The Ongoing Search for Love

The Ongoing Search for LoveThe search for love is one all humans, throughout lifetimes, have experienced. We search for those connections in each lifetime. It is our reason for being. We look for love believing we have to alter ourselves in some way in order to attract it, when in fact we need to be loved for who we are.

How A Doula Helps Women Giving Birth?

How A Doula Helps Women Giving Birth?

Women have traditionally been supported by a companion during childbirth, and there is good evidence this benefits both the woman and the baby.

Why We Need A New Philosophy Of Sex

Why We Need A New Philosophy Of Sex

A number of years ago, I found myself at a public sex beach in southern France for research purposes. Unsurprisingly, I experienced some ethical dilemmas.

The Secret To Ovulation Is In Women's Faces But Men Can't See It

The Secret To Ovulation Is In Women's Faces But Men Can't See ItIt’s not difficult to tell when a female chimpanzee is in heat. As she nears ovulation  — the point in her cycle when she’s most fertile  –  her bottom swells up like a balloon and turns bright pink. Humans are obviously different. We don’t make a show of how fertile we are. But does this mean that women have evolved to conceal ovulation?

Parents Of Girls Are Less Likely To Stress Computer Skills

Parents Of Girls Are Less Likely To Stress Computer SkillsWhile most first-year college students in a new study had positive feelings about computing and computer-related majors and jobs, gender and socioeconomic status seemed to play a role in whether parents shaped those perceptions.

How To Talk To Children About Terrorism

How To Talk To Children About TerrorismDistressing events like terrorist attacks affect us all in different ways.hile adults often have enough life experience to be able to take a long-term perspective towards such disasters, children can face different challenges.

How You Can Help A Friend With Depression

How You Can Help A Friend With Depression
Depression is a common mental health problem that can affect people at many different stages in life. How bad it gets and how long it lasts can really vary. It’s often something that people find hard to talk about, as many people don’t really understand what it is.

Why We Succeed Or Fail With Help From Our Friends

Why We Succeed Or Fail With Help From Our Friends
To understand why people succeed or fail, look at their circle of friends. Like it or not, says economist Matthew Jackson, people’s fates are closely connected to their human networks.

How Mobile Devices Have Changed Family Time

How Mobile Devices Have Changed Family Time
There is now widespread concern about the amount of time children spend staring at screens – with many people worried about the negative impacts mobile devices might have on health and well-being.

The Five Best Parenting Books Grounded In Science

The Five Best Parenting Books Grounded In Science
New parenting books seem to pop up all the time. How to do it the French way, the Tiger Mom way, the New Kid by Friday way, or how to just muddle through – the choice can be a little overwhelming.

Study Habit Tips For Student Success

Study Habit Tips For Student Success
Right now, thousands of Australian school children and university students are taking a well-earned break from the classroom.

Does The Suzuki Method Work For Kids Learning An Instrument?

Does The Suzuki Method Work For Kids Learning An Instrument?

Giving children an instrumental music education can be expensive. In addition to purchasing an instrument and paying the cost of music lessons, parents invest their time by encouraging practice, attending recitals and driving their child to and from lessons.

How To Protect Young Athletes From Abusive Coaches

How To Protect Young Athletes From Abusive CoachesThe federal government in Canada has announced new initiatives aimed at keeping young athletes safe from abuse and harassment. “No athlete or child should ever experience abuse and my heart breaks for those that have suffered...”

Why Our Relationship With Dick Pics Is Complicated

Why Our Relationship With Dick Pics Is Complicated
Why do men send dick pics? Some research and popular commentary suggests it is for reasons of narcissism and over-confidence. Some men no doubt send them in the hopes of receiving a nude photo in kind, or because they genuinely believe that’s what women desire.

The Real Reason British Teenagers Are So Unhappy

The Real Reason British Teenagers Are So Unhappy
Children’s mental health has become one of British society’s most pressing issues. Children growing up in the UK are said to be some of the unhappiest in the industrialized world. The UK now has the highest rates of self harm in Europe.

How Words Affect The Way We Think

How Words Affect The Way We Think
Have you ever worried in your student years or later in life that time may be starting to run out to achieve your goals?

Living An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself

Living An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself
You cannot avoid truth. It is better to face it, it is better to accept it, it is better to live it. Right now, when you say something, your body says something else; when your tongue says something, your eyes go on saying something else simultaneously.

We're All Learning: Seeking Progress, Not Perfection

We're All Learning: Seeking Progress, Not Perfection
Children are learning how emotions work, what to do with the challenging ones and how to create helpful ones, and the power of paying attention to their bodies and feelings in becoming emotionally healthy.

How Does A Vasectomy Work And Can It Be Reversed?

How Does A Vasectomy Work And Can It Be Reversed?
Some men may shudder at the thought of “the snip”. But vasectomies are a safe and effective form of contraception for men who have completed their family, or don’t wish to have children.

Is Love Losing Its Soul In The Digital Age?

Is Love Losing Its Soul In The Digital Age?
Instagram users have taken to issuing “weekiversary posts,” where they diligently mark the duration of their romances. This phenomenon makes some doubt the intensity of their own relationship.

You Need More Than Just Testes To Make A Penis

You Need More Than Just Testes To Make A Penis
In prenatal ultrasounds or at delivery, many new parents look between their baby’s legs: the presence of a penis is taken as a strong sign that it’s a boy.

The Power of Listening and Observing

The Power of Listening and Observing
There is nothing wrong with setting goals, making plans, and then moving into action! Having a sense of direction and actively moving forward in that direction are essential if you want to make a meaningful difference in the world. However, telling life what it has to be and then doing whatever it takes to make that happen can significantly limit our possibilities. It can also lead to a lot of unnecessary pressure and stress.

Sacred Partnership: Letting Our Love Flow Into The World

Sacred Partnership: Letting Our Love Flow Into The World
Today, I am committed to spending every day that Charlie and I are together being kind, caring, considerate and loving. There has been enough pain, fear, and suffering. I am determined to see how much beauty and love I can create. And every day, I say a prayer of gratitude for having my life, my health, a devoted husband, my children, grandchildren, friends, and work that I love.

How Your Relationship May Be Better Than You Think

How Your Relationship May Be Better Than You Think
There’s an old saying, “When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” In other words, before you give up, take matters into your own hands and try a little harder.

Considering Using IVF To Have A Baby? Here's What You Need To Know

Considering Using IVF To Have A Baby? Here's What You Need To Know
You don’t look infertile, you don’t feel infertile, but after many months (or years) of trying to start a family, followed by several months of monitoring your cycle in a fertility clinic, it’s time to discuss IVF.

5 Tips To Help Your Kids Succeed In Sports

5 Tips To Help Your Kid Succeed In Sport
Here are five points for parents, athletes and sporting organisations to consider for talented sports programs – and kids playing sport in general.

Fulfilling Relationships: You Make The Difference

Fulfilling Relationships: You Make The Difference
We all need friends, lovers, companions, people with whom we can share our joys, sorrows, fears, and successes. These interactions touch and nourish us at our deepest levels. Yet often we remain distant and detached from...

Being On The Same Page: A Human Being Cannot Exist As An Island

Being On The Same Page: A Human Being Cannot Exist As An Island
The truth is that a human being cannot exist as an island. We cannot thrive alone. We don’t want to be excluded. The truth is, we desperately want to belong to each other. And the highest truth of all is that in a universe where oneness is the highest truth of all, there is nothing in this universe that we don’t belong with and there is nothing in existence that doesn’t belong with us.

Children's Voices and Hearts Need Our Listening Ear

Children's Voices and Hearts Need A Listening Ear
In Africa, it is understood that children hold the knowledge and gifts that ensure the survival of the village and the tribe. In essence, the child is the king of the village. Children complete the community! When a child walks into...

Giving Advice To Your Grown-up Children?

Giving Advice To Your Grown-up Children?
Giving advice is one of the points of greatest tension and conflict. But giving advice often makes matters worse. Your decision to advise or not to advise falls largely on your ability to keep your ego out of the proceedings.

How Joking Around With Your Brothers And Sisters Shapes Your Sense Of Humor

How Joking Around With Your Brothers And Sisters Shapes Your Sense Of Humor
Two siblings are playing on the living room floor. The girl, aged six, looks at her brother, and smiling, sings: “A, B, C, D, E, F – R!” Her older brother, aged seven, grins and joins in with: “H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O, PEE! Get it? Pee! Pee-pee!” Both fall about laughing.

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

This past year, many people deleted their social media accounts following revelations about privacy violations on social media platforms and other concerns related to hate speech.

Will You Be Old And Unbefriended?

Will You Be Old And Unbefriended?
For the first time in Canada’s history, more people are living alone or without children, according to the 2016 Census. Coupled with increasing life expectancy and geographic mobility, the chance of aging without a partner or children is significant.

Can You Life-Hack Your Way To Love?

Can You Life-hack Your Way To Love?
There’s never been a shortage of dating advice from family, friends and self-help authors. Yet in the digital age, people are turning to nerdy hacker-types as guides.

How Online Dating Can Be Deceptive

How Online Dating Can Be Deceptive
On the internet, you can become anyone you want to – at least for a while. And though deception doesn’t fit well with lasting romance, people lie all the time

Self Care and Nurturing Practices for the New Year (and Beyond)

Self Care and Nurturing Practices for the New Year (and Beyond)
If you’re like me, you might be finding that you need a bit of a breather this month. It’s important to take time to rest, to let everything settle in, shake out, and shake down, and allow the inner and outer transformations that we have all experienced to take root deeply within our bodies, our psyches, and our souls.

Accepting The Kid and Rediscovering Our Original Self

Accepting The Kid and Rediscovering Our Original Self
So many of us go through life trying to be better than someone else, or better than who we think we are, or better than who we've been. Just as Bruce Willis's character in The Kid, we go around trying to "achieve" -- achieve changing ourselves, changing others, and changing...

How To Identify, Understand And Teach Gifted Children

How To Identify, Understand And Teach Gifted Children
The beginning of the 2019 school year will be a time of planning and crystal-gazing. Teachers will plan their instructional agenda in a general way. Students will think about another year at school.

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

This past year, many people deleted their social media accounts following revelations about privacy violations on social media platforms and other concerns related to hate speech.

Caring About The Collective In An Age Of Individualism

Caring About The Collective In An Age Of IndividualismWhen it comes to urban planning, the question is not so much how to physically plan our cities differently. Rather, the question is how to convince both the public and our politicians to implement change.

Fast Food Chains Use Cute Animal Toys To Market Meat To Children

Fast Food Chains Use Cute Animal Toys To Market Meat To ChildrenThe news that McDonald’s has launched a new plant-based “Happy Meal” for children based on a vegan “wrap” would seem to bear this idea out. McDonald’s new offering is the latest in a wave of vegetarian or vegan product launches

'Tis The Season For Conception

'Tis The Season For ConceptionDoes it ever seem like you’re invited to an awful lot of summer birthday gatherings? For good reason.

How Good Arguments Can Stop Extremism

How Good Arguments Can Stop ExtremismMany of my best friends think that some of my deeply held beliefs about important issues are obviously false or even nonsense.

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or More

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or MoreWhat brings a person to consider celibacy for a few months or years cannot be easily explained. It will take some time to reap the results of greater tolerance for sexual feelings without needing to act on them in conventional ways. Sex will become more of a choice than a need.

Embracing Nature: Gazing and the Dance of Touch

Embracing Nature: Gazing and the Dance of Touch The practice of looking into someone’s eyes and holding his or her gaze stimulates the sensations and presence of the body so strongly that it can almost be thought of as touch at a distance. The primary reason that many people find gazing into another’s eyes so challenging and daunting...

The Emotional Landscape: How To Deal with Challenging Emotions

The Emotional Landscape: How To Deal with Challenging EmotionsOur children feel things deeply, including surprise, delight, disgust, anger, frustration, revenge, jealousy, and enthusiasm. They often don’t even have the words to communicate their feelings, which is why they sometimes act them out inappropriately, but once they learn...

Shaming Your Children On Social Media: Good or Bad?

Shaming Your Children On Social Media: Good or Bad?Matt Cox knew he would be criticized when he forced his 10-year-old daughter to walk 5 miles to school in 36-degree weather as her punishment for being suspended from the school bus twice for bullying.

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's Rhetoric

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's RhetoricFrom Franklin D. Roosevelt’s fireside chats to Ronald Reagan’s reputation as the “great communicator” to Barack Obama’s soaring oratory to Donald Trump’s Twitter use, styles of presidential communication have varied over time.

The Truth About FASD and Drinking Alcohol While Pregnant

The Truth About FASD and Drinking Alcohol While PregnantFetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) is often overlooked and understudied. Caused by prenatal alcohol exposure, it is sometimes referred to as an “invisible disorder.”

When You Have Two Lovers, The Holidays Can Be Tricky

When You Have Two Lovers, The Holidays Can Be TrickyImagine you’re going home for the holidays, and this year you’re introducing a new partner to your family. Slightly awkward? Ok. Now imagine your old partner is there as well. Oh, and they’re still your partner too.

The Science Of Saying Goodbye To Santa

The Science Of Saying Goodbye To SantaSanta here. I know this season has been hard. Your eight-year-old looked at you baldfaced and said I wasn’t real. How can this be? Is the innocence and magic already gone?

Teaching Our Children About Love, Emotions, and Relationships

Teaching Our Children About Love, Emotions, and RelationshipsA great irony of human existence is that love, which is arguably the single most desired goal in life, is so poorly understood and so hard for us to master. Given its importance, we might expect that enormous resources would be spent on understanding how to attain love.

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