How To Control Stress Before It Controls You

How To Control Stress Before It Controls You
Ultimately, the most effective ways to increase happiness, optimism, and resilience depend on each unique individual and each particular situation. Paths to greater wellness are varied. It’s a lot like musical tastes. Different people may prefer Bee­thoven, Bach, the Beach Boys, Beyoncé, or Bobby Lewis, but the joy each person feels while listening is the same.

Can Hallucinations Lead To Post-Traumatic Growth?

Can Hallucinations Lead To Post-Traumatic Growth?
Contemplate how a person’s life would be changed by starting to hear or see things others can’t. Now imagine it could offer something good. Clinical psychologist Lily Dixon and her team detail the experiences of seven people who have lived with verbal or auditory hallucinations; amid the struggles, the researchers report, their journeys have also taken them to some positive places.

Why The Ego Makes It Difficult to Recognize Love

Why Egos Make It Difficult to Recognize Love
It may surprise you to learn that your ego doesn't believe that love really exists, but it's true. Just think! When you allow your ego to direct your search for love, you are actually asking the only thing in the universe that doesn't know what love is, to find it for you.

How Do You Get in Touch with Your True Self?

Getting in Touch with Your True Self
Connecting to the true Self gives me access to information and knowledge way beyond anything I have ever learned in a book or the limited amount stored in my memory. I know if I can tap into my true Self I will have access to all the information I need.

Want to Measure Your Consciousness?

Want to Measure Your Consciousness?
In addition to mapping human consciousness, the Seven Levels Model can also be used as a template to describe the stages of human psychological development. Figure 1 shows the stages of psychological development and their correspondence with the seven levels of consciousness.

We're All Rowing In The Same Boat

We're All In The Same Boat
For several hundred years, people have mistakenly believed that technology, once fully developed, would solve the ills of mankind, that science would provide the path out of the woods, away from illness, poverty, misery, and pain. We now know that...

Find Personal Meaning Through Journaling

Find Personal Meaning Through Journaling
Finding a way to engage more fully in our lives and open ourselves to greater love, peace and happiness is a yearning many of us feel. Yet we tend to occupy ourselves with daily distractions and busy-ness, only to watch the days slip by without connection to any meaningful core.

Five Steps to the Healing Process

Five Steps to the Healing Process
Although the healing pro­cess can really occur in three simple steps — find your willingness to see differently, give your willingness to your Inner Therapist, and trust that it is done — I find that I often need more ways to separate myself from the ego because it hangs on so tightly. Or, perhaps, because I hang on to it so tightly.

Are You Worrying? Acknowledge It Then Dismiss It

Are You Worrying?
Worrying about things we have no control over is counterproductive. It makes you tense -- which, in turn, ruins your judgment. When you are worried, you live in a state of fear. This makes it difficult, if not impossible, to be loving, helpful, and kind on a day-to-day, moment-to-moment basis.

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-Healing

Being Your Own Therapist
The results can often be dramatic when people start to love themselves, give up pretending, and really learn how to relax. Two processes can happen spontaneously even when you are not having professional treatment: catharsis and abreaction. It can be a little alarming, but you will feel better as a result of it.

How To Strengthen Your Inner Nurturer Voice

How To Strengthen Your Inner Nurturer Voice
Most of us can access a supportive voice when we speak to small chil­dren or animals. That’s your Inner Nurturer voice! It may feel difficult to access if you haven’t practiced it very often, but it’s there. If you have trouble accessing your own Inner Nurturer voice, you can...

Oh No, Not This Place Again!

Oh No, Not This Place Again!How many times have you found yourself in a repetitive cycle you just can’t seem to break? Are you back to that same old situation again, the one that makes you feel powerless and miserable? It’s easy to judge yourself harshly as you think, What happened? I did all that...

The Curious Relationship Between Altitude And Suicide

The Curious Relationship Between Altitude And SuicideSuicide is one of the top 10 causes of death in the U.S.There are many factors known to affect an individual’s risk for suicide. For example, people who are older, male, white, divorced, low-income, isolated or who abuse substances are all at higher risk. Psychiatric illness, mood disorders and lack of social support are also...

How To Soothe Yourself To Sleep

How To Soothe Yourself To SleepGetting a good night of sleep can seem like the most effortless and natural thing in the world, but when we can’t fall asleep it can quickly feel elusive and frustrating. 

Skills and Tools For Staying Sane

Ninja Skills and Tools For Staying SaneAt the time I was diagnosed with bipolar, I had so little awareness of my body or stress levels that I literally had to be sobbing before I realized I was sad, or be awake for three nights running before I realized I was stressed and anxious. Learning to “hear” my body and mind has been a revelation for me, and a crucial part of my stability.

Ten Guidelines to Protect Your Happiness & Well-Being

Ten Guidelines to Protect Your Happiness & Well-BeingEthical discipline is really a way of protecting yourself so that your efforts in spiritual practice can flourish without getting stomped to smithereens every other day, or every other year. The guidelines are fairly simple. There are ten that are enormously helpful in a general way. Bear in mind that they are all a protection for your own well-being, in solitude or in community...

How To Experience More Joy in your Life

Where Are The Paths to Experiencing More Joy in your Life?Allow yourself to feel, hear, know, see, taste, and sense the energy transfer that is happening in this moment. With your free will ask yourself this very important question, “Are you willing to experience more joy in your life?” This seems like the simplest of questions and...

Can You Escape Having Both A Dark Side & A Light Side?

You Can’t Escape Having Both A Dark Side & A Light SideYou’re not being offered one side of life that seems better than its opposite. You learn the knack for living peacefully with both sides of life—divine and human, light and dark, high and low, winning and losing, suc­ceeding and failing, loving and hating, order and chaos, happiness and sorrow.

Guidelines for a Life without Judgment and Limits

Reactions, Judgment and Discernment, Life and LimitsEach of us is body, mind, and spirit, and of the three, it is our minds that can limit us. While the spirit is indeed most important, it’s our bodies that communicate messages from Source, because our bodies are solid, substantial forms that only relay truth. The more we listen to them, the better we accurately understand what’s happening in our lives.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Pick Up Your Pen

When Life Gives You Lemons, Pick Up Your PenHave you ever been there — knocked to the ground by a traumatic event? Woken up one morning as someone you knew and in the midst of your busy day had it all suddenly change? In my case, I unexpectedly had joined the tribe of the traumatized — women facing cancer.

How to Change, Let Go, and Reclaim Your Happiness

How to Change & Let GoAt first you may notice small, subtle alterations in your life and everything appearing to flow with ease. You may find that other people start to notice a difference in you. You may even find that situations that you have always hoped for turn up. Most importantly, you will notice...

How To Unblock Your Memories & Dreams

How To Unblocked Your Memories & DreamsSome therapists will use "dream interpretation" to help a patient understand himself, but understanding will not cure symptoms. Our goal is to find blocked memories and to cry. The more you cry, the more your mind will heal itself, and when the pain is gone, the understanding will take care of itself.

Rejecting The Deceptive Power of the Ego

Rejecting The Deceptive Power of the EgoOur emotions are nothing more than an extension of the ego's opinions -- nothing more. For the most part, our emotions are theatrical manifestations of the ego's opinions. They are forms of manipulation. You have an opinion and you start cranking the emotion. So we live as prisoners of these opinions.

Learning to Smell the Daisies

Learning to Smell the DaisiesA young woman had a suitor who loved her very much. The suitor came to her door clutching a bouquet of daisies to give her. "Where are my roses?" she demanded. Her suitor turned and went away. The next week he was back on her doorstep with another bunch of daisies...

Dealing with Today’s Chaotic Energies

Dealing with Today’s Chaotic EnergiesCan you feel the energies bumping up against you? One minute, you feel pushed; the next minute, pulled. One minute, you’re OK, and the next minute, you’re not. It’s chaotic out there. Our world is in flux; nothing feels normal anymore.

Protecting Yourself From Negative Energies

Protecting Yourself From Negative EnergiesMost people don’t know that they need to protect themselves from negative energies around them. Most people on this planet do not even think in terms of ‘energy’ at all, which is strange, because everything on this planet is a form of energy, and we use these different forms of energy all the time!

How To Live Life From Joy Rather Than From Fear

Living Life from Joy or from Fear?I now live my life from joy instead of from fear. This is the one very simple difference between who I was before my near-death experience (NDE) and who I am today. Before, without even realizing it, everything I did was to avoid pain or to please other people...

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy StepsWhat am I doing? is the most frequent question I ask as I let go of my most recent job and relationship. The answer always comes back the same: You are being true to yourself. You are living your Truth. This is crazy, I say to myself. No job, no security, saving good-bye to someone who loves me, whom I love.

Easy Practices Available to You for Wisdom and Mastery

Easy Practices Available to You for Wisdom and Mastery What follows are some activities from which I draw for my personal faith and mindset practice. I don't do all of these things every day but, across the span of any given month, I endeavor to do some combination of these activities or disciplines regularly. The result? For me, greater clarity, less time feeling scattered

Why We Care About Chinese Philosophy

Why We Care That Chinese Philosophy Is Missing From U.S. Philosophy EducationPhilosophy has been a favorite whipping boy in the culture wars since 399 B.C., when an Athenian jury sentenced Socrates to death. Nowadays, philosophers are no longer accused of “corrupting the youth.”

Ten Steps to Raising Your Vibration and Quality of Life

Ten Steps to Raising Your Vibration and Quality of LifeWhen you find the courage to do something about your low quality of life and choose to make things better you are on the right track to raising your vibration. Raising your vibration comes down to many factors and listed below are ten key steps that will definitely help towards raising your vibration immediately.

Unexpressed Feelings Keep Tapping On My Shoulder

The Tapping on My ShoulderFor me, an unrecognized, unexpressed feeling is like a persistent hand tapping on my shoulder. If I don’t give the feeling what it wants, acknowledgement and expression, the tapping gets more insistent. The feeling pulls more and more of my attention away from the present moment. 

The Healing Benefits of Tears, Laughter, and Listening Partnerships

The Healing Benefits of Tears, Laughter, and Listening PartnershipsWe hold in our mind all kinds of old fears and feelings that we’ve had since childhood, some of which we are only dimly aware. The problem is that the reptilian and mammalian parts of our brains respond strongly to those old feelings, as if they were current realities. We need to work on acknowledging those outdated feelings and fears and avoid being triggered...

The Heroine's Journey: Wounds as a Source of Strength and Wisdom

Our Wounds Can Be Our Greatest Source Of StrengthWhen we think of the word wound, we usually do not asso­ciate it with sources of wisdom or personal power, but your wounds can reveal great knowledge and self-understanding. When you have experienced suffering that splits you open, you have the opportunity to understand the true meaning of the heart of compassion for yourself and for others in your life.

Knowing What You Value and What Matters to You

Knowing What You Value and What Matters to YouValues are simply your ideals and your beliefs about what matters to you and what will make your life the best it can be. Even if you choose to do something that feels unpleasant, if you examine the situation closely, you will see that your choice likely stems from your desire to live in accordance with your values.

The Healing Journey of Infinite Wisdom and Love

The Healing Power of Infinite Wisdom and LoveI always had a feeling inside that there was something more to life. In a sense I had a great life—two wonderful kids, a husband, a successful business, a house—but even with all the trappings of what one might call “success” I found that life felt empty and meaningless. Often I would ask God, “What am I doing here? What is the point of all of this?”

Five Habits of Compassionate Men

Five Habits of Compassionate Men

I remember being a very compassionate child. But by the time a boy reaches five or six years old “he’s learned to repress every emotion except anger, because anger is the only emotion society tells a boy he is allowed to have.” It is obvious men need to transcend this conditioning to become compassionate.

Why "Don’t Worry, Be Happy" Doesn’t Work For Some

Why "Don’t Worry, Be Happy" Doesn’t Work For Some

The ability to look on the bright side when times get tough — and, conversely, always expecting the worst — may be hardwired in the brain. “It’s the first time we’ve been able to find a brain marker that really distinguishes negative thinkers from positive thinkers...”

Why You Aren’t Happy Right Now

Why You Aren’t Happy Right NowBesides our worry thoughts about the future, there is another type of story we are telling ourselves which gives us a lot of anguish. These are the ‘if only’ stories: ‘If only he’d listen, I’d be happy. If only the sun was shining, I’d be happy. If only I had a little more money in the bank..."

Are You Living Your Life Natural or Regular?

Are You Living Your Life Natural or Regular?

It is becoming clear to me that the way most of us have lived our lives has not been in harmony with the way the universe intended. It seems that we have somehow lost touch with the loving flow of life, our rhythm of being, our sense of peacefulness about ourselves and satisfaction with what we are and what we are here to do.

Everyone Desires Happiness... Yes, Everyone!

Everyone Desires Happiness -- Yes, Everyone! article by B. Alan WallaceIt’s easy to like some people and it’s not very easy to like others. They don’t smile back! So it has to go deeper. If we continue to judge people on the basis of appearances and behavior, the endeavor is hopeless. Instead we have to return to a very simple truth...

Fear: The Core of Your Problems

Fear: The Core of Your Problems

The idea that we create our own reality — that is, the concept of the mirror universe — often seems to ring true, but it also raises some troubling questions. Sometimes it’s easy to see this principle at work in our lives, but other times, especially when things aren’t going very well, it can be...

Creating Your Own Nest of Peace

Creating Your Own Nest of Peace

Finding peace in your lives and relationships, especially if you feel stressed with financial, health, or relationship challenges, can sometimes seem almost impossible. And yet finding that peace is essential. There is a story of a king who offered a prize to the artist who could paint the best picture of peace...


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