What Fills Me With Joy

What Fills Me With Joy

For the most part, I live happily in a large life, with my energies and joys in so many areas of my personal and professional lives, yet I have worked for decades, non-stop, both through my own inner exploration and my formal academic education, to create my current inner and outer worlds.

When I was younger, I often stood in front of closed doors and felt the towering walls envelop me; I was engulfed by my limitations—low self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth. I twisted and turned myself into the child my mother needed and expected me to be, resulting in my arduous, long struggle to own my unique inner strength as a wife, mother, daughter, friend.

A gift of my passage enables me to actually view these doors, now open, as doors of growth, which might have existed all along if only I had been prepared to walk through them. Today these open doors reflect my lessons learned and self-acceptance, all hard-earned joys.

What Brings Me Joy?

Besides (and it is a big ‘besides) the amazing people and dog in my life, there is much I enjoy (in no special order):

* Dark roast coffee, especially the first sip in the morning. I close my eyes and sip, always with a smile of contentment.

* My early morning walks with Emma, my furry daughter, who looks forward to these jaunts like a child going to Disneyland.

* A good book—no, a great book, which forces me to stop reading before the end so I don’t finish it. Of course, I ultimately complete the book, but always with the same dilemma. Do I put it down and savor the fact that it’s not over or do I appreciate having completed such a valuable piece of writing?

* Watching a great series on television: Downton Abbey, The Crown, Breaking Bad, Boardwalk Empire, Mad Men, Game of Thrones. There are others, but I always feel amazing while watching and slightly forlorn when having completed the series.

* Chocolate Malt Balls from one specific candy store in the San Fernando Valley. Heaven on earth.

* Lying under a soft blanket with Emma on top of me during the ‘cold’ (60 degrees) Los Angeles nights

* Swimming my laps every day during the warm weather.

* The hugs from my 3-year old grandson with his unsolicited words, “I am so happy to see you, Nana!”

* The large smile of acknowledgment from my seven-month old granddaughter when she looks into my eyes.

* A comfortable pair of shoes. They aren’t sexy or attractive, but comfort far outweighs vanity when it comes to my feet.

* Having a granddaughter to dress in pink after three sons and a grandson.

* My office ceiling fan that blows cooler air around the room.

* My legs that allow me to walk every day.

* A bright red or pink lipstick, especially on days where a dark cloud surrounds me.

* Rereading a piece of my writing and with humility accepting that it is good.

* Finally having strong fingernails after five decades of split and broken nails.

* Hearing from a past student who conveyed to me how I positively affected his/her life.

* Having the dinner table set in the morning (carry over from watching my mother prepare for our dinner).

* Drinking ice cold water and sparkling water.

* Writing early in the morning (before my walks with Emma), when my mind is the clearest and most creative.

* Acknowledging the elements of my life such as those I have listed that provide me joy…such a simple yet important act but essential to my being.

Copyright 2017 by Barbara Jaffe. All Rights Reserved.

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About the Author

Barbara JaffeBarbara Jaffe, Ed.D. is an award-winning English professor at El Camino College, California and is a Fellow in UCLA’s Department of Education. She has offered countless workshops to students to help them find their writers’ voices through writing non-fiction. Her college has honored her by naming her Outstanding Woman of the Year and Distinguished Teacher of the Year. Visit her website at BarbaraAnnJaffe.com