The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call

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The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities
brilliant­ly disguised as impossible situations.

                     — Charles R. Swindoll, American writer and clergyman

In a very general way, you could say that there are four levels of awareness from which we engage with our daily expe­riences: drama, situation, choice, and opportunity. Understanding these four levels is a first step towards creating a world that works.

Drama lives at the surface. The drama level of engagement is the “he said, she said, then this happened, and then she said, and then he said . . .” level. It is so easy to get caught up in that level and start react­ing to the emotions of a situation or story before pausing to consider how we want to respond. Reacting can be a significant trap when we want to be sensitive to others’ needs, feelings, and circumstances. Some people and situations can easily pull you in, especially if you have an emotional stake in what is going on.

Drama Level: Who's To Blame?

At the Drama level, the focus is usually on finding someone to blame. Typical questions are, “Whose fault is this? How did this hap­pen? Can you believe he did that? What were they thinking?” Bring to mind a time when you have gotten caught in the Drama level in your personal or professional life. How did that feel? What happened to your focus and energy?

Going to the Drama level can happen to any of us; you are not alone! Yet with heightened awareness and prac­tice, you can learn to quickly drop beneath the drama and begin to perceive and understand more clearly. As you keep practicing, you get caught in the Drama level much less frequently.

Situation Level: How Do We Fix It?

As we drop below Drama, we come to the Situation level. Because we’ve looked beyond the drama, we are able to see what is going on much more clearly — what really happened or is happening. The typical question here is, “How do we fix it?”

The main focus at the level is usually damage control. How quickly can we fix the problem and get things back to “normal”? We move on and put the situation be­hind us, usually without learning from what has happened. As a result, a similar situation or challenge is likely to come up again, because the real underlying issues were never addressed.

Choice Level: What Is My Role In This Situation?

The third level, Choice, invites us into a shift in consciousness. Here we are not speaking of choices about how to fix a situation, but choice about who we will be within the situation — our relationship to what is happening. At this level, the questions are, “What is my role in how the situation came to be? What is my role in what is happening now? How do choose to engage going forward?”

This third level invites us to recognize that although we may not be able to change the circumstances or situation right away, we can at least choose who we will be within them. And that’s a huge step. Now we are claiming responsibility and choice in the matter, and we can start to create something new. The door is now open for transformation and sustainable change.

Opportunity Level: What Wants to Happen Here?

Finally, there is the fourth level, the deepest level: Opportunity. When we move to Opportu­nity, our first question becomes, “What’s the opportunity here?” or “What wants to happen?” This level is where the true power lies.

This situation has happened for a reason. It wants to tell us something — to help us clearly recognize what is not working or what wants to change or heal. In fact, there is usually a direct cor­relation between the Drama and the Opportunity levels: the bigger the drama, the greater the opportunity. The drama is a wake-up call, alerting that something wants to shift or transform.

Once we have identified the opportunity, we continue to move back and forth between the Choice and Opportunity levels. Each choice reveals more about the opportu­nity, and the deeper we go into the opportunity, the clearer our choices become. As a result, our perception of the situation starts to change, and we are able to move forward with new levels of insight and clarity.

Four Levels of Engagement

When we live in Drama and Situation, life tends to be about struggle and problem solving. We give the power to something outside of us. However, when we move to Choice and Opportunity, we take the power back. Consciously choosing who we will be in relationship to the situation empowers us to break free from struggle and create new circumstanc­es and realities.

Learning to live and work from the Choice and Opportunity levels starts with being focused and disciplined enough to step beyond the drama, and then means being courageous enough to name the op­portunity rather than just solve a problem. It starts with being bold enough to choose who you will be, what relationship you will have to circumstances you meet, and to make a habit of asking, “What’s the opportunity here?” In this way, you take the first step toward creating a world that works.

Exploration: What Is Your Default Level?

Of the four levels — Drama, Situation, Choice, and Opportunity — at which one do you live most of the time? What is your default level?

Over the next few days, pay close attention to how you respond to situations and circumstances in your life — to challenges, conflicts, and opportunities. Do you tend to get caught up in or even create drama? Do you go straight to the Situation level and look for solu­tions as quickly as possible? Or do you pause to reflect and move quickly to Choice and Opportunity? Make no judgment about what you observe. Just pay attention and see what starts to shift in your awareness simply through noticing your default reactions.

Creating a world that works begins with living at the Choice and Opportunity levels. “What wants to happen here?” becomes your mantra. From there, you keep listening on many levels of awareness, letting what wants to happen show you the way forward.

Reprinted with permission from Red Wheel/Weiser LLC. ©2011. 
Create a World That Works by Alan Seale is available
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Alan Seale, author of the article: The Drama in Our Lives -- A Wake-Up CallAlan Seale is an award-winning author, inspirational speaker, leadership and transformation coach, and the founder and director of the Center for Transformational Presence. His first book, Intuitive Living: A Sacred Path, received the prestigious Coalition of Visionary Resources Award for Best Book in Spirituality 2001. His other books include Soul Mission Life Vision (2003), The Manifestation Wheel: A Practical Process for Creating Miracles (2008), and The Power of Your Presence (2009). Alan maintains a full workshop schedule throughout North America, Scandinavia, and Europe. Truly a global coach, Alan currently serves clients from four continents who are committed to bringing extraordinary gifts to the world. Visit his website at http://www.transformationalpresence.org/

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