Crossing The Threshold of Change by Being Willing to Change

Crossing The Threshold of Change by Being Willing to Change
By the time my patients pick up the phone to make an appointment with me -- or to call any healer, for that matter -- two very important steps have occurred first. First, they have decided that something is awry in their life, something is not as they want it to be; and second, they have decided to do something about it. They are at a gateway...

Scars That Wound, Scars That Heal

Scars That Wound, Scars That Heal
I interviewed numerous people who have regrettable ink and most admit their decision to get a tattoo was impulsive and not really contemplated. Their experiences with having a bad tattoo included suffering from severe depression and panic attacks. Some people even resort to therapy and antidepressants over a bad tattoo.

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to Wholeness

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to WholenessHonest communication is not only the quickest, most direct path to wholeness, it is also the least expensive. Without spending years in a therapist's office, you can get out of the morass of judgments, generalizations, shoulds, withholdings, assessments, and explanations about why you are the way you are.

Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and Accepted

 Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and AcceptedIn ayahuasca ceremonies, people sometimes view visionary home movies of their childhood while maintaining an outside observer’s perspective. At other times, they relive a childhood event as if it were happening in the ceremonial moment; they regress in age to the time of the scene. Either way, ceremonies often open up deep feelings of wanting to be accepted and loved.

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma“I wanted to talk with you because I wanted others to know that when you are out there, writing can help. I still struggle with PTSD...with all of it. But I can tell you, when I was out there — in the middle of a war — the writing helped take the unseen monkey off my back.”

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People Away

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People AwayProblematic ways of seeking support -- acting like a victim, rejecting help, getting angry at people “for not understanding,” pouting, and escalating your complaints so that they sound like reports of catastrophes -- are likely to backfire and drive people away. However, you can learn to ask for help in a reasonable way.

Why Psychology Lost Its Soul

Some people believe the soul has no mass, takes no space and is localised nowhere. Michelle Robinson/Flickr, CC BYMany people today believe they possess a soul. While conceptions of the soul differ, many would describe it as an “invisible force that appears to animate us”.

Seven Steps to Make Peace with the Suicide of a Loved One

Seven Steps to Make Peace with the Suicide of a Loved OneSuicide can be a plea for help, a response to mental illness, or the last gasp of despair. Suicide can also be an impulsive mistake, a planned ending of life, or the ultimate act of rage. Whatever the cause, suicide turns worlds upside-down. This seven-step method can assist you in finding your way out of the rabbit hole of devastation...

Personality Need Upgrading?

If you are brave enough to appraise your personality and arrive at some conclusions about what changes you want to make, you will still be faced with the enormous challenge of actually changing your personality...

Inner Voice to the Rescue

Inner Voice to the Rescue, article by Shari Rathman

Once upon a time there was this young person who had such great hopes for an exciting life filled with adventures and love. Then one day she heard a voice inside her. It was as if someone was whispering to her a message that no one else could hear.

Matters Of The Mind

We use our mind in many ways. We use it when we don't even think about it; it simply takes over and provides us with the support we need for survival. We forget that it's there working and we overlook it as the best tool we have for self-improvement.

Be Here Now!

Be Here Now! by Marie T. Russell

by Marie T. Russell. The other day I reflected on the general public's increased interest and acceptance of past-lives. The question that came to mind was "Does knowledge of who you might have been 500 or 3,000 years ago help you in your life NOW?" I recall experiencing a...

How to Love Yourself

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved...

Changing Perceptions

Let's imagine our minds as being filled with rows of cubbyholes. Each cubbyhole represents a particular relationship in our lives. Some of these cubbyholes contain largely benevolent thoughts. Others are filled with grievances and other dark thoughts. As I begin to think of those people, I may find a significant amount of resentment or anger stored away...

Abuse Survivors: Releasing the Pain

A lot of the afternoon talk shows are featuring "therapists" who say that it's not possible to completely repress memories of abuse. Well, I know from my dealings with thousands of abuse survivors that repression is an extremely common coping mechanism. However, many women do not remember the abuse they experienced until a dramatic life event occurs.

Changing Levels of Consciousness

Dealing with addictive responses such as anger, jealousy, irritation, aggravation.We learned these as children and we now respond automatically. We can learn to respond in a different manner, and thus raise our level of consciousness and our happiness leve

How To Reclaim Your Lost Self

Although 'self-help' information can be readily gleaned, there must be a head-heart, or intellect-feeling connection before one's situation can change. All knowledge learned must be internalized (believed), and processed (discussed, analyzed, emotions explored). Insights must be gained and goals set and attained, in order to resolve unfinished business, heal wounds, and grow.

Success Through Hypnosis

The goal of hypnosis is to access the subconscious mind which functions at a deeper level than our usual level of awareness. Our subconscious mind is not limited. It can remember everything and can transmit solutions to our problems.

Expressing your Emotions through Art

Express your Emotions through ArtEmotions are invisible. We can't see them directly with our normal vision. Rather, we feel them in our bodies. As for detecting other people's emotions, you know by the signs. Even when no words are spoken, you often know what's going on inside another person.

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and Successfully

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and SuccessfullyOne of the biggest problems that people bring to therapy is not knowing what to do with a wide range of feelings, including sadness, anger, ecstasy, fear, and depression. Many visits to medical doctors are attempts to deal with feelings unable to be expressed or released. Such feeling problems are quite common.

The Blessings You Have Been Given

The Blessings You Have Been Given

There are certain critical turning points when grief and despair begin to transform into acceptance, contentment, and Love. I have seen three common ingredients that seem to signal the moment when the weight of depression and disappointment starts to lift...


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