The 3 Parts of Relationship Commitment

The 3 Parts of Relationship CommitmentWhat does it mean to be fully committed in a monogamous relationship? The traditional meaning has to do with focusing your romantic energies only upon your partner. You are not committed if you have “one foot outside the door,” meaning you are still available for romantic relationship with another person.

Letting Go of Inner Conflict and Relationship Baggage

Letting Go of Inner Conflict and Relationship BaggageIt is quite sad to see how many relationship cri­ses today are not about the relationship; they are about thoughts of old relationships. These couples don’t have a chance. They can’t even experience the potential of the new relationship because they aren’t in it.

Why Young People Need Diverse Books

Why Young People Need Diverse BooksAll children need to see inspiring, courageous characters–who look like them–in literature.

Learning To Communicate Honestly With Others

Learning To Communicate Honestly With Others: First Be Honest With YourselfWhat does it take to communicate honestly with other people? First of all, it takes knowing your own mind. But when it comes to communicating honestly with others, knowing yourself isn’t enough. Communicating with others is a skill – but not necessarily a skill we’re born with!

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!When you live with the belief that something about you makes you weak or not good enough, it is difficult to enter into mutual relationships seeking the best for each person. When you do not see your own belovedness and magnificence, it's difficult to think about being a healthy person, much less imagining a mutual relationship...

Being A Parent: The Role of a Lifetime

Being A Parent: The Role of a Lifetime
In the month of June, we celebrate Father’s Day, which provides me another opportunity to reflect on my own role as a parent. Of all my roles—daughter, sister, wife, friend, professor—the most profound for me has been parenthood. It has been my greatest gift...

How A Two Dad Family Raises Their Kids

How A Family With 2 Dads Raise Their KidsKentucky family court judge W. Mitchell Nance says he refuses to hold hearings on same-sex couples’ adoptions “as a matter of conscience.”

5 Sleeping Beauty Relationship Rules

5 Sleeping Beauty Relationship Rules"A childless royal couple finally has a baby... Life spins along normally for the next sixteen or so years. One day, the princess discovers..."

Does Spoon Feeding Make Babies Overweight?

Does Spoon Feeding Make Babies Overweight?Deciding when and how to introduce babies to solid foods can be overwhelming for parents. But aside from timing and amount, could how babies are introduced to solid foods also make a difference to their health?

When Our Children ‘Come Out’

 When Our Children ‘Come Out’ Of The ClosetI believe it is important for every parent to keep in their heart the possibility that their child might one day “come out” to them. Barry and I were totally surprised when our son came out to us when he was nineteen. We had no idea.

How To Be Who You Are By Expressing Your Truth

How To Be Who You Are By Expressing Your TruthPart of self-expression is claiming your originality. You are unique and special and you should tell the world who you are! One of the good ways social media has helped our culture is to encourage originality. 

Trust Is The Foundation of Love, Yet How Do You Build It?

Trust Is The Foundation of Love, Yet How Do You Build It?Trust is the foundation of love. Yet how do you build it? With monotonous regularity you hear your friends and colleagues say, "You can't trust anyone anymore." Almost every popular magazine you open has an article about how couples cheat on each other. Yes, a majority of married men and women do...

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another Way

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another WayI can remember like yesterday sitting at the dinner table as a child with my parents and siblings and feeling like the world was going to end. My parents would openly discuss current events. I thought to myself what will be in this world? How will I be safe? What can the future look like when these terrible things are happening all the time?

Why Birth Order Personalities Develop

Why Birth Order Personalities DevelopBirth Order Personalities develop as coping strategies each one of us used as children to make ourselves feel okay in our particular positions in the family.

7 Things You Probably Don't Know About Midwives

7 Things You Probably Don't Know About MidwivesThe term “midwife” can conjure up images of a stern matron, or, in the more modern era, a back-rubbing, hand-holding, motivational cheerleader who can make or break the birthing experience. Midwives are so much more than those two stereotypes.

When Love Turns To Hatefully Ever After

When Love Turns To Hatefully Ever AfterIt’s often said that the opposite to love is not hate, it’s indifference. Why then are some of us so seemingly fickle in our ability to switch from love to hate in an instant? The Conversation

Why Some Dads Aren't Being The Dads They Want To Be

Why Dads Can't Be The Dads They Want To Be

In most families, mothers and fathers both work hard. Pew Research recently reported that moms and dads in the U.S. work essentially equal hours when paid work hours are combined with household chores and child care hours. The Conversation

How To Make Mothers' Day Special For Mom

How To Make Mothers' Day Special For MomWhether your mother lives in her own home, with you, in a facility, or a long distance from you, there are many things you can do to make Mothers' Day a special day for her. * Plan to spend loving, compassionate, quality time with her. * Engage her in discussions about her past and where she is now in this stage of her life...

Your Exes Share More Than Being Just Your Type

Your Exes Share More Than Being Your Just Your TypeWhat do your exes have in common? A new study finds that the people we date share many similarities—both in terms of appearance and personality.

7 Primary Ingredients For A REALationship

7 Primary Ingredients For A REALationshipREALationship. Okay, it’s a cute word. But what does it mean to have a real relationship, a relationship with substance? What does it take to have a relationship that not only lasts, but also thrives with loving connection?

How To Help Your Children Develop A Sense Of Humor

How To Help Your Children Develop A Sense Of HumorTry a pun or some sarcasm on a toddler and you’re likely to draw a blank stare. Babies can be even harder to impress – ignoring your best clown impressions while laughing at some completely random event.

How Parents Can Help Autistic Children Make Sense Of Their World

How Parents Can Help Autistic Children Make Sense Of Their WorldPersonal narrative is a common stumbling block for people with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Fortunately, parents of children with ASD can help them improve these skills, becoming better storytellers and helping them make sense of the world around them.

Be The Love Of Your Life and Get Ready To Be Happy!

Be The Love Of Your Life and Get Ready To Be Happy!When we are always looking for something or some­one to complete us, we soon feel as if we’re living in hell. Happiness and love go hand in hand, and we are taught that not only our happiness but also our love are somewhere “out there.”

Why You ABSOLUTELY Must Love Yourself And How You Can Do It

Why You ABSOLUTELY Must Love Yourself And How You Can Do ItWhen I first heard of the concept of Self Love, I laughed out loud. I was sure it was the most pretentious and ridiculous idea I’d ever heard. I ridiculed the concept for a good long minute and gave it hell. Then I went back to despising myself (that was so much more “humble” and “honorable”).

How You Can Negotiate Love

How You Can Negotiate LoveIf you're in a relationship and are ready to deal with your conflicts, don't be afraid. You and your partner have the power to share your feelings and needs -- and reach agreement peacefully. Is it possible for you and your partner to resolve smoothly the differences that arise in your relationship?

Why Kids Struggle To Safely Cross Busy Streets

Why Kids Struggle To Safely Cross Busy StreetsChildren under a certain age don’t have the perceptual judgment and motor skills to cross a busy road consistently without putting themselves in danger, report researchers.

Why Romantic Relationships Offer Opportunities To Re-discover And Share Love

Relationships Offer Opportunities To Re-discover And Share LoveYou may be attracted to someone when you first meet but it may be on a physical level mostly. When the excitement of that original feeling fades, you may feel something is wrong with the relationship. In actuality, you only misunderstood the meaning of relationships.

Why Our Eyes Give Away What We’re Feeling Inside

Why Our Eyes Give Away What We’re Feeling InsideWhy are our eyes so expressive? It started as a universal reaction to environmental stimuli, new research suggests, and evolved to communicate emotion.

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship Matters

Why Who Wears The Pants In A Relationship MattersWhen it comes to power in romantic relationships, men are often cast as dominant and women as deferential. But working against this are caricatures of domineering women with their “hen-pecked husbands” and “whipped boyfriends.” The Conversation

Why You Need To Befriend Yourself

Why You Need To Befriend YourselfIt is a paradox that if we cannot open our hearts to ourselves, then we have no foundation for dealing with other people lovingly and compassionately. We've been trained not to ask loving and compassionate questions of ourselves. 

Why Is It Important To Get Real and “Love Smart”?

Getting Real and “Loving Smart”It’s up to you to take smart risks with love. You don’t want to put your heart in the care of anybody who’s going to hide their true self, treat you poorly, and/or turn out to be psychologically unavailable. Trust must be earned and renewed regularly by our actions.

In Relationships Actions Speak Louder Than Words

In Relationships Actions Speak Louder Than WordsI had a man tell me that the problem women have is that we get more hung up on a man's words than we do their actions. He meant that we don't always see if a man walks his talk.

Why We Become Cynical and How We Can Get Out Of It

How To Break Out of Our Patterns of CynicismOne of the biggest traps in life is cynicism. Cynicism is not the same as questioning, doubting or being skeptical. If we are just skeptical we have an open mind, but just need more proof. If we are cynical we have already made up our mind...

Why Men And Women Lie About Sex

Why Men And Women Lie About SexWhen it comes to reporting the number of sex partners or how often they have sexual intercourse, men and women both lie. While men tend to overreport it, women have a tendency to underreport it.

Recognizing and Honoring Uniqueness by Calling Animals And Humans By Name

Recognizing and Honoring Uniqueness by Calling Animals And Humans By NameIn the 1990s, many of the equestrians I encountered believed that ani­mals were incapable of thought and emotion. “It’s all instinct,” one of my trainers told me whenever I brought up anecdotal evidence to the contrary. Some of the local ranchers insisted that, unlike dogs, horses weren’t smart enough to recognize their own names.

Thoughts On Creating Loving Relationships

Thoughts On Creating Loving RelationshipsIn today's changing times, we are looking for a better way to be ourselves, not someone we were raised to be. In this time of intense self-discovery, all others serve as our mirrors.

What To Do When Emotional Triggers Set Us Off

Triggers as Teachers: Staying on Your Recovery PathTriggers are hooks that summon emotional experiences of other times when you were frightened, harmed, and helpless. When you succumb to a trigger, you feel a sense of guilt, shame, and failure as you add another layer of fear, punishment, and helplessness to your original experience...

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You KnewWe are often quick to make judgements on what we perceive to be happening when children behave in a way that draws attention – but when a young person with autism is struggling to cope with the world, the last thing they need is our criticism. The Conversation

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your Enemy

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your EnemyThe shift from living with attachment to the judgmental mind to living with kindness is perhaps the most important part of our work with the critic. It requires us to embrace all of who we are — the good, the bad, and the ugly. This can require a radical shift in our inner world...

Why Peers Motivate Us To Learn More Than Teachers

Why Peers Motivate Us To Learn More Than Teachers“Why do I have to learn this?” is a common question among young adults. New research suggests an answer from their peers has more weight than one from their teachers.

Why I'm Not Lonely Anymore

Why I'm Not Lonely Anymore

I remember feeling unloved, under-appreciated, ignored, and lonely. Lonelier than I ever thought imaginable.

How To Dine & Live with Passion

How To Dine & Live with PassionPassion is a very holy thing. You can lose many material things, but if you lose your passion, you're a goner.

What Second Languages Should Children Be Learning?

What Second Languages Should Children Be Learning?There are 7,099 known languages in the world today. Choosing which of these to teach our children as a second language is an important decision

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD Behavior

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD BehaviorWhenever we react to a person’s behavior--particularly a child’s--we can do it in either of two primary ways. One addresses the individual’s personhood and ties it to his behavior, and the other addresses his personhood and disconnects it from his behavior. This is a critical distinction.

Children Understand Far More About Other Minds

Children Understand Far More About Other MindsUntil a few decades ago, scholars believed that young children know very little, if anything, about what others are thinking.

How Does Culture Influence Our Communication and Body Language

Culture: The Big External Influence in Communication and Body LanguageAll animals have a culture and a language associated with that culture. Whether the language contains words or some other vocalization, all of these cultures will include body language. For example, horses are limited in vocabulary to a series of soft snickerings...

The Children Of The Wind: Intelligence Without Humility

The Children Of The Wind: Intelligence Without HumilityThis Greek tale is concerned with one of the great mysteries of the family: Where do our gifts and talents come from? It suggests that the misuse of inherited gifts can end in disaster, and that it is up to us to use our talents to serve rather than control life. 

How To Teach Sex Education To Young Offenders

How To Teach Sex Education To Young OffendersGiven the lack of quality sex and relationship education in British schools, and that sexual and reproductive health has traditionally been seen as the domain of females

Women Troll On Dating Apps Just As Often As Men

Women Troll On Dating Apps Just As Often As MenOnline dating is an increasingly popular way for people to find love, but that also makes it an attractive target for those with less than romantic intentions.

The Saboteur Archetype Holds The Disowned Aspects of Your Heart

The Saboteur Archetype Holds The Disowned Aspects of Your HeartThe shadow shows us the parts that are buried deep within, occupy our subconscious mind, and often emerge unexpectedly, in destructive ways. The saboteur archetype can cause you to sabotage opportunities, resist healthy and enriching relationships...

Too Much TV May Delay Kindergarten Readiness

Too Much TV May Delay Kindergarten ReadinessWatching television for more than a couple of hours a day is linked to lower school readiness skills in kindergartners, particularly among children from low-income families.

How Love and Oneness Are Possible in Our World

How Love and Oneness Are Possible in Our WorldFor most of us, the word oneness is gibberish. Perhaps it’s a concept with a nice ring, but it refers to nothing real in our experience. If we look closely, we see that we are different from every person we know in all respects.

Active Lessons Can Boost Children's Learning And Health

Active Lessons Can Boost Children's Learning And HealthThe natural order of the classroom has always been for pupils to sit. Whether this involves, talking, discussing, working in groups, or listening to the teacher, most of the time this is all done from the comfort of a chair. The Conversation

How To Make Your Baby Sleep Better

How To Make Your Baby Sleep BetterA friend of mine recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, but within months she was at the end of her tether with sleep deprivation.

How Teachers See Parents Can Influence Kids

How Teachers See Parents Can Influence KidsTeacher ratings of parental involvement early in a child’s academic career can accurately predict the child’s academic and social success, new research shows.

What It Takes to Change Hearts and Minds

What It Takes to Change Hearts and MindsTo get someone’s support, you need more than just facts. The most effective method is aligning communication about your cause with the most deeply-held values and aspirations of your friends, relatives, neighbors, and fellow citizens.

There Were Same-Sex Marriage Ceremonies In Renaissance Rome

There Were Same-Sex Marriage Ceremonies In Renaissance RomeIn the late 16th century, the famous French essayist Michel de Montaigne wrote about two marriages between people of the same sex. At the time, same-sex marriages were not recognized by religious or civil law...

How Music Benefits Children On Many Levels

How Music Benefits Children On Many LevelsPopular ideas, such as the “Mozart effect” – the idea that listening to classical music improves intelligence – has encouraged the belief that “music makes you smarter”.

How To Turn Your Emotional Baggage Into Dating Success

How To Turn Your Emotional Baggage Into Dating SuccessIt may seem that new relationships are entirely fuelled by dreams and hopes for a perfect future. But the past can have a powerful influence too – often more so than we would like to admit

Why Is Tinder So Evilly Satisfying?

Why Is Tinder So Evilly Satisfying?In America, 60 percent of digital media consumption now occurs on mobile or tablet devices instead of desktop computers.

How To Be The Grown-Up In The Room While Raising Kids

How To Be The Grown-Up In The Room While Raising KidsIn my book Parenting Without Power Struggles, I described three ways that parents can engage with their children: being confidently and calmly in charge, negotiating for power, or fighting their child for control.

What Plato Can Teach You About Finding A Soulmate

What Plato Can Teach You About Finding A SoulmateIn the beginning, humans were androgynous. So says Aristophanes in his fantastical account of the origins of love in Plato’s Symposium.

Here’s The Science Behind These 5 Classic Love Songs

Here’s The Science Behind These 5 Classic Love SongsIn honor of Valentine’s Day, here are five love songs that pose serious scientific questions. Experts from the University of Melbourne offer insights about the evolution of love, how it changes our bodies, and what human couples can learn from prairie voles and spiders.

Why You Should Date Your Best Friend

Why You Should Date Your Best FriendBeing someone’s BFF is a big deal – you don’t hand over the other half of your “Best Friends” necklace to just anyone. Having a romantic partner who is also your best friend potentially sounds perfect.

Being Lovesick Was A Real Disease In The Middle Ages

Being Lovesick Was A Real Disease In The Middle AgesLove sure does hurt, as the Everly Brothers knew very well. And while it is often romanticised or made sentimental, the brutal reality is that many of us experience fairly unpleasant symptoms when in the throes of love.

Why Do Men and Women Feel Things Differently?

Men and Women Feel Things DifferentlyMany studies have shown that women's brains are wired differently from men's so they can both feel and recall both positive and negative emotions more strongly than men. But, just because women seem to be more comfortable in the emotional realm, does not mean that men don't, can't, or shouldn't thrive in it...

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