How You Keep Things In Mind Over The Short Term

How You Keep Things In Mind Over The Short TermWhen you need to remember a phone number, a shopping list or a set of instructions, you rely on what psychologists and neuroscientists refer to as working memory.

The Importance of Moving From Desires Based on Fear to Those Based on Happiness

The Importance of Moving From Desires Based on Fear to Those Based on HappinessDesire and manifestation: This is clearly one of the most popular topics in the self-help and happiness literature today. The prevailing idea is that we will be really happy when all of our current desires are manifested — when we become and have everything we want.

How To Play Big and View Your Circumstances From A Paradigm of Possibility

Viewing Our Circumstances From A Paradigm of PossibilityOne of the most radical things a person can do is to see life as a good time. To make a decision to be happy. But make no mistake. Living life with joie de vivre is a revolutionary act. It takes vigilance. Few of us believe we get to choose. We think it's a matter of fate, a roll of the dice.

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult Times

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult TimesThe term demoralization was originally coined in the 1970s by a psychiatrist who was seeing patients that didn’t quite meet full criteria for major depression. Nonetheless, they were suffering – in a shared state of emotional distress and sense of incompetence.

These Two Questions Are The Final Exam of Our Life

How to Know Your Mission in Life: Asking The Near-Death QuestionsIn order to align ourselves with “God’s mission” for us, it’s helpful to know what these two questions are. The first question people report being asked when having an NDE is, What did you learn about being able to love?”  It’s probably...

How To Completely Transform The Experience Of Going Through Your Day

How To  Completely Transform The Experience Of Going Through Your DayEverything in life comes from practice. No matter how small or inconsequential we think it is, everything we do, from brushing our teeth to getting through a scary job interview, comes from prac­tice, the deliberate repetition of an action with an aware­ness of what we want to achieve. 

How The Right Smile Can Boost Trust And Giving

 How The Right Smile Can Boost Trust And GivingPeople are willing to offer more money to others who display similar emotional expressions, research finds. Those expressions are even more powerful factors than race or sex.

How Did We Lose Touch with Love?

How Did We Lose Touch with Love?In the beginning, there was perfect happiness. Sometimes this state is referred to metaphorically as the Garden of Eden, but it’s really a state of mind that’s pure bliss. No judgments, sadness, anger, or sickness existed...only love.

A Simple Exercise To Attain Clarity For Your Own Self

A Simple Exercise To Attain Clarity For Your Own SelfOne process for attaining clarity used by the Quakers is called the clearness committee. In it a person convenes a group of at least four people to ask him or her questions on an issue about which he or she wants clarity.

Why Your Feelings Are The Floorboards Of Your Existence

Your Feelings Are Your Guides: What You Feel Is ImportantHow can I tell you about the importance of feelings? It's like trying to tell you of the importance of the floorboards in your home. Most of the time we never really think about floorboards, but what if your home had none? There would be nothing to stand on. The same with feelings...

Why Emotions Are Your Guides To Your Feelings

Why Emotions Are Your Guides To Your FeelingsSome people cannot distinguish or name the emotions that they feel. In such cases, it's important to increase the emotional vocabulary and learn how varied feelings can be. An easy way to accomplish this is to use an emotional vocabulary list.

The Tyranny Of Competence: Why It Is Bad For Us To Be Good Enough

The Tyranny Of Competence: Why It Is Bad For Us To Be Good EnoughOur modern working lives are ruled by the concept of competence. Competence based interviews are used to decide if we should get a job. If we do get the job, we are then trained to achieve competency in the workplace.

What Will They Say About You When You're Gone?

Start Living The Life For Which You Want To Be RememberedIn the past twenty years, I’ve come to appreciate that my personal awakening motivates me, defines me, and guides me to lead a life of meaning and impact. Rather than expe­riencing life in a casual way, I’m driven to maximize every moment.

How to Feel at Home When You’re at Home

How to Feel at Home When You’re at HomeUnfortunately, for many of us, the condition and appearance of the place where we live make us feel uneasy instead of refreshed, resulting in relationship, career, and creative blocks. We need to feel truly at home in our living quarters and in our own bodies.

Karma and Politics: It's Time To Embrace Our Power

Karma and Politics: It's Time To Embrace Our PowerWe are finding new ways to live in the world, and new ways to relate to one another. This awakening comes at a critical time, for the old thinking that still dominates most governments, politics, and business as usual has created huge dinosaurs that are rapidly becoming extinct.

How Can You Find Your True Path of Joy?


How Do You Find the Path of Joy?There are many life-paths you can choose, just as there are many ways you can serve on a planetary level. There is a path of will, a path of struggle, and a path of joy and compassion.

How Can We Find Rest, Renewal and Delight in Our Busy Lives?

Finding Rest, Renewal & Delight in Our Busy LivesOur culture invariably supposes that action and accomplishment are better than rest, that doing something -- anything -- is better than doing nothing. Poisoned by this hypnotic belief that good things come only through unceasing determination and tireless effort, we can never truly rest.

How To Be A Champion In Your Everyday Life

How You Can Be a Champion Every DayAnyone can be a champion, whether they are Steph Curry of the Golden State Warriors, the janitor of your child’s elementary school, a grocery store clerk, a local park ranger, or the second-string quarterback on your peewee football team. It happens when one becomes...

How A Buddhist Woman Confronted Cancer

How A Buddhist Woman Confronted Cancer I began a course of chemotherapy that was supposed to last forty-eight weeks. The one still point in this turning world was the Buddhist practice I had been cultivating for fifteen years. This practice had steadied me through major crises in my life, providing a reliable base point to which to return, no matter what else was going on.

Why We Have Such A Love-hate Relationship With Work

Why We Have Such A Love-hate Relationship With Work

Shock, horror, a new study shows the British public don’t like their jobs. Using smart phones researchers mapped the happiness of people in real time, while they went about their daily lives. And they discovered that people do not report feeling very happy at work. The Conversation

Confronting Your Need To Set Yourself Free

Confronting Your Need To Set Yourself FreeTwenty-five years ago, as a young adult, circumstances felt as if they had spun out of control, and I was so emotionally frayed that everyday activities (such as washing dishes) overwhelmed me. Depression, insecurity, fear, guilt, and anger dominated my terrain.

How to Change, Let Go, and Reclaim Your Happiness

How to Change & Let GoAt first you may notice small, subtle alterations in your life and everything appearing to flow with ease. You may find that other people start to notice a difference in you. You may even find that situations that you have always hoped for turn up. Most importantly, you will notice...

True Happiness Depends On Never Compromising These Three Things

True Happiness Depends On Never Compromising These Three ThingsThe path to true happiness is not a singular paved road. Sometimes you’ll circle back to the same spot several times before you realize you’ve got to try a different route. The best way to avoid that particular brand of déja vu is to make sure you never compromise three of the most important...

Upending The Myth Of The Super Successful College Dropout

Upending The Myth Of The Super Successful College DropoutWhen Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg was asked to give this year’s commencement address at Harvard, he asked for advice from Bill Gates.

How You Can Say Good-Bye to Rejection Forever

How You Can Say Good-Bye to RejectionAt some point in our lives we all come face to face with feelings of rejection. These feelings can be brought about by many situations. Let’s examine the circumstances related to feeling rejected. First...

The Fisherman and the Business Man

The Fisherman and the Business ManThere was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish. The businessman was impressed...

How to Evolve Your Consciousness and Change The World

How to Evolve Your ConsciousnessA more evolved consciousness means new thinking, and it is the key to a new civilization, which, in turn, is the key to the well-being, and even the survival, of humankind. You can help humanity survive; you can evolve your consciousness. One way you can do this is by...

How Journal Writing Is A Way To Discover The Answers To Your Questions

How Journal Writing Is A Way To Discover The Answers To Your QuestionsWriting in a journal is a way to discover the answers to your questions, to express yourself creatively, to find the voice of your soul, to strengthen your connection with your open heart, and to face your fears and overcome obstacles. Above all, it's a way to relax and explore...

If Things Are Not Going Your Way, Play the Glad Game!

Let's Play the Glad Game!Whenever you find yourself in a difficult or uncomfortable situation, think of three things that you’re glad about even in this unpleasant moment. They can be things that you’re glad are not happening or things that you’re glad are hap­pening. Feel...

Is Your Life Filled with Drama? Are You Giving Away Your Power?

Is Your Life Filled with Drama?Dramas are the unconscious, personal, and emotional conflicts that we create with others, or with life situations. Many human beings spend much time or even their entire lives engaging in drama, for in their disempowered alienation from...

How To Unblock Your Memories & Dreams

How To Unblocked Your Memories & DreamsSome therapists will use "dream interpretation" to help a patient understand himself, but understanding will not cure symptoms. Our goal is to find blocked memories and to cry. The more you cry, the more your mind will heal itself, and when the pain is gone, the understanding will take care of itself.

It's Easy To Rediscover What Causes You Joy

Rediscovering What Causes You JoyI knew the joys were there but I'd opted out of readily seeing them. For a period of six months every time I was aware of something drawing a literal YAY out of me, I wrote down whatever it was that caused it...

Methods Of Reprograming Your Brain

Methods Of Reprograming Your BrainThere are four forces that are working in our lives; the physical body, the brain, the mind and language. The physical body is the biological robot. This biological robot is under the control of the Computer Brain.

Rejecting The Deceptive Power of the Ego

Rejecting The Deceptive Power of the EgoOur emotions are nothing more than an extension of the ego's opinions -- nothing more. For the most part, our emotions are theatrical manifestations of the ego's opinions. They are forms of manipulation. You have an opinion and you start cranking the emotion. So we live as prisoners of these opinions.

Please Help Me See This Differently

Please Help Me See This DifferentlyOne of the most helpful tools I have received from A Course in Miracles is the suggestion to seek the Holy Spirit’s help by asking this tiny question: "Please help me see this differently." The very first time I sought His help, I received instant relief from my incessant drive to control whatever had nabbed my attention.

The Many Reasons People Choose Modest Lives

The Many Reasons People Choose Modest LivesThe idea of a life lived modestly is gaining traction. Ten years ago, Samantha Weinberg, a mother of two young children, spent a year not shopping.

Chimpanzees Hunting For Honey Are Very Very Clever

Chimpanzees Hunting For Honey Are Very Very CleverChimpanzees are the closest living relatives to humans. Because of this they can offer invaluable insights into understanding the evolutionary roots of how humans developed their cognitive and technological abilities. The Conversation

Inner Peace: Do You Already Have It and Didn't Notice?

Inner Peace: Do You Already Have It and Didn't Notice?It's frustrating to believe that peace is some distant goal, attainable only by a few fortunate souls blessed with good genes, superior brain chemistry, plenty of money, or a calling as a monk. But peace has not deserted even the crankiest and busiest among us.

Learning to Smell the Daisies

Learning to Smell the DaisiesA young woman had a suitor who loved her very much. The suitor came to her door clutching a bouquet of daisies to give her. "Where are my roses?" she demanded. Her suitor turned and went away. The next week he was back on her doorstep with another bunch of daisies...

Experiencing The Triggering Of Higher Functions

Experiencing The Triggering Of Higher FunctionsWe live in interesting times. In addition to everything else going on in the Western world, there's a spiritual awakening quietly taking place, and right at its heart lies the discovery of that program within us

Learning The Art of Leading Yourself

Learning The Art of Leading Yourself Seeing life as a series of "have to's" can be destructive. In reality, we don't "have to" do anything. On the contrary, we choose to do everything.

Last Year’s Birds and This Year’s Nest

Last Year’s Birds and This Year’s NestWith the advent of the Internet and Facebook, I’ve had lots of people from my past find me and reach out to connect. Some from as far back as elementary school, high school, and college. Some of these people were my best friends at the time...

How to Build the Life You Were Designed to Live

How to Build the Life You Were Designed to LiveFailure isn't something I enjoy -- not that anyone really does -- but some of us are very hard on ourselves when it comes to failure, while some shrug their shoulders and go on.

Feather Magic: The Magic of the Universe Exists

Feather Magic: The Magic of the Universe ExistsI found myself in the world of the late eighties with a complete loss of identity and direction. My professional life was in upheaval; my personal life was a disaster. That's when my first significant experience with feathers happened.

How To Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Failure

How To Let Go of Guilt, Shame and FailureQ: You talk about guilt as a great human weakness. I was brought up in a family where I was made to feel guilty for everything, and find it difficult to transcend this deep-seated emotion. How would you suggest I banish guilt from my life...

The Real Work Can Begin When We Allow Uncertainty

The Real Work Can Begin When We Allow UncertaintyOur current political climate is volatile, scary, and uncertain. But maybe the not knowing and the confusion will finally allow us to arrive at a true beginning.

Who Is Setting The Standards For Your Happiness?

Who Is Setting The Standards For Your Happiness?Things just happen and then we judge them and react to them based on what we believe is good or bad. In other words, our reactions to events are determined by our ideas of what reality should be like in order to live up to our idea of what’s good.

6 Ways to Live an Inspired Life

6 Ways to Live an Inspired LifeMany people today are frustrated and disheartened by the divide that seems to have arisen in this country and across the globe. This discord affects everything from family relationships to the workplace, leaving people frustrated and fearful that it’s going to get worse and there’s nothing they can do about it.

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People Away

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People AwayProblematic ways of seeking support -- acting like a victim, rejecting help, getting angry at people “for not understanding,” pouting, and escalating your complaints so that they sound like reports of catastrophes -- are likely to backfire and drive people away. However, you can learn to ask for help in a reasonable way.

The Importance of Your Daydreams and Mind Wanderings

The Importance of Your Daydreams and Mind WanderingsOur attention is affected by the ultradian rhythm that alters our attention span every 90 to 120 minutes throughout the day. Mind Wandering naturally occurs at the end of this cycle, as well as after any intense cognitive task. Mind Wandering is our mind’s way of forcing us to give it a rest.

Can Training Your Working Memory Make You Smarter?

Can Training Your Working Memory Make You Smarter?

We would all like to boost our cognitive ability beyond the limits set by Mother Nature. So it’s no wonder that brain-training programmes

You Are More Than Your Story: Keeping the Ego in Its Place

You Are More Than Your Story: Keeping the Ego in Its PlaceWhat you see as your life story is only a story. It’s your experience. You are not just your story. You are more than that. You can unlearn the errors that cause you suffering and stress, and free yourself to greater life...

Discovering Our “Ugliness” through Another’s Perspective

Discovering Our “Ugliness” through Another’s PerspectiveWhen you look at yourself through another’s perspective, you gain insights not normally available. When we are able to appreciate another’s actual experience, we don’t rely on our distorted projection of their motives; we go directly to the source...

Why We're All In This Together

To Go From Hatred to Empathy, Ask: What Is It Like To Be You?
Normal is coming unhinged. For the last eight years it has been possible for most people (at least in the relatively privileged classes) to believe that society is sound, that the system, though creaky, basically works, and that the progressive deterioration of everything from ecology to economy is a temporary deviation from the evolutionary imperative of progress.

How About A Bit Of Existentialism For What Ails You

How About A Bit Of Existentialism For What Ails You

Forget about mindfulness and clean eating – at a time when we appear to be experiencing rising levels of anxiety, narcissism and unhappiness, existentialism may be the philosophy to adopt to improve your mental well-being. The Conversation

Can Video Gamers Teach Us The Best Way To Practice

 Can Video Gamers Teach Us The Best Way To PracticeWe all know that practice makes us better at things, but scientists are still trying to understand what kinds of practice work best. Data from online video games could hold the answer.

What Makes You Feel Good? A Project for One (Whole) Day

What Makes You Feel Good? A Project for One (Whole) DayThere's a fun thing you could do that would teach you a lot about yourself — a perspective to adopt for an entire day. Fun is the operative word. Take on this project with a lightness of heart, with the bemused eye of the curious scientist bent on discovery.

Have We Been Living An April's Fool Since Childhood?

Have We Been Living An April's Fool Since Childhood?Everyday is April Fools' Day...it doesn't only occur on April 1st. Many of us are living daily the greatest April fools' of all... and we are it! We have been living our lives as a lie, pretending to be someone we're not. We are living our lives as if they belonged to someone or something else.

Seeking The Truth Among Alternative Facts

Seeking The Truth Among Alternative FactsPart of what I do as an archaeologist is judge between competing claims to truth. Indeed, you could say this is the entire purpose of science.

Your Personal Journey from Cocoon to Butterfly

Your Personal Journey from Cocoon to ButterflyEvery situation in life has been an initiation—the leap forward, an activation; the reconciliation and clearing, the integration; and all of it leads to the brilliance of your illumination. Let each moment in life be an awakening to...

Why Do We Get Butterflies In Our Stomachs?

butterflies 2 20If you have ever been nervous about something that is about to happen, then you may have felt the sensations of nausea and “fluttering” – the recognisable and odd sensation deep in your gut known as having “butterflies in the stomach”.

Clearing Your Home or Office of Negative Energy

Clearing Your Home or Office of Negative EnergyEvery negative event or outburst (such as an episode of sarcasm, anger, rage, or abuse) will leave an energetic imprint in your home. If you do nothing about it, you’ll essentially be allowing negativity to accumulate in your home.

Why You Are Constantly Searching For Your Keys

Why You Are Constantly Searching For Your KeysImagine that you are searching for your house keys, and you know they could be on either of two desks.

How Authentic Are Photographic Memories?

How Authentic Are Photographic Memories?Since the invention of photography itself, people have used photograph-themed metaphors when thinking and talking about memories and remembering.

You Can Only Learn So Much Before Needing To Snooze

You Can Only Learn So Much Before Needing To SnoozeSleep recalibrates the brain’s memory cells, allowing us to solidify what we’ve learned and use it when next awake, new evidence from mice indicates.

Taming the Tiger: How to Safely Deal with Difficult Emotions

How to Cope with Difficult EmotionsMany people cope with working with difficult emotions or emotional patterns by repressing them. Emotions cause trouble or create feelings of discomfort, but now is the time to find ways to work with emotions constructively, especially those that cause the most trouble.

How Do We Remember and Why Do We Forget?

How Do We Remember and Why Do We Forget?Why do so many of us forget where we put our car keys, eyeglasses, or cellphones? How does memory actually work? How and why do we remember some things and forget others? Are they forgotten or just “misplaced”?

Understanding the Power of Healing Our Karma

Understanding the Power of Healing Our KarmaKarma is a buzzword often used to describe the idea of fate or destiny. The term has also been used to imply the pedestrian notion of payback, and for many people that’s about as deep as they give karma any thought.

We Created A Song That Makes Babies Happy

We Created A Song That Makes Babies HappyPlenty of research has looked at adults’ emotional responses to music. But research with babies is more piecemeal and eclectic, perhaps reflecting the difficulty of asking them what they like.

The Difference between Pursuing Happiness & Simply Being Happy

The Difference between Pursuing Happiness & Simply Being HappyI think the edict that Americans are entitled to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” creates a problem that goes largely unexamined in our culture. There is a significant difference between pursuing happiness and simply being happy, and many people get caught up in the pursuit...

10 Uplifting Quotes For Dark Times

10 Uplifting Quotes For Dark TimesUnfortunately, life isn’t all sunshine and daisies. Here are some great thoughts from some great people for those times when life seems more like a kerfuffle with quicksand than a day at the beach.

Let’s Be Careful What We Ask For

Let’s Be Careful What We Ask ForFor those of us interested in learning lessons about ourselves from what happens around us, there’s much to examine. For one, we might question what we were really asking for when we voted. Change, yes, but what kind of change exactly, and how?

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