to know who you truly are as the divine reality creator. By your nature, you are That – the Divine in action.

Why You May Have Developed A Resistance to Change

Have You Developed A Resistance to Change?
As long as we choose to see certain events as the measuring stick for our lives, we have no real chance of changing. As long as we view it this way, we will be trapped by our perceptions of the past, and our lives will endlessly repeat the same types of things over and over again until...

Who Am I Now That I’m Retired?

Who Am I Now That I’m Retired?
Preparation for retirement usually focuses on financial planning and security. And with good reason. A financially secure life is a lot happier than an insecure one. However, emotional security in this stage of life is of equal importance; sadly, this issue is not so energetically addressed.

A Different Kind of Midlife: Facing Feelings and Letting Go of Illusions

A Different Midlife: Facing Feelings and Letting Go of Illusions
By your mid-30s or 40s, you wake up every morning and you feel like the same person. Your environment, which you relied on so heavily to remove your pain or guilt or suffering, is no longer taking away those feelings. This is the midlife crisis that most people know about...

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy
The crabs and kelp and eels are all gone. The mind searches for the cause – to understand, to blame, and then to fix – but in a complex non-linear system, it is often impossible to isolate causes. This quality of complex systems collides with our culture’s general approach to problem-solving, which is first to identify the cause, the culprit, the germ, the pest, the badguy, the disease, the wrong idea, or the bad personal quality, and second to dominate, defeat, or destroy that culprit.

Why You Don’t Want Someone to Save the World

Why You Don’t Want Someone to Save the World
The conversations usually play out something like this: “something something and she is going to save the world” or “something something, so now he is going out to save the world.” The phrase “save the world” makes me want to scream.

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan
When you have to switch tasks at work, making a plan to return to and finish the task you’re leaving can help you better focus on the new, interrupting work, according to new research.

What Do Single, Older Women Want?

What Do Single, Older Women Want?
The “great dream” of owning your own home is rapidly proving to be an illusion for many in the early 21st century.

5 Ways Work Can Help You Beat The January Blues

5 Ways Work Can Help You Beat The January Blues
Blue Monday is fast approaching – January 15. It’s “the most depressing day of the year”, when we are all at our most melancholy according to psychologist Cliff Arnall. The post-Christmas January blues have set in and it’s peak month for divorce lawyers and job searching...

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You Think

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You ThinkDisapproval of qualities people often associate with immorality such as selfishness, dishonesty, sexual infidelity, and mercilessness is conditional, rather than universal, according to a new study.

How To Transform Old Feelings Into A Gift

How To Transform Old Feelings Into A GiftWe frequently speak of our feelings as if we are them. You hear it in our patterns of speech: “I am angry,” as if to say, “I am anger.” However, feelings naturally arise as passing states of awareness and are not part of us. Rather, they give feedback and then expire.

The Law of the Vital Few Is Incredibly Simple and Powerful

The Law of the Vital Few Is Incredilbly Simple and PowerfulDo you feel like you are wasting time and energy spinning your wheels with little or no results? Do you wonder why some people just keep winning while others can’t get onto the boards? Would you like to maximize your social, financial, and spiritual returns while minimizing your effort?

Making Your New Year Bright

Making Your New Year Bright
It’s not trite to set New Year's intentions, especially if they make your life brighter. Set some intentions and goals for the coming year. The idea is to shift your attention away from your shortcomings, bad decisions and behaviors, and just focus on making yourself, your best self.

You Have Problems? And... What Is Your Vision?

You Have Problems? And... What Is Your Vision?
Notice how much time you devote to worrying about a problem vs. how much time you devote to developing a vision for the solution. I’m referring to your inner dialogue, the thoughts that stream constantly in that conversation you have with yourself.

Why Tax Cuts Make Us Less Happy

Republicans recently announced their tax plan and are hoping to turn it into law before Thanksgiving. While details are in flux, it would likely eliminate the estate tax, lower the top marginal rate and slash corporate rates, producing, in sum, what the president has dubbed a “gigantic” tax cut.

Self-Trust Is Our Only Guide On The Invisible Path

Self-Trust Is Our Only Guide On The Invisible Path


As the age turns, millions of people are pioneering a transition from the old world to the new. It is a journey fraught with peril and hardship and breathtaking discovery, a journey irreducibly unique for each of us. Because we are stepping out into the new, it is also profoundly uncertain and at times lonely.

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to Wholeness

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to WholenessHonest communication is not only the quickest, most direct path to wholeness, it is also the least expensive. Without spending years in a therapist's office, you can get out of the morass of judgments, generalizations, shoulds, withholdings, assessments, and explanations about why you are the way you are.

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are Doing

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are DoingTo perform, whether surgery or dance, we must practice. We practice doing what we cannot do. By giving ourselves wholly to practicing we may transcend practicing, and find ourselves playing, with mind, body, heart and soul fully surrendered.

Getting Out of Our Way with Trust and Timing

Getting Out of Our Way with Trust and TimingSometimes, things just go our way. We call it luck or we attribute it to simply having a good day, but in truth, we have been given a glimpse of the actual nature of the universe. If only for the moment, our state of being pulls to us this divine experience of synchronicity. There is rhyme and reason to...

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