If you've ever spent time at the bedside of a dying person, you may have heard her talk of seeing deceased loved ones or Angels that appear to her in dreams or in person, telling her it's time. Rose was dying of pancreatic cancer and said repeatedly that her deceased mother, father, and even a stranger showed up in dreams, telling her it was time to cross over.
She told each of them that she'd be ready to go with them soon but that she still had a few people to say goodbye to first. Rose lived another week, announcing to her family that she was ready on the morning of her death. I wonder if her Angels waited for Rose to complete her unfinished business simply because she asked.
This is a powerful example because it shows the importance of asking and carrying personal intention, even down to the end, a time when a person seems to have less power than ever. By stating her wish -- to see certain people before she transitioned -- Rose made her desire clear to the Universe.
Being Willing to Ask for the Little Things
I ask you to think about this question: do you really ask for help when you need it? If the answer is yes, do you ask for assistance with the little things in your life or only the big-ticket items? And who or what defines little versus big anyway?
My philosophy is: don't segregate the size of your needs. A need is a need. If you need help, you need help. Period.
Perhaps you carry a belief that you have to do everything on your own. I used to think that way, and it's no fun trying to be Wonder Woman. My career choice, as a computer geek and a business professional with IBM, made me all the more determined to be strong — like the boys.
Not Wanting to Appear Weak or Different?
When I started climbing the corporate ladder as a graphics designer twenty years ago at a small engineering firm, it was a male-dominated environment. But I was okay with that. Unlike most of my girlfriends, I was a natural with numbers, facts, and sales. I soon moved up to network system administrator for the second largest financial institution in Pittsburgh, where I developed computer programs, segueing into designing, architecting, implementing, and managing a US and Canadian corporate-wide network for over thirty-five thousand users.
For the past twelve years, I've been an IBM technical sales engineer and software architect. I'm a respected and trusted coach, mentor, adviser, consultant, and professional who interfaces with people from around the world. The last thing I want is to appear weak or different. Let's just say that the fact that I happen to talk to my dead sister all day isn't really something I bring up around the conference table. But that doesn't mean I don't ask for angelic support all the time — even at the office.
So go ahead and ask. You have nothing to lose by asking, and so much to gain.
Asking Is a Sign of Strength
If you don't ask for help, how can you expect to find relief?
If you're not accustomed to asking for help, perhaps you worry that it's a sign of weakness. If so, I beg of you to please stop this crazy thinking, as I have. We've all lost our minds when we think we can do this life all by ourselves. Life is too fast paced, too short, and packed with too many challenges, situations, and experiences to master it on our own. We're tribal beings meant to support one another.
Try embracing this new line of thinking I've adopted: You're being weak when you don't ask for help!
It Doesn't Hurt to Ask!
I believe our Spirit Guides or Guardian Angels take great joy in lending a hand when they can (when their support serves our higher calling or purpose). For the record, I don't think they can intervene on our behalf when doing so interferes with something we're meant to go through to help us grow. I know, bummer, right? Although we may beg and plead with Spirit to give us what we think we need or want in a particular moment, we're often grateful when we have the hindsight to know we've come through those hard lessons and can see how we've grown and what we're capable of.
But it doesn't hurt to ask. Ask away. And if your gut tells you you're asking too much, try asking only when you really need relief. No one wants to get so obsessed with asking for help in every little circumstance that they can't depend on themselves in a pinch.
But sometimes there's just no other option and you desperately need help.
This excerpt was reprinted with permission of
the publisher, Hampton Roads Publishing.
(subtitles by InnerSelf)
Closer Than You Think: The Easy Guide to Connecting with Loved Ones on the Other Side
by Deborah Heneghan.
In Closer Than You Think, Deborah Heneghan shows readers how to get back in touch with deceased loved ones and find guidance and a helping hand from their big-picture perspective in the beyond. Closer Than You Think is for anyone who has lost a loved one. Deborah provides tips, tools, strategies and stories to help the reader connect and communicate with their loved ones on the other side and remain close to them in a natural, healing way.
About the Author
Deborah Heneghan is a working mother who has been communicating with her deceased sister for over 25 years. She is the founder of Closer Than You Think, a national resource for after-death communications, grief management and learning how to live a more spiritually fulfilled life. She teaches teleseminars, holds retreats/workshops, does speaking engagements, has her own weekly radio show, and has appeared on Lifetime TV, and programs on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox. Her passion and life mission is to help others find the blessings and gifts from all of life's experiences. Visit her website at www.closerthanyouthinkthebook.com