Since we originated in the essence of infinite and unconditional love of self, you may be wondering, then, "How did we end up stuck in this experience of life as a struggle?"
The way that we became stuck in this experience of life as a struggle can be described in a breath, although the reversal of the process is another story. The fatal error we made, and continue to make to this day, is in viewing the emotional components of our struggle with judgment. Although it is true that the emotional feelings which are always associated with our struggles; frustration, resentment, anger, fear, etc., etc., etc., in the experience of them, FEEL terrible. The fatal mistake we make is to judge them to BE terrible.
We then become faced with the dilemma of understanding what it means to have within us what we have judged to be terrible feelings. The rational mind can come up with only two explanations for it -- we must have either done something terrible in the past, or, even worse, we must be terrible!
Regardless as to which of these two incorrect conclusions we choose to adopt, the response is always the same -- we get down on ourselves. Judging ourselves to be not good, because we do not feel good, only results in further limiting and restricting the happiness that we allow to come into our lives. We then judge these more limited feelings we've just created and get down on ourselves even more. This is the downhill spiral that has led to our present predicament.
The Classroom of Life
The old adages, "look before you leap" and "live and learn" are great truths that certainly apply here. If we could not learn from the looking, as this experience of approaching life as a struggle was nowhere to be seen at the time, then we had to learn from the leaping. In this respect, experience was the only real teacher. Living and learning always has us in the classroom of life. When we learn our lesson, we go on to the next one. If we fail to learn our lesson, we take the class over again, and, perhaps, over again…
Consider what happens when we find that weeds are growing in our lawn. Imagine how frustrating it would be for someone whose vision and understanding did not extend beneath the surface of the lawn. All that they knew to do was struggle over and over again to remove the weeds when they came up. If they mowed the lawn and got rid of the weeds, the lawn would look great-for awhile. However, since the root of the problem is still beneath the surface, what's going to happen? The weeds will come back! The solution to "lawn karma" is to remove the root of the problem.
First The Emotion, Then The Corresponding Event
Our new and correct understanding of the Emotional System is that our emotional feelings are at the root of our experiences in life. Emotional feelings really come first, and they then result in a corresponding event occurring in our environment! With this expanded awareness, our life experience makes ever more clear to us the cause and effect relationship between the feelings we emotionally embrace and what we then manifest in our life.
Our world still views this relationship backwards and thinks that our emotional feelings are a result of what first occurs in our environment; consequently, we have not been able to make as much progress as we would like in the transformation of our world.
Choosing What We Place In Our Heart
Wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to choose what we place in our hearts with the same care that we choose what we place in our mouths. Effecting this shift in the quality of emotions we choose to experience, from the painful to the joyful, will then result in a corresponding shift into a greater unfolding of happiness in our lives and in our world.
It is appropriate at this point in our evolution, as we are now fast approaching another major crossroads in our lives, that we once again consider the choice we made so long ago. How do we feel about it now? Do we wish to continue struggling with resistance and friction in our lives, and problems in our world, or has our experience finally taught us that the argument that seemed so reasonable on that lake of glass was really not true.
This is how we will make our decision -- it's just like eating a meal. When we sit down to have our meal we're hungry and desire the food, just as we once desired the struggle. At some point in our meal, we become satisfied that we've had enough, and lose our appetite. Have we come to the point yet where we've lost our appetite for the struggle in life?
©1999 Gail E. Steuart & Barry Blumstein
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The Inner Cause: A Psychology of Symptoms from A to Z
by Martin Brofman.
For each symptom discussed, the author explores the message of the symptom, which chakras are involved, how you may be affected, and which issues you might need to look at to resolve the tension or stress - -although a specific solution will always depend on the individual’s personal situation. With its correlation of symptoms and psychological states of being, The Inner Cause provides invaluable insight into how we can effectively support our own healing process physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
When the Past Is Always Present: Emotional Traumatization, Causes, and Cures (Psychosocial Stress Series)
When the Past Is Always Present: Emotional Traumatization, Causes, and Cures introduces several new ideas about trauma and trauma treatment. The first of these is that another way to treat disorders arising from the mind/brain may be to use the senses. This idea, which is at the core of psychosensory therapy, forms what the author considers the "third pillar" of trauma treatment (the first and second pillars being psychotherapy and psychopharmacology). Psychosensory therapy postulates that sensory input―for example, touch―creates extrasensory activity that alters brain function and the way we respond to stimuli.
The second idea presented in this book is that traumatization is encoded in the amygdala only under special circumstances. Thus, by understanding what makes an individual resistant to traumatization we can offer a way of preventing it.
The third idea is that traumatization occurs because we cannot find a haven during the event. This is the cornerstone of havening, the particular form of psychosensory therapy described in the book. Using evolutionary biological principles and recently published neuroscientific studies, this book outlines in detail how havening touch de-links the emotional experience from a trauma, essentially making it just an ordinary memory. Once done, the event no longer causes distress.
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