Why Baby Talk Is Good For Your Baby

baby talkPeople often tell new parents to avoid sing-song “baby talk” with their new addition to the family because it will slow the child’s language development.

Sadness as a Meditation Leads to Peace and Calm

Sadness as a MeditationSadness can become a very enriching experience. You have to work on it. It is easy to escape from your sadness — and all relationships ordinarily are escapes; one simply goes on avoiding it. And it is always there underneath... the current continues...

Older Kids Know Lying Isn’t Always 100% Bad

kids 10 13Younger children have a binary take on truth and lies, whereas older children take intent and outcomes more into consideration, a new study suggests.

How To Overcome That First Date Anxiousness?

How To Overcome That First Date Anxiousness? Does anxiety keep getting in the way of you making connections with the people you’d like to spend more time with? Maybe you’ve just met someone, but are worried that your anxiety will ruin it all.

Can Great Apes Read Your Mind?

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One of the things that defines humans most is our ability to read others’ minds – that is, to make inferences about what others are thinking. To build or maintain relationships, we offer gifts and services – not arbitrarily, but with the recipient’s desires in mind.

Why Don't Feed The Trolls Is Really Good Advice

Why Don't Feed The Trolls Is Really Good AdviceAlmost half the population of the planet now has access to the internet, with about one in three of those people regularly active on social media.

Will I Ever Love Again?

Will I Ever Love Again?People in the throes of a breakup universally express the fear that they will never love again. I was afraid of this myself for a few months after losing my life partner. In the midst of the despair and hopelessness, we believe that losing our loved one means losing the possibility for love and connection forever.

Forgiving Your Children in Advance

Forgiving Your Children in AdvanceIf fear of punishment is a motivation that keeps your daughter from calling you when she needs you the most, you may need to examine your emergency procedures. The chance of real harm befalling her, out there alone in the world, simply because she is afraid to tell you...

How To Be A Conscious Single

How To Be A Conscious SingleUnfortunately, being single today is not easy. One, it is difficult, for a number of reasons, to be at peace with being single. Two, it is very difficult to meet other singles, in most any environment much less a healthy environment or process.

Reality Checklist for Psychological Maturity

Reality Checklist for Psychological MaturityDid you ever wonder what characterizes a psychologically mature person? I’ve thought about it a lot – both on my own personal inner journey of awakening and because I work as a therapist and coach on a daily basis, helping other people with their issues. Here are some of the things I’ve discovered.

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test Scores

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test ScoresNow that the first month of school is over, parents can get ready for the next milestone of the school year – they will soon get reports of the state tests their children took last year.

Adopting Your Own Romantic Manifesto

Adopting A Romantic ManifestoI find satisfaction in the pursuit of love, and a life that gives full expression to the powers of my mind and my body, while keeping open, uncensored, and unmediated lines of communication with the spirit that dwells inside me. . . to work in partnership with the creator in further improving human love and life

When And Why Do We Feel Like Sex?

When And Why Do We Feel Like Sex?Sexual desire can change from moment to moment. One minute you’re feeling frisky, and the next you just feel like a cup of tea and a nap.

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?In the same way that actual grit accumulates in the cracks and crevices of the landscape, our cultural insistence on possessing grit has gradually come to the forefront of child-rearing and education reform.

How Kids Can Benefit From Boredom

How Kids Can Benefit From BoredomFrom books, arts and sports classes to iPads and television, many parents do everything in their power to entertain and educate their children. But what would happen if children were just left to be bored from time to time? How would it affect their development?

How to Raise an Environmentalist

How to Raise an EnvironmentalistWe read it in the news every day. From climate change to overfishing to deforestation, it seems that we are on the brink of a natural disaster on an epic scale. If we cannot do something to reverse these trends, we will surely make our planet uninhabitable.

The Relationship Myth: "If You Don’t Have Something Nice To Say..."

Relationship Myth: "If You Don’t Have Something Nice To Say..."Many of us also have a strong tendency to withhold giving input to others that we fear may cause them to feel upset or angry. We are reluctant to say things to others that aren’t “nice.” Consequently, we may adopt some effec­tive ways of discouraging...

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be Sympathetic

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be SympatheticParents and teachers might often wonder how to teach children caring toward others – more so when the world feels full of disagreement, conflict, and aggression.

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create Pedophiles

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create PedophilesA popular misconception is that most child sex offenders were once victims themselves. The theory is based on the erroneous assumption that they’ve become paedophiles – those preferentially sexually attracted to prepubescent children – because of their victimisation.

Why Teens Need To Start School Later

Why Teens Need To Start School LaterMillions of high schoolers are having to wake up early as they start another academic year. It is not uncommon to hear comments from parents such as, “I have a battle every morning to get my teenager out of bed and off to school. It’s a hard way to start every day.”

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the ProsMany young athletes become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fried by the constant competitive pressure, which includes the overwhelming obsession to win, to gain external recognition, to attain perfection, to fulfill unrealistic expectations, and to measure self-worth solely by results and out­comes.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How To Say No Without Feeling GuiltyTo build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge. One could say that wisdom is knowledge that has been brought into one's heart and experienced as true. We have all been introduced to many ideas and theories from reading books or listening to someone, but until this information has been tested in our own experience, wisdom is not possible.

There Are Two Voices In Your Mind—One Is Always Wrong

There Are Two Voices In Your Mind—One Is Always WrongThere are two voices in our minds. One belongs to the ego, the other to the Holy Spirit (you may call this peaceful inner mes­senger your Higher Power or Great Spirit or Universal Source or whatever name you choose). Both voices are always available to us, but one is very loud and generally gets our attention.

How Threats To A Group Encourages Cooperation

How Threats To A Group Encourages CooperationCharles Darwin was right: Groups enjoy an advantage when their members are “ready to aid one another and to sacrifice themselves for the common good,” according to a new study.

To Understand What Young People Think, Speak Their Language

To Understand What Young People Think, Speak Their LanguageAt times, it can feel like adults are speaking a completely different language when talking to young people. Even small generational divides feel like gaping chasms as each party tries to relate their experiences in a way the other will understand.

Sex May Threaten Older Men’s Heart But Not So For Women

Sex May Threaten Older Men’s Heart But Not So For WomenHaving sex frequently—and enjoying it—may put older men at higher risk for heart attacks and other cardiovascular problems. For older women, however, good sex may actually lower the risk of hypertension.

Why Are Police Inside Public Schools?

African-American boys are arrested at school more often than other students. North Charleston, CC BY-SAChildren across the U.S. have now returned to school. Many of these children are going to schools with sworn police officers patrolling the hallways. These officers, usually called school resource officers, are placed in schools across the country to help maintain school safety.

How To Deal with Conflicts in Friendship

How You Can Deal with Conflicts in FriendshipFriends encourage and support each other in difficult times and generally make a positive impact on each other's lives. However, they're also willing to confront and constructively . So let's take a look at how you can deal with conflict and with saying those things that your friend might not want to hear.

Rewiring the Network: We're All In This Together!

Rewiring the Network: We're All In This Together!Once we realize we are all in the economic matrix together, it becomes apparent how much of our wellbeing is based on relationships, both those we recognize and those of which we are usually unaware. You can see this by simply looking at the clothes you are wearing or considering...

Why Some Children Aren't Physically Ready To Start School

Why Some Children Aren't Physically Ready To Start SchoolThe age at which children start school varies across the world. In Sweden, Denmark and Finland formal education starts at age seven, while in the UK, children often start as young as four.

Why We Need Compassion More Than Ever

Why We Need Compassion More Than EverCompassion is the world's richest energy source. And yet, in human history of late, compassion remains an energy source that goes largely unexplored, untapped, and unwanted. Compassion appears very far away and almost in exile...

How Love, Compassion, and Money Are Linked Together

How Love, Compassion, and Money Are  Linked TogetherThere's a psychological war that goes on in us humans between self-hate and self-love. It's a part of another battle that persists: the energy war between living and dying, building energy and depleting energy. The two issues are wrapped up with abundance and love, and they can very dramatically affect your ability to earn money and pull abundance to you...

Why Is It So Hard To Ignore A Baby's Cry?

Why Is It So Hard To Ignore A Baby's Cry?Have you ever been sat on a flight with a crying baby in your vicinity, wondering more and more with each successive wail how much longer you can stand the sound?

Why Environment And Education Still Matter For Intelligence

Why Environment And Education Still Matter For IntelligenceRecent research has suggested that academic performance, reading ability and IQ have a genetic basis. This reinforces the popular notion that intelligence and related cognitive capacities are somehow “in our genes”.

The Science Of Attraction Of A Suitable Mate

The Science Of Attraction Of A Suitable MateThe selection and attraction of a suitable mate is of fundamental importance to all species. It is perhaps not surprising then that dating programmes, featuring men and women competing for the attentions of a potential partner, are so popular.

How To Help Kids Recover From Disasters

How To Help Kids Recover From DisastersLouisiana’s historic floods have killed at least eight people. As many as 20,000 others have been rescued and thousands have been forced into shelters.

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego Concepts

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego ConceptsHow can you free yourself from being lost in your thoughts? To understand the answer we must examine the chain reaction of thought. Every thought that passes through your mind sets the background for the next one. Your attention keeps reacting to each thought in a way that makes way for the next. For example...

Why We Should Talk To Our Children About Race

Why We Should Talk To Our Children About RaceIt’s a situation that many parents dread. Encountering a black man in the street for the first time, a white child might loudly ask something like: “Mummy, why does that man have dirty skin?”

How Do We Teach A Child To Behave?

punishing behaviorIt’s a universal question: how do we teach a child to behave? Well-known and widely used strategies include the use of positive reward stickers or gold stars, or negative time-outs or detentions.

How Old Is Too Old For A Safe Pregnancy?

How Old Is Too Old For A Safe Pregnancy?This year (2016), an Australian woman delivered a baby at the age of 62 after having in vitro fertilisation (IVF) abroad.

The Blessing of Differences in Relationships

The Blessing of DifferencesDifference exist only on the surface. People sometimes use their differences as an excuse for their lack of closeness. And yet these differences can be a great blessing, and almost force a couple to go to a deeper place where the differences do not exist.

Does Sex On TV Actually Impact Teens?

Does Sex On TV Actually Impact Teens?Few people would doubt that sex is ubiquitous in media – whether movies, television, music or books – and that teens today have unprecedented access to all of it. It’s often taken for granted that this easy access to “sexy media” has an influence on teenage sexuality.

How To Help Your Children Become More Creative

How To Help Your Children Become More CreativeJust about every institution these days is looking for creative individuals. Adults who can innovate in high-quality ways and contribute to the progress of science, engineering and the arts.

Sexual Double Standards May Leave Students Feeling Disempowered

Sexual Double Standards May Leave Students Feeling DisempoweredOver the past few years, there has been a steady flow of articles in magazines, newspapers and online news outlets examining what hookup culture on college campuses means for sexual norms and behaviors among young adults, particularly young women.

Protecting Our Children After The Wounds Of Racism

Protecting Our Children After The Wounds Of RacismI find myself in this place again. I am numb. I feel empty. I almost have no words. In 2012, around the time of the birth of my son, I had a similar feeling. Trayvon Martin was killed. I was pregnant with a black male in a world that was not ready for him.

Do Students Do As Well With Digital Reading vs Paper?

How can digital be adapted? ITU Pictures, CC BYDo students learn as much when they read digitally as they do in print? For both parents and teachers, knowing whether computer-based media are improving or compromising education is a question of concern.

Are Gifted Kids More Sensitive To Screen Violence?

Are Gifted Kids More Sensitive To Screen Violence?The past few weeks have been full of several unfortunate violent events: the massacre in Orlando, the killing of black men by police officers, the sniper attack in Dallas, the Bastille Day attack in France, the violent coup attempt in Turkey and the shooting in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

When Do Nightmares And Night Terrors Stop Being Normal?

 Children will usually wake up from nightmares, remember the content, and be scared. Michael Day/Flickr, CC BYTwo of the most common causes of night waking in children are night terrors and nightmares. Parents often get them confused but they are different, as is how they should be managed.

How Does Internet Porn Affect Romantic Life?

Does Internet Porn Affect Romantic Life?The world of internet pornography is a pervasive and wide reaching technology, growing at a breathtaking rate. It is a $13 billion-a-year industry in the US. Nine out of 10 boys in America are exposed to it before the age of 18, and men are 543% more likely to be users than women.

The Subtle Effects Of 'It's Just A Joke' Language

The Subtle Effects Of 'It's Just A Joke' LanguageWhenever someone is called out for using sexist language, as in the recent case involving Collingwood AFL president Eddie McGuire’s comments about journalist Caroline Wilson, the first line of defence is always “but it was just a joke”.

Sexting Might Actually Be A Sign Of A Committed Relationship

Sexting Might Actually Be A Sign Of A Committed RelationshipWhy do people sext? Why do they send racy or naked photos or videos and sexually loaded texts? For a short-term hookup, sexting might seem like a direct way to get what you want

Children, Ground Rules, and The Inner Compass

Children, Ground Rules, and The Inner CompassSince everyone has an Inner Compass, this means that children do too. But what does this mean in practice for parents and teachers? How do we respect the fact that each child has an Inner Compass without allowing children to become "spoiled brats" or "petty tyrants"?

Should Parents Ask Their Children To Apologize?

A card from daughter to mother. Todd Ehlers, CC BY-NDHave you ever felt deserving of an apology and been upset when you didn’t get one? Have you ever found it hard to deliver the words, I’m sorry?

How Children Learn To Detect Snakes, Spiders And Other Dangerous Things?

How do kids develop fears? Craig Bradshaw, CC BY-NC-NDAs summer approaches, children will be spending less time in the classroom and more time navigating the outside world. Outdoor activities are a fun and exciting part of summertime, but they can also filled with natural (and unnatural) dangers, like fast-moving cars, steep cliffs, crashing waves and even the occasional bear.

Not Just For Mothers But Fathers Also Want To Have It All

male parenting 6 28Have you seen the T-shirt slogan: Dads don’t babysit (it’s called “parenting”)? This slogan calls out the gendered language we often still use to talk about fathers.Have you seen the T-shirt slogan: Dads don’t babysit (it’s called “parenting”)?

Why Nice Guys Do Finish First With Girls

Why Nice Guys Do Finish First With GirlsMaking friends is tough for teenagers. Making friends with the opposite sex can be even tougher. Our research, published in the Journal of Personality, suggests empathy may be the key to developing friendships, and may be especially important for young men establishing supportive friendships with young women.

Being My Father’s Son

Being My Father’s SonIn the absence of a strong father figure, boys and young men pick up on the patriar­chy of society to mold them; they become victims perpetuating their own woundedness. By this estimation, all men are victims of the sins of the fathers, as the Bible tells it, visited generation upon genera­tion.

Truth or Sabotage? The Hidden Value in Direct Communication

Truth or Sabotage? The Hidden Value in Direct CommunicationWe all seek to express our truth. We all must express our truth. There are two ways to express your truth: directly or indirectly. If you do not express your truth directly, it will come out in odd, aberrant, and damaging ways. Self-sabotage or sabotage of others ...

When Science Meets Sex, Lust, Attraction And Attachment

When Science Meets Sex, Lust, Attraction And AttachmentYou are on holiday with your partner of several years. Your relationship is going pretty well, but you wonder if it could be better. It’s Valentine’s Day and you find a bottle on the beach. You rub it. A love genie appears. He (or she) will grant you three special Valentine wishes. Here are some of your choices:

Why High School Stays With Us Forever?

The 1992 class photo from Morse High School in San Diego, California. Ewen Roberts/flickr, CC BYFor better or worse, many of us never forget high school: the unrequited romantic crushes, chronic embarrassment, desperate struggles for popularity, sexual awakening, parental pressure and, above all else, competition – social, athletic, academic.

Why Good Sex Ed Doesn't Lead To Teen Pregnancy

Sex ed should be inclusive, empowering, and facilitate ethical sexual relationships. lauren rushing/Flickr, CC BY-NC-NDComprehensive, inclusive sexuality and relationships education (“sex ed”) teaches children and adolescents in age-appropriate ways that sexuality is a normal, healthy part of life.

A New Man: Archetypes for a New World

A New Man: Archetypes for a New WorldOur culture needs men who are compassionate, rational, intuitive, and judicious in their use of force. They do not traffic in fear and anger as the means to a self-serving end, promoting patriarchy and domination, but see the world as a place of competing choices where responsibilities are shared and impacts of behavior are carefully assessed.

Why Are Fewer People Getting Married?

Why Are Fewer People Getting Married?June kicks off the U.S. wedding season. Whether you love nuptials or hate them, an astounding trend is occurring: fewer couples are tying the knot.

When New Moms Are Stressed, Sex Life Takes A Hit

When New Moms Are Stressed, Sex Life Takes A HitAfter having their first baby, new parents report being only somewhat satisfied with their sex lives. The stress levels of moms—but not dads—may be a reason why.

Ready For College? Here's Why You Should Think About A Gap Year

College can increase psychological distress. Jeremy Wilburn, CC BY-NC-NDMalia Obama recently announced that she will take a gap year before attending Harvard University. Historically, American high school graduates have been less likely to take a gap year as compared to their European and Australian counterparts.

Why Birth Labor Is Such A Pain And How To Reduce It

Why Birth Labor Is Such A Pain And How To Reduce ItPain during labour and childbirth is a complex combination of physical and psychological factors. Pain comes from the uterus, cervix, pelvic joints and ligaments and, during the actual birth, from the vagina and perineum (the skin between the vagina and anus) stretching to accommodate the baby’s emerging body.

Facial Expressions Are The Key To First Impressions

Kathleen Bogart’s Disability and Social Interaction Lab presenting research about Moebius Syndrome Awareness Day. Author providedFacial expressions are important parts of how we communicate and how we develop impressions of the people around us. In “The Expression of Emotion in Man and Animals,” Charles Darwin proposed that facial expressions evolved to quickly communicate emotional states important to social survival.

How Do We Choose A Partner?

What’s inside also counts. kira cronin/Flickr, CC BY-NC-NDWe know a lot about why people choose different brands of dishwashing detergent, because companies spend billions of dollars investigating who buys what. But when it comes to the processes behind perhaps our most significant life choice – choosing a romantic partner – science knows surprisingly little.

Online Dating Has Become A Hobby, One That Is Often Not Even That Fun

Online Dating Has Become A Hobby, One That Is Often Not Even That FunThe scene described in Nancy Jo Sales’s huge Tinder report published in Vanity Fair magazine featured groups of twenty-something friends and colleagues in a Manhattan bar relaxing after work. But rather than socialising with each other they were engrossed in the more private world of their mobile phones, seeking something completely personal: a sexual partner (albeit not necessarily just for sex).

Most Turn Their Nose Up When Love Is Sold To Them

Most Turn Their Nose Up When Love Is Sold To ThemMatchmaking and dating services used to advertise in small rectangles on tube carriages, next to the vitamin drinks and food delivery services, and in smaller rectangles still on the classified pages of newspapers and magazines.

Can Being A Good Storyteller Lead To Love?

Can Being A Good Storyteller Lead To Love?Everyone loves a good story, but can a good story lead to love? Storytelling is a fundamental form of communication, and research has demonstrated the power of narratives to change minds and influence behavior.

The Good News and The Bad News

The Good News and The Bad NewsI am writing about you. You; wonderfully flawed, perfectly nutty, beautiful, broken-hearted, powerful you. Would you like to impact the planet and be a part of a positive change? Would you like to feel more at peace with yourself and be a happier human being?

Is Two Hours Of Screen Time Guideline For Kids Obsolete?

Is Two Hours Of Screen Time Guideline For Kids Obsolete?Official guidelines say kids aged five to 18 years should spend no more than two hours a day using screens, and children under two years should not use a screen at all. But in a world dominated by tablets and mobile phones, these limits are proving to be virtually impossible to uphold.

What Does Science Says About Love

What Does Science Says About LoveWe’ve all felt it at some time in our lives. Poets write about it, singers sing about it – and a whole industry has grown up around finding it, expressing it and maintaining it. But what is love? Where does it reside? What triggers it? And what’s really going on in our minds and bodies when we fall “head over heels”?

Do Women Really Go For Bad Boys?

Do Women Really Go For Bad Boys? “Nice guys finish last” is one of the most widely believed maxims of dating. Fleshed out, the idea goes something like this: heterosexual women might say they want nice characteristics in a partner, but in reality what they want is the challenge that comes with dating a “bad boy”.

Girls Still Avoid Math, Even If Mom Is A Scientist

Girls Still Avoid Math, Even If Mom Is A Scientist"Analysis revealed that girls' mathematics anxiety was not related to the level of their mothers' engagement in STEM careers, nor was it related to gender equality in the countries we studied," says David Geary.

Why Bullying Needs More Efforts To Stop It

Why Bullying Needs More Efforts To Stop ItThe tragic consequences of bullying have become a regular part of the news cycle. In April, an eighth grade girl in Missouri and a sixth grade boy in Pennsylvania committed suicide. Bullying was an important factor, according to their families.

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