Why Young Men Have Sex They Don’t Actually Want

Why Young Men Have Sex They Don’t Actually WantHeterosexual men have unwanted sex with women for two reasons, interviews with 39 college men suggest: in order to conform to gender expectations and to avoid uncomfortable interactions.

Why Do We Always Seem To Repeat The Same Lesson?

Why Do We Always Seem To Repeat The Same Lesson?Have you ever noticed that lessons tend to repeat themselves? Does it seem as if you married or dated the same person several times in different bodies with different names? Have you run into the same type of boss over and over again? Do you find yourself having the same problem with many different coworkers?

The Horror And Pleasure Of Misused Words

The Horror And Pleasure Of Misused WordsAmerican film director Judd Apatow once confessed to Stephen Colbert that he’d been mispronouncing his wife's name for nearly two decades. He’d been saying “Lez-lee”, while she pronounces it as “Less-lee”. When he asked her why she hadn’t corrected his mistake, she said she “thought he wouldn’t be able to make the adjustment”. 

Why Men Also Get Postnatal Depression

Why Men Also Get Postnatal DepressionOver the past few years, there has been an increase in media reports about postnatal depression and other maternal mental illnesses, and campaigns have led to greater understanding about the need for more specialist services.

Americans Agree About What Makes Them Feel Loved

Americans Agree About What Makes Them Feel LovedPeople in the United States may largely agree about what gestures and actions make them feel most loved. In a new study, researchers found that small, non-romantic gestures—like someone showing compassion or snuggling with a child—topped the list of what makes people feel loved.

When Is The Right Time For Your Child To Take A Test?

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Standardized tests have become the primary tool for determining a student’s academic ability. Legislators and administrators use test data to evaluate the effectiveness of schooling on children and create curriculum.

Why Parents Should Never Spank Children

Why Parents Should Never Spank Children

There is no research evidence that spanking improves child behavior. On the contrary, spanking is associated with aggression, antisocial behavior, mental health problems and negative relationships with parents. 

Why Is It Nice To Be Nice?

Why Is It Nice To Be Nice?

World Kindness Day is a global 24-hour celebration dedicated to paying-it-forward and focusing on the good. We are encouraged to perform acts of kindness such as giving blood, cleaning a communal microwave at work, or volunteering at a nursing home.

How to Heal a Painful Family Relationship

How to Heal a Painful Family RelationshipOur relationships with parents, children, siblings, and spouses can be very complex puzzles of love and frustration — we can’t live with them and can’t live without them. We often have long-held patterns and painful feelings related to our sense of worth...

Choosing Another Way: Intimacy With Yourself First

Choosing Another Way: Intimacy With Yourself FirstNone of us ever truly forgets the nurturing, warm comfort of the womb. We spend our lives trying to re-create that feeling of being held and protected. Nor do we forget the pain of individuation, of leaving Mother and home. We seek throughout our lives to have the separation and the resulting loneliness filled with meaningful relationships...

Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?

Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?Although most of us don't mind doing favors now and then, unhappily, some people have no qualms about inconveniencing others if doing so helps them achieve their goals. Although helping these people may give us some pleasure initially, our good feelings vanish when we finally realize we are being used.

Honoring Your Sacred Space: Soul and the Heart Center

Honoring Your Sacred Space: Soul and the Heart Center We do not need history to tell us that having created every kind of sacred space around the world has not ensured that human beings are guided by unconditional love and the wisdom of the soul. The missing link is the heart. This is why the wisdom teachings of heart-centeredness are always revolutionary at whatever time and wherever they appear.

Why Asking What Causes Autism Is The Wrong Question

Why Asking What Causes Autism Is The Wrong QuestionThe animal rights charity PETA recently made a link between autism and drinking cow’s milk. The article on its website discussed research that linked a dairy-free diet with a reduction in symptoms of autism in children. 

A Hawai'ian Formula To Free Yourself and Install A New Life

Following A Hawai'ian Formula and Installing A New LifeBeing happy is an attitude to life that is less determined by outside circumstances and more by inner qualities. A person’s character and mind is stable when their inner family is in harmony. As a metaphysician would put it: ‘It’s the same on the inside as the outside.’

How Sharing Parenting Duties Could Be Key To Marital Bliss

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Children And Sleep: How Much Do They Really Need?

Children And Sleep: How Much Do They Really Need?In parenting, there aren’t often straightforward answers, and sleep tends to be contentious. There are questions about whether we are overstating children’s sleep problems.

You Can Catch Your Friend’s Mood, But Not Depression

You Can Catch Your Friend’s Mood, But Not DepressionNew research suggests we can “pick up” good and bad moods from friends, but not depression. “We investigated whether there is evidence for the individual components of mood (such as appetite, tiredness, and sleep) spreading through US adolescent friendship networks..."

When The Things That Trigger Our Emotions Aren't Real

When The Things That Trigger Our Emotions Aren't RealWhen we talk about it on paper, detaching or reducing our level of attachment doesn't sound so dif­ficult. There is no need to complicate anything; we keep it simple, moving from one interaction to another without becoming too attached to any one outcome. But in life it rarely happens this way...

How A Baby's Brain Prepares For The Outside World

How A Baby's Brain Prepares For The Outside WorldThe developing brain is not merely a downsized version of that of an adult, but is uniquely designed to prepare itself for the external world. It has structures and functions whose sole role is to set up the basic circuits required for life after birth

Why More Grandparents Are Raising Their Grandchildren

Why More Grandparents Are Raising Their GrandchildrenSunday, Sept. 10, 2017 is Grandparents Day. Many grandparents will receive loving cards, calls and emails from their grandchildren. However, so-called “custodial grandparents” have primary responsibility for raising one or more of their grandchildren. 

How Men And Women Really See Each Other

How Men And Women Really See Each OtherI saw two very different shows at the Edinburgh Fringe last week, two shows that dealt with the subject of how men and women talk about each other, in very different formats and with very different levels of success.

Words of Wisdom That Changed My Perception

Words of Wisdom That Changed My PerceptionThe list was one I never thought I would make. I stared at the book titles I had jotted down for reference; each of them looked at divorce from a different angle. I felt I was at the end of my rope as I drifted farther and farther away from any hope of restoring the unity we...

My Personal Journey with the Ancestors

My Personal Journey with the AncestorsWhen I was seven years old, my father’s father died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound. His death rippled through the family, particularly affecting my grandmother and his sons. As a child I was shielded from much of this impact, and before this moment I had never...

How To Help Kids Innovate From An Early Age

How To Help Kids Innovate From An Early AgeAs community makerspaces begin to take root in Ontario’s elementary schools, students are behaving better. They are also getting higher grades. What are makerspaces? They’re creative spaces where students can gather to explore, tinker, discover and create, and they’re making students more enthusiastic about school.

Who's Avoiding Intercourse, And Why

Who's Avoiding Intercourse, And WhySex has a strong influence on many aspects of well-being: it is one of our most basic physiological needs. But millions of people spend at least some of their adulthood not having sex.

Swirling Through The Five Stages of Abandonment

Swirling Through The Five Stages of AbandonmentAbout six months into my heartbreak, I had a rude awakening. I was sitting on my bed pulling up my stockings. A mirrored door was ajar and its reflection caught me off guard. In a flash, I recognized the woman hunched over her feet, glowering at the mirror. It was me, caught in a moment of self-revulsion.

How Clean Eating Can Damage Children's Health

How Clean Eating Can Damage Children's Health"Clean eating” is the perfect buzz term for parents who are faced with supermarket shelves full of baby and toddler food which is high in sugar content and low in nutritional value.But while some clean eating plans are focused on a balanced diet, others are extreme.

Seeing Sensitivity as a Strength Instead of a Weakness

Seeing Sensitivity as a Strength Instead of a WeaknessOur indigo kids' are deeply committed to be who they came here to be, and that is likely different from anything that has come before them. It may challenge us as parents, teachers, counselors, and adults, but it is our work to help them find their way in this world. Of course, I would be lying if I...

Being and Communicating with The Elders of the Seas

08 11 elders of the seaFrom the first day of our trip, we were met by the whales. Although I had been in deep communication with the whales and had received instructions for the structure and practices for the trip in the year prior our journey,  I was still blown away by the magnitude of what we experienced.

Are You Hiding? Come Out Come Out Whoever You Are!

Are You Hiding? Come Out Come Out Whoever You Are!A big clue that you’re caught up in the concern for looking good is if you’re burned out, stuck, deadened, resistant, or experiencing a loss of purpose or inner peace. That’s a signal that somewhere in there the real you is missing. When you feel that way, your energy...

Dump Your Parent Issues: They Are Messing Up Your Life!

Dump Your Parent Issues: They Are Messing Up Your Life!Parent issues are some of the worst and most longstanding issues we can have. When children do not have what they need, they spend the rest of their lives trying to change that. After they become adults, their attempts to find those missing pieces can create...

How To Be Yourself and Be Strong in a Sad or Anxious Family

How To Be Yourself and Be Strong in a Sad or Anxious FamilyIt is human to despair, and it is human to worry. But when either of these realities, or both at once, becomes the predom­inant coloration of family life, then you must contend both with your sad and anxious family members and with your own “sympathetic” sadness and anxiety.

Millennial Bashing In Medieval Times: Same Old, Same Old?

Millennial Bashing In Medieval Times: Same Old, Same Old?In Sir Thomas Malory’s ‘Le Morte d'Arthur,’ a character complains that young people are too sexually promiscuous. 14th- and 15th-century texts hold a lesson for the 21st century. Anxieties about “kids these days” are misguided, not because nothing changes, but because historical change cannot be predicted. 

How To Have A Satisfying Relationship?

How To Have A Satisfying Relationship?

When Joan Holloway – the bombshell office worker on the show “Mad Men” – enters a room, she knows she looks good and is going to turn heads.

The 3 Parts of Relationship Commitment

The 3 Parts of Relationship CommitmentWhat does it mean to be fully committed in a monogamous relationship? The traditional meaning has to do with focusing your romantic energies only upon your partner. You are not committed if you have “one foot outside the door,” meaning you are still available for romantic relationship with another person.

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